Sweeter After Difficulty

In this episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson reflect on their New Year’s experiences and the difference between making resolutions and cultivating real resolve. Through personal stories and candid moments, they explore the emotional weight of the holidays, the challenge of staying authentic, and the cost of avoiding honest communication.

The conversation centers on the courage it takes to express what we’re actually feeling—especially in close relationships—and how transparency creates deeper connection. As the new year begins, the hosts discuss setting intentions rooted in self-awareness rather than performa...

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In this episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, Randy Highsmith and Brett Moore explore the meaning of authenticity—both in podcasting and in life. The conversation centers on the power of genuine connection, the discipline of active listening, and the courage required to show up as one’s true self in a world that often rewards performance over presence.

Drawing from personal stories and hard-earned insights, they discuss how authenticity shapes trust, deepens conversations, and ultimately creates work that lasts. The episode also introduces their new venture, Apex Podcast Co., and the vision behi...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith and regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson reflect on the season of New Year’s resolutions and dig deeper into the distinction between surface-level intention and genuine resolve. Using experiences from jiu-jitsu training as a living metaphor, they explore how discipline, humility, and identity are forged through consistent practice rather than momentary motivation.

The conversation moves through the psychology of goal-setting, the realities faced by new students, and the humbling nature of training alongside friends and beginners alike. Along the way, the hosts touch on th...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, the hosts reflect on holiday traditions as a doorway into deeper conversations about commitment, self-discipline, and the quiet battles we wage within ourselves. They explore the idea that personal struggle can lead either to destruction or renewal, depending on the level of intention and commitment we bring to it. Through thoughtful dialogue, the conversation examines how commitment leaves clues about character, reveals what we truly value, and shapes the trajectory of personal growth. Ultimately, the hosts emphasize that transformation requires active participation—choosing engagement over avoidance and stepping fully into th...

In this episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson unpack the timeless wisdom of Epictetus: “Man is not troubled by events, but by the meaning he gives them.” Their conversation takes a deep look at how perspective shapes experience, exploring the difference between what happens to us and the stories we attach to those moments.

The hosts reflect on the power of interpretation, the value of community, and the role of vulnerability in personal growth. They examine how revisiting and reappraising past events can shift identity, unlock healing, and create momentum for chan...

In this episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, Randy Highsmith and Jordan Lopez dive into an honest, wide-ranging conversation about identity, growth, and the transformative power of challenge. Jordan traces his journey from baseball to mountain biking and eventually to Jiu Jitsu, reflecting on how each discipline shaped his mindset, resilience, and relationship with adversity. The hosts explore the deeper meaning behind quotes, how context completely changes interpretation, and the dynamics of meaningful conversation.

Jordan shares how racing pushed him physically and mentally, ultimately paving the way for his transition into Jiu Jitsu, while Randy opens up about...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith sits down with regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson to unpack the often-misunderstood concept of accountability. Together, they explore why accountability is more than correction—it’s a powerful feedback mechanism that fuels growth, strengthens relationships, and sharpens self-awareness.

The conversation digs into the discomfort many people feel around being held accountable, tracing it back to fear, pride, and the tendency to avoid difficult truths. The trio discuss how accountability, when approached with openness and intention, can transform both personal and professional relationships. They highlight the...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith with regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson unpack Albert Einstein’s powerful reminder that “in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” They explore how challenges are often less about circumstances and more about the mindset we bring to them. Through personal stories and honest reflection, they examine the subjective nature of difficulty, the role of resistance in shaping resilience, and the ways our expectations can distort or elevate our experiences.

The conversation weaves together themes of humility, preparation, and the essential support of community, highlighting how ea...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson explore the metaphor of digging holes as it relates to personal growth, self-awareness, and the complexities of human experience. They discuss the importance of recognizing when we are in a 'hole' and the need for discernment in our actions. The conversation builds into the role of commitment, the impact of power dynamics, and the significance of perspective in navigating life's challenges. Ultimately, the emphasis is placed on the value of learning from mistakes and the potential for redefining oneself at any stage of...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson deep-dive into the complexities of imagination and fear, exploring how our minds often exaggerate potential suffering. They discuss the evolutionary roots of fear, the differences between childhood and adult imagination, and the importance of managing expectations. The conversation emphasizes the need for discipline in controlling our thoughts and responses to anxiety, advocating for proactive approaches to facing fears rather than succumbing to them. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical insights, the hosts encourage listeners to embrace challenges and learn from experiences to build resilience.<...

In this episode, Join Randy Highsmith with guests Jordan Lopez and Linda Chavez as they deep-dive into a profound discussion on the transformative power of wounds and healing. Through personal stories and philosophical insights, they explore how life's challenges can illuminate new paths and foster growth. Tune in for an engaging conversation that blends humor, wisdom, and heartfelt moments.

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In this episode, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson reflect on Marcus Aurelius’ teaching that true strength comes from mastering the mind. They discuss self-awareness, emotional regulation, and the importance of holding personal principles in a world full of noise and external pressure. Through the lens of jiu-jitsu and lived experience, they explore how confidence grows from knowing oneself, responding rather than reacting, and remaining steady—like a mountain—while still open to growth.

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In this engaging conversation, Austin Cheviron shares his journey from a challenging childhood marked by family dynamics and adversity to becoming a successful entrepreneur and coach. He emphasizes the importance of family traditions, decision-making frameworks, and the lessons learned from financial struggles. Austin discusses the significance of hard work, the value of anticipating future decisions, and the mindset shift towards enjoying life over optimizing it. His insights provide a roadmap for personal growth and success, highlighting the power of resilience and authenticity.

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In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson, explore the thin line that separates success from failure, discussing how perspective, emotions, and personal experiences shape our definitions of both. They face head on the importance of communication, the role of failure in growth, and the impact of societal expectations on our goals. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical discussions, they emphasize the value of hard work over natural talent and the necessity of reevaluating our goals to foster personal growth.

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In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith, Kris Anderson, and Dave Kimmelman explore the concept of revolution, both personal and societal. They discuss the importance of awareness and perspective in facilitating change, particularly in the context of Jiu-Jitsu. The conversation dives deep into the evolution of Jiu-Jitsu as a community and its historical significance, while emphasizing the value of collecting diverse perspectives to foster understanding and growth. The episode concludes with reflections on the importance of nuance in discussions and the ongoing journey of personal development.

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In this episode, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson explore the quote by Harry Stark Sullivan: 'It's easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel yourself into a new way of acting.' The conversation delves into the relationship between action and feelings, emphasizing the importance of self-talk, personal experiences, and the dangers of letting emotions dictate actions. They discuss how social media influences perceptions and the significance of taking action for personal growth, particularly through the lens of jiu jitsu. The episode concludes with reflections on the importance of being proactive in...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith, Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson engage in a deep philosophical discussion about the nature of time. They explore various metaphors that illustrate time's essence, such as the river, tiger, and fire, and how these concepts relate to our lives and choices. The conversation deep dives into cultural perspectives on time, the impact of technology, and the importance of living intentionally. The hosts emphasize the significance of awareness in our relationship with time and the consequences of our choices, ultimately reflecting on how to honor the time we have.<...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Randy Highsmith, Kris Anderson, and Ian Johnson delve into the complex topic of suffering. They explore the nature of suffering, its various forms, and how it can lead to personal growth and resilience. The conversation emphasizes the importance of intentional suffering, self-awareness, and the power of self-talk in shaping our experiences. The hosts share personal anecdotes and insights on how scars, both physical and emotional, can serve as reminders of our strength and the lessons learned through hardship. They also discuss the impact of complaining and the value of modeling...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, Host Randy Highsmith, and regular guests Jordan Lopez, and Kris Anderson explore the multifaceted concept of balance in life. They discuss personal experiences with balance, the role of competition, and how stress can indicate imbalance. The conversation emphasizes the importance of small adjustments, consistency, and the fragility of momentum in maintaining balance. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences and strategies for finding balance in their lives.

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In this engaging conversation, Randy Highsmith interviews Russ Laggan, exploring his unique journey of self-discovery, authenticity, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of embracing one's uniqueness, the value of stillness, and the role of craftsmanship in life. Russ shares insights on leadership, branding, and the concept of being followable, emphasizing the significance of community support and the ongoing journey of personal evolution. The conversation culminates in the launch of Russ's new book and podcast “Be Followable”, centered around these themes.

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In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, host Randy Highsmith with regular guests Jordan Lopez and kris Anderson deep dive into the complex relationship between convenience, entitlement, and empathy. They explore how modern conveniences can lead to a sense of entitlement, draining empathy and creating societal divides. Through personal anecdotes, discussions on survival skills, and reflections on technology's impact, the conversation highlights the importance of hardship in fostering personal growth and resilience. The trio emphasize the need to navigate the balance between convenience and hardship, ultimately questioning the nature of rights and entitlements in today's world.

In this episode, the host Randy Highsmith and regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson explore the profound quote by Rainer Maria Rilke, 'The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things.' They delve into the meanings of defeat and failure, discussing how these concepts relate to personal growth, self-discovery, and the importance of facing challenges. The conversation touches on fear management, the role of hope, and the significance of perspective in overcoming obstacles. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical insights, the hosts emphasize the value of embracing defeat as a pathway to growth and...

In this episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, host Randy Highsmith is joined by regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson to unpack the often-overlooked difference between endurance and resilience — and why understanding that difference can transform your approach to life’s challenges.

Drawing from personal stories, jiu-jitsu lessons, and experiences in mental health and conflict resolution, the conversation explores how endurance is about pushing through discomfort, while resilience is about adapting, evolving, and coming back stronger. Together, they discuss how an over-reliance on endurance can lead to burnout, why adaptability is essential for personal growth, and how supp...

In this episode, the hosts delve into the multifaceted concept of ego, exploring its definitions, implications, and the societal perceptions surrounding it. They discuss the negative connotations often associated with ego, particularly in the context of social media, and how it can be both a driving force for personal growth and a source of insecurity. The conversation also touches on Freudian psychology, the importance of humility, and personal experiences that highlight the necessity of testing one's ego. Ultimately, the hosts emphasize the need for a balanced understanding of ego, one that recognizes competence and confidence without falling into the...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, host Randy Highsmith and guest Alyssa Specht engage in a lively conversation that spans various topics, including Alyssa's recent wilderness camping trip, her experiences with glamping, and the challenges of hiking the Notch Trail. They explore themes of personal growth, self-discovery, and the importance of facing fears, all while maintaining a humorous and light-hearted tone. The discussion culminates in reflections on the impact of experiences and the joy of living life to the fullest.

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In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, host Randy Highsmith and regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson examine the intricate relationship between habits and self-control. They explore how our habits shape our futures, the importance of consistency, and the impact of societal pressures on our choices. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-reflection, the journey of personal growth, and the necessity of developing good habits while being mindful of instant gratification. The hosts share personal anecdotes and insights, encouraging listeners to embrace the process of habit formation and to celebrate small wins along the way.

In this episode, host Randy Highsmith is joined by regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson exploring the complex nature of violence, its impact on society, and the choices individuals make regarding violence. They discuss the importance of understanding violence as part of the human condition, the role of personal responsibility in self-defense, and the implications of emotional violence. The conversation emphasizes the need for preparedness and the influence of societal norms on individual choices related to violence.takeaways

In this raw and unflinching episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, host Randy Highsmith sits down with ex-Army Ranger Justin Doyle for a conversation that pulls no punches. From the unforgiving heat of combat zones to the chilling moment he stood face-to-face with Saddam Hussein, Justin opens up about the intensity of life on the front lines.

But the real war didn’t end with his deployment. After being seriously injured in the field, Justin returned home to a different kind of battlefield — dealing with the invisible wounds of PTSD, the struggle to reintegrate into civilian life, and the...

In this episode of the Sweeter After Difficulty podcast, host Randy Highsmith, along with guests Jordan Lopez and Chris Anderson, delve into the profound impact of consistency over time. Through the lens of Jiu-Jitsu, they explore how intentional practice and time investment lead to success, both on and off the mat. Join them as they discuss the philosophical and practical aspects of consistency, time, and success, offering insights that apply to any life journey. Tune in for an engaging conversation that challenges conventional wisdom and inspires personal growth.

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Hosted by Randy Highsmith with regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson, Sweeter After Difficulty explores the hauntingly beautiful quote, “Find what you love and let it kill you.” Each episode unpacks the meaning behind obsession, passion, purpose—and the cost of giving yourself fully to what moves you. Through deep conversations and raw stories, the trio dives into the tension between love and sacrifice, ambition and burnout, joy and pain. This is not just a podcast about suffering—it’s about choosing a life that matters, even when it hurts. Because sometimes, the things worth dying for are the only o...

In this episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, host Randy Highsmith, with regular guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson, does a deep dive with MMA gym owner and father Tyler Larsen for a powerful conversation about leadership in and out of the cage. Tyler shares his journey from fighter to entrepreneur, the lessons learned through building a gym culture rooted in respect and discipline, and how fatherhood has shaped his approach to ownership and life. From the grind of starting a business to the deeper values behind every decision, this episode is all about what it takes to create something...

In this powerful and deeply inspiring episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, host Randy Highsmith sits down with Tyler Brey — a jiu jitsu black belt, competitive bodybuilder, wrestling coach, and personal trainer — who was born with spina bifida.

From the early days of childhood adversity to the triumphs of adult discipline, Tyler shares his extraordinary journey of grit, growth, and gratitude. Together, Randy and Tyler explore the philosophy that drives him, the mindset required to defy expectations, and the willpower it takes to push through limitations — both physical and mental.

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In this thought-provoking episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, host Randy Highsmith is joined by Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson to unpack the powerful quote by Carl Jung: *“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”* Together, they explore how unconscious beliefs, fears, and patterns quietly shape our choices—and how bringing them into the light can lead to deeper growth, healing, and personal power.

From real-life stories to reflective tools, this conversation dives into what it means to truly know yourself—and why doing so can change everything.

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In this powerful second episode of Sweeter After Difficulty, host Randy Highsmith is joined by guests Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson to explore the transformative impact of testing yourself. From physical trials to emotional and mental challenges, the trio dives deep into how discomfort and difficulty can forge resilience, character, and clarity of purpose. With personal stories, practical insights, and a few unexpected laughs along the way, they break down why stepping outside your comfort zone isn't just important—it's essential.

Whether you're facing a big decision, chasing a dream, or simply trying to grow, this episode wi...

In this premiere episode, Randy Highsmith sits down with Jordan Lopez and Kris Anderson, to explore the raw intersection of courage, pain, and stillness. Together, they unpack how courage is often quieter than we expect—sometimes it's simply choosing to stay, to breathe, to wait. Jordan shares how pain shapes identity, while Kris reflects on how stillness can be a battleground too.

This conversation is a powerful beginning to the Sweeter After Difficulty journey—grounded, vulnerable, and deeply human.

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