The Story Samurai
By: Cary Hokama
Language: en-us
Categories: Society, Culture, Personal, Journals
A quiet space for sovereign minds to sharpen their voice, master their message, and rise with meaning. Hosted by Cary Hokama.
Episodes
Scroll 034: Comfort Isn’t Peace
Jan 09, 2026What most people call peace
is often just the absence of friction.
In this scroll, Cary explores the quiet tension between comfort and truth — and why growth often feels uncomfortable not because something is wrong, but because you’re stepping into a version of yourself you haven’t rehearsed yet.
We talk about:
Why comfort is usually familiarity, not peaceHow being more yourself often leads to being misunderstoodThe hidden cost of staying agreeable, predictable, and safeWhat it means to stop “translating yourself” to keep others comfortableAnd why losing your edge is often the f... Duration: 00:04:46Scroll 033: The Real You Is Not Comfortable
Jan 02, 2026As the year turns, the pressure to reinvent yourself shows up again.
New goals.
New habits.
A “new you.”
But what if growth doesn’t come from adding more?
In this scroll, Cary Hokama breaks down the heart of Kaizen — not as endless self-upgrading, but as the disciplined process of removing what was never you and refining what remains.
This episode explores:
Why comfort is often mistaken for happinessHow approval-seeking quietly erodes self-trustThe danger of self-betrayal disguised as authenticityWhy real progress happens without applause<... Duration: 00:05:34Scroll 032: Finish the Year Clean
Dec 26, 2025As the year comes to a close, the pressure to do more, fix everything, and reinvent yourself can feel overwhelming.
But this scroll offers a different posture.
In Scroll 032: Finish the Year Clean, Cary explores why true preparation for the new year isn’t about productivity or momentum — it’s about resolution, integration, and letting go of what no longer belongs.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
Why finishing the year clean matters more than finishing strongHow unresolved conversations and inner loops quietly drain energyThe difference between avoidance and completionWhy peace is... Duration: 00:05:09Scroll 031: No One Is Coming to Approve Your Life
Dec 19, 2025Most people don’t stay stuck because they lack faith, talent, or opportunity.
They stay stuck because they’re waiting for permission.
In this scroll, Cary explores the difference between approval and conviction — and why waiting for validation from people, systems, timing, or even certainty itself quietly delays the life you’re meant to live.
You’ll hear why:
Approval is external, but conviction is internalWaiting often feels responsible, yet keeps us stuckCertainty rarely comes before action — clarity follows movementSovereign action is intentional, measured, and aligned — not recklessTaking action creates feedback, reca... Duration: 00:05:09Scroll 030: You're Not Trapped, You're Conditioned
Dec 12, 2025As we head into the holidays — and especially as 2026 starts coming into view — many of us feel the pressure to tighten the schedule, push harder, and grind our way into a breakthrough. But what if the next level of your life isn’t unlocked by doing more… but by doing different?
In this scroll, Cary explores why so many people stay stuck pressing against a metaphorical window, even while the open door sits just a few feet away. The truth is simple:
You’re not trapped — you’re conditioned.
Conditioned to repeat old pat...
Duration: 00:05:23Scroll 029: The Power of the Quiet Idea
Dec 05, 2025In 1974, a quiet designer named Yuko Shimizu sketched a simple white cat — no mouth, no expression, no noise.
Just purity.
Just essence.
Sanrio rejected the idea multiple times.
Dozens, depending on who you ask.
But instead of shrinking, she refined.
She returned to what was essential.
That quiet idea became Hello Kitty — a global icon now worth billions, found on more than fifty thousand products around the world.
And fifty years later… I found myself inside the Hello Kitty Café in Las Vegas, creating content for a cultural legacy that...
Duration: 00:04:48Scroll 028: Gratitude With Eyes Open
Nov 28, 2025This week’s scroll lands right at the heart of Thanksgiving — but not the curated highlight-reel version. We’re talking about gratitude with eyes open. The kind that honors the truth of our relationships, acknowledges how people change, and keeps us centered when the emotional weather shifts.
In this episode, Cary explores what it really means to practice gratitude as a warrior discipline — not by pretending everything is perfect, but by seeing clearly, staying steady, and honoring both the beauty and the reality of our connections.
We talk switched-up energy, self-awareness, and the Kaizen approach to navigatin...
Scroll 027: You Can Care Without Carrying Their Storm
Nov 21, 2025This week’s scroll was sparked by a line from my old podcast guest Rob Dial — a reminder that some people are at war with themselves… and if you’re not careful, they’ll pull you into battles you never agreed to fight.
Especially as we head into the holidays — Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s — many of us find ourselves stepping into rooms with old patterns, draining dynamics, or relatives whose energy costs more than we want to admit. This scroll is a guide for navigating that terrain with clarity and sovereignty.
In this episode, we dive into: Duration: 00:05:06
Scroll 026: The Illusion of Next
Nov 14, 2025We live in a world addicted to next.
The next app.
The next iPhone.
The next platform.
The next MacBook.
Each upgrade promises progress… but most of the time, it’s just a new layer of distraction.
We call it growth — but it’s really the hedonic treadmill dressed in new packaging.
In this scroll, Cary Hokama breaks down the myth of “next” — and how chasing constant novelty keeps us running in place.
He shares the story of a sushi apprentice who mastered the art of rice before ever touc...
Scroll 025: The Echo After the Parade
Nov 07, 2025Over 250,000 Dodger fans filled the streets of L.A., waving flags and painting their faces blue.
Fifty thousand more packed Dodger Stadium as Freddie Freeman took the mic and said,
That’s the message of this scroll — the art of celebrating without surrendering to celebration.
We’ll revisit the hedonic treadmill from Scroll 023, explore Barkhad Abdi’s story from Captain Phillips (“I’m the captain now”), and unpack how true mastery means honoring the win while staying devoted...
Scroll 024: The Noise of Advice
Oct 31, 2025Too many voices can make you forget your own.
We live in an era where everyone’s a coach, a strategist, a system.
Every scroll offers a new blueprint — every guru swears they’ve found the way.
But in the noise, we start mistaking consumption for creation…
and imitation for intuition.
In this scroll, Cary unpacks the overload of “how-to” culture through a moment from the Dodgers’ World Series run — where even great managers can lose the game by trusting data over feel.
Because mastery doesn’t multiply — it subtracts.
It cuts through...
Scroll 023: The Discipline of Direction
Oct 24, 2025In this week’s scroll, Cary Hokama unpacks The Discipline of Direction—a grounded reflection on how self-image, not speed, determines real progress.
After years of performing on stages, building wealth, earning his brown belt, and traveling twenty countries, Cary exposes the illusion of constant motion and explains the psychology behind the hedonic treadmill, first introduced by psychologists Philip Brickman and Donald Campbell in the 1970s.
You’ll learn why our nervous system normalizes both success and struggle, why “cool, what’s next?” becomes the default soundtrack of ambition, and how to break that loop th...
Duration: 00:05:46Scroll 022: The Illusion of Progress
Oct 17, 2025We confuse motion for meaning.
We confuse noise for momentum.
We confuse doing more… with becoming more.
In this scroll, Cary unpacks The Illusion of Progress — how modern creators mistake busyness for mastery, and how true Kaizen begins with deliberate subtraction.
From Toyota’s refinement to Steve Jobs’ focus through elimination, this episode reminds us that real growth isn’t louder — it’s cleaner.
Kaizen Practice of the Week:
Say no to the noise. Sharpen your yes.
Scroll 021: Mastery in Silence: How to Build a Brand That Can’t Be Ignored
Oct 10, 2025There was a time when Kanye West was just another name in the credits — a producer hidden behind bigger voices. But while the world wasn’t watching, he was sharpening his craft, mastering his sound, and building a vision that would one day make him undeniable.
In this scroll, Cary Hokama draws a powerful parallel between hidden seasons and lasting legacy. From Kanye’s rise to global icon to Cary’s own journey from solo creator to creative consultant in Las Vegas, this episode reminds us that your work becomes your brand — and your brand is the result of...
Duration: 00:06:08Scroll 020: Consistency is Sovereignty
Oct 03, 2025Anyone can start. But what happens when the spark fades? In this scroll, Cary Hokama explores the cost of quitting too soon — from NFT rug pulls to the ghosts of unfinished projects that haunt us in silence. You’ll hear the story of Sylvester Stallone at 30 years old, broke with only $106 in his account, refusing to sell out and holding the line until Rocky changed cinema forever. Cary also shares his 13-year journey to a jiu-jitsu brown belt, including three times he quit — and what it took to come back with a wiser relationship to the art.
This s...
Duration: 00:09:59Scroll 019: The Strength of Sovereign Silence
Sep 26, 2025The world feels louder every week — voices demanding sides, stances, and statements. But silence doesn’t always mean weakness. Sometimes silence is sovereignty.
In this scroll, Cary Hokama unpacks the power of sovereign silence through Jimmy Kimmel’s six-day suspension after his joke about Charlie Kirk’s assassination — and how his return pulled in over 6 million broadcast viewers, the highest in more than a decade.
We’ll talk about why staying silent isn’t hiding, how your results can speak louder than arguments, and what it means to sharpen your craft instead of reacting to every noise ar...
Duration: 00:04:46Scroll 018: Invisible Victories: The Battles That Shape Sovereignty
Sep 19, 2025Most people chase crowns that can be stolen, applause that fades, and recognition that rarely satisfies. But the victories that matter most are often the ones no one sees.
In this scroll, Cary Hokama — creative entrepreneur, storyteller, and student of self-mastery — takes you inside the hidden battles that forge true sovereignty. From King George VI in The King’s Speech, to Emily Blunt overcoming a childhood stutter, to the quiet practice sessions that built Cary’s own voice, you’ll see how invisible victories become the unshakable roots beneath visible success.
We’ll explore:
Why invisibl... Duration: 00:07:44Scroll 017: The Power of Your Environment
Sep 12, 2025Your environment is never neutral. It will either forge you or consume you.
In this scroll, we explore the sobering contrasts of Sean Kingston and his mother, Roy Jones Jr. and Park Si-Hun, and the recent passing of Charlie Kirk. We reflect on the question my friend Shun posed about the Patterns of Success, and we revisit the wisdom Dr. Benjamin Hardy shared on my podcast about how willpower is weak, but context is strong.
This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a dojo for the soul. And if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re i...
Duration: 00:09:28Scroll 016: The Samurai Sponge: Rewrite Your Story
Sep 05, 2025In Scroll 016, Cary Hokama shares the Samurai Sponge—a way to break free from stuck stories and rewrite your path with clarity, mastery, and meaning. From fungi’s “Wood Wide Web” to Erwan Le Corre’s MovNat to Jeff Hoffman’s InfoSponging, this scroll is about sponging wisdom from every corner of life and weaving it into your sovereign path. Plus, Cary gives a Kaizen Drill you can apply tonight to practice the Samurai Sponge in your own life.
Duration: 00:09:29Scroll 015: The Mission Chooses You
Aug 29, 2025What if the mission you’re meant to live doesn’t come from you — but chooses you?
In this scroll, we walk through stories of Anthony Kim, Nelson Mandela, J.K. Rowling, and my own journey through exile. Each one shows us how the hardest seasons — the ones we never asked for — forge clarity and purpose.
You’ll also hear the 3 Samurai principles that can help you recognize your mission, accept the cost, and carry it forward when life calls you into the unknown.
This isn’t about hype. It’s about the discipline of Ka...
Duration: 00:10:35Scroll 014: Your Future Self is Watching
Aug 22, 2025Your 20-year-old self? He wouldn’t have listened anyway.
The real question is — what would you tell your future self?
In this scroll, we cut through the tired copycat questions and talk about why your future self should be the one you’re training for. I share stories from the dojo with my jiu-jitsu brother Sam, the rise and fall of PGA prodigy Anthony Kim, and how small daily katas sharpen the blade in the shadows.
You’ll walk away with a 3-step framework for living sovereign today — so your future self doesn’t feel betrayed...
Duration: 00:09:00Scroll 013: The Stillness After the Mask Falls
Aug 15, 2025What happens after the mask comes off?
Not the freedom. Not the applause.
The stillness.
That uncomfortable silence we’re conditioned to escape.
In this scroll, we talk about what most people avoid—
the void that follows the performance.
From a monk’s lesson on peace, to a forgotten Karate Kid parable, this episode is an invitation to do what few ever choose:
Sit.
Breathe.
And listen—until the truth reveals itself.
Because that’s where your story begins.
🎧 Scroll 012 recap included.
🎯 Practi...
Scroll 012: The Quiet Cost of Wearing the Mask
Aug 08, 2025What happens when the version of you the world loves… isn’t really you?
In this scroll, we explore the quiet cost of wearing a mask—the one you built to fit in, to be liked, to survive.
Cary shares stories from his own journey as a frontman, trainer, host, and leader… and the silent weight that came with performing.
If you're ready to return to yourself and live without the need to be liked, this scroll is your next step.
🎧 Kaizen move inside.
Until next time Kaizenites… be steady, live...
Duration: 00:05:20Scroll 011: The Cost of Not Being Fully You
Aug 01, 2025There’s a silent burnout few talk about—
Not from doing too much,
but from being too little of yourself.
In Scroll 011 of The Story Samurai, we explore the hidden toll of underexpression:
The cost of saying “yes” when your soul says “no.”
Of playing agreeable when you were built to disrupt.
Of dimming your truth to avoid being disliked.
Cary shares a deeply personal coaching story…
We break down lessons from Musashi, Marcus Aurelius, and Maxwell Maltz…
And we zoom out with cinematic contrasts between Dave Chappelle and Keanu...
Scroll 010: What Comes Back to You When You Stay the Course
Jul 25, 2025After two weeks exploring Singapore, Bali, and Japan, something unexpected happened in the final hours of our trip.
I walked back into a small gyoza shop in Sapporo—one I had visited nine years earlier—and the owners remembered me.
Not just my face. My name. My review. My impact.
This episode isn’t just about travel—it’s about what happens when you keep walking the path, even when no one’s watching.
Because the truth is:
What comes back to you when you stay the course… might just change eve...
Scroll 009: The Courage to Stand Alone
Jul 18, 2025This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a dojo for the soul.
We’re not here to ship content.
We’re here to shape culture.”
In this Scroll, Cary Hokama breaks down what it really means to walk in sovereignty—even if it means being disliked.
Pulling from the book The Courage to Be Disliked, this episode challenges people-pleasing, cultural conformity, and the illusion of approval. You’ll hear reflections on childhood moments, peer pressure, and the personal stories that forged Cary’s resolve to never again seek permission to be powerful.
A...
Duration: 00:08:10Scroll 008: The Story You Tell Yourself Is the One You Live
Jul 11, 2025In this scroll, Cary Hokama weaves together real stories of transformation—from a client who rewrote his identity, to Dave Mustaine of Megadeth, who sold over 50 million albums but still felt like a failure after being kicked out of Metallica.
We break down the game-changing insights of Maxwell Maltz (Psycho-Cybernetics) and show you why performance can’t outpace perception.
It’s time to Kaizen your self-image—not just your skill set.
Kaizenite Practice: This Week’s 4 Moves
– Rewrite Your Inner Nickname
– Rehearse Your Future You
– Move With Quiet Swagger
– S...
Scroll 007: The Infinite Path — Why Kaizen Is Devotion, Not Just Discipline
Jul 04, 2025In a world that’s more divided than ever, what does it mean to walk the infinite path? In this scroll, Cary shares how the principle of Kaizen—rooted in refinement, not perfection—can help us reclaim our personal sovereignty. Featuring stories from Toyota’s legendary work ethic to 99-year-old sushi master Jiro Ono, this July 4th message is a call to rise above the noise and choose progress with purpose.
Duration: 00:04:27Scroll 006: You’re Not Here to Be Liked. You’re Here to Be Aligned.
Jun 27, 2025In a world addicted to validation, performance, and praise—this scroll is your wake-up call.
Cary Hokama, host of The Story Samurai, dives deep into the soul-tugging tension between being liked and being aligned. From Jim Carrey’s quiet awakening to the wisdom of the Stoics and the lessons found in a chance encounter with actress Kelly Hu, this scroll reminds us that meaning > applause—and that sovereignty is the only path worth walking.
Expect stories. Insight. And that gut-punch of truth you didn’t know you needed.
“The world doesn’t care as much... Duration: 00:06:13Scroll 005: The Hidden Power of Abundance (When the World Plays Small)
Jun 20, 2025What do MrBeast, In-N-Out, and a homeless man on YouTube have in common?
They all teach us something radical about generosity.
In this scroll, we cut through the fear-driven noise of today’s world—and show you how to anchor yourself in Kaizen... the quiet, intentional pursuit of mastery. When everyone else hoards, we give. When others panic, we practice.
You’ll learn:
How MrBeast’s success is fueled by radical reinvestmentWhy In-N-Out’s slow growth model built an empireWhat homeless generosity reveals about real abundance4 ways to walk the Kaizenite path starting t... Duration: 00:06:59Scroll 004: The Forge
Jun 18, 2025There’s a place where pressure becomes power.
Where the quiet ones sharpen in the dark before they ever make a sound.
That place is The Forge.
In this scroll, Cary breaks down what it really means to be refined by fire—not just inspired, but rebuilt. You’ll hear the legend of Kobe Bryant, the journey of a quiet creative restarting in a new city, and how every setback carves the blade a little sharper.
This isn’t about going viral. It’s about going deep.
Because the Story Samur...
Scroll 003: Not the Storm—The Eye
Jun 16, 2025In this Scroll, we go deeper than motivation—we move into the storm.
Because the world will spin. It always does.
But you? You don’t have to spiral with it.
From Michael Jordan’s flu game to a quiet train operator in Japan…
From global chaos to Simone Biles choosing peace over performance…
This is a meditation on what it truly means to move from your center.
To be sovereign is not to be silent.
It’s to respond, not react.
To hold the line when the world’s tryi...
Scroll 002: Stand Steady During Unsteady Times
Jun 13, 2025In this second scroll, Cary Hokama explores the power of stillness in a chaotic world—drawing lessons from jiu-jitsu, breathwork, and a recent retreat in Southern Utah.
If you’re an introverted creator trying to stay grounded while the world spins loud, this one’s for you.
💭 Featuring a practical breathing ritual, a reflection on composure under pressure, and a reminder that stillness is not retreat—it’s sovereign strength.
🎧 Listen and share this scroll with a fellow quiet rebel.
Duration: 00:05:41Scroll 001: The Path Begins with a Question
Jun 12, 2025In this opening scroll of The Story Samurai, Cary Hokama returns to the mic with deeper clarity, conviction, and calm. After years of speaking on stages, coaching high-level creatives, and hosting a podcast that reached thousands—Cary hit pause during the pandemic. What emerged from the silence was not a rebrand… but a rebirth.
In this intimate first episode, he shares why The Story Samurai exists, who it's for, and why reclaiming your narrative is no longer optional—it’s essential.
This scroll is for creators, quiet leaders, and purpose-driven men who feel the ache of perfo...
Duration: 00:03:33