Shmiras Halashon Daily

Strength in Silence

Refusing to speak Rechilus when pressured—by friends, family, or superiors—is a kiddush Hashem. Resisting gossip protects both the victim and the listener.

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Pressure Is No Excuse

Even under threat of job loss or embarrassment, one may not speak Rechilus. Losing money is better than losing integrity—speech has eternal weight.

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When They “Already Know”

Even if the listener knows part of the story, adding details or confirming gossip is still Rechilus. Curiosity is no heter—silence preserves dignity.

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True Words, False Peace

Even true information can be Rechilus if it breeds resentment. Whether uniting enemies or dividing friends, truth used wrongly destroys relationships.

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Unintended Hatred

Even without intending harm, quoting someone to prove your point can cause hatred. Rechilus isn’t only in malice—it’s in careless speech that divides friends.

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The Essence of Rechilus

Transferring one person’s words or deeds to another—even truthfully—creates resentment. Rechilus destroys peace and was among the sins that caused the Churban HaBayis.

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The Tragedy of Doeg Ha’adomi

Doeg’s Rechilus against Ahimelech led to the massacre of Nov, the city of Kohanim. A single tale of gossip can bring destruction beyond imagination.

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Beginning Hilchos Rechilus

The Chafetz Chaim introduces Rechilus—revealing what one person said about another—as a severe aveira linked to bloodshed. It destroys lives, families, and communities.

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Silence or Truth?

If asked “who did it,” one may only say “not me” when it’s truly a wrongdoing—and never name another. Higher souls accept blame to preserve peace.

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Revenge Is Not Toeles

Retaliating because someone spoke against you is never allowed. Even believing the rumor is rechilus. True toeles uplifts—it never mirrors the sin it condemns.

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Think Before You Speak

Before speaking Lashon Hara, pause. Review every halachic condition, examine your motives, and remember: words can heal—or destroy—depending on your care.

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Purity of Purpose

Toeles depends entirely on intention. If not done l’shem shamayim, even truth becomes sin. Avoid unnecessary detail and never cause more harm than Beis Din would.

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Accuracy Defines Toeles

Speaking l’toeles demands perfect accuracy—no exaggeration, no omissions, and no twisting of tone. Every word must be true, or the mitzvah turns into an aveira.

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See, But Understand First

Even when witnessing wrongdoing, one must know halacha before judging. Misinterpreting actions without clarity turns truth into motzi shem ra—a lie in the guise of zeal.

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Reviewing the Seven Rules

The Chafetz Chaim repeats the seven conditions of toeles—a reminder that emotion must never overrule halacha, and speech must remain carefully measured and pure.

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Toeles for the Future

Even when past harm can’t be undone, preventing future embarrassment or loss is valid toeles—if shared only with those who can responsibly bring change.

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Don’t Condemn Communities

Speaking badly about individuals is grave—but condemning entire groups or towns is far worse. Every Jew deserves dan l’kaf zechus—and humility before Hashem’s plan.

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Pure Intentions, Not Payback

Even justified speech becomes forbidden when driven by hurt or revenge. Toeles demands sincerity—never satisfaction in another’s downfall.

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Between Man and God

Lashon Hara l’toeles about personal aveiros is far more limited. Only repeated, deliberate public sin justifies speech—and even then, only under strict halachic caution.

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The Truthful Exception

An Ish Emes—a person known for integrity—need not speak before three when rebuking l’toeles. His proven honesty carries its own credibility within halachic boundaries.

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When Silence Is Safer

If speaking l’toeles could provoke revenge from a powerful wrongdoer, one may speak privately to the right authority instead of publicly before three. Halacha values safety and wisdom.

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Listening Without Accepting

Even if words seem true, never believe Lashon Hara outright. Listen only to investigate and help—never to judge or internalize. Objective restraint protects truth and peace.

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Speaking Before Three

When giving tochacha won’t help, Lashon Hara l’toeles must be said publicly—before three people—to show honesty, not slander. Truth and transparency guard against hidden motives.

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Preempting the Baal Lashon Hara

When silencing a habitual gossip protects others from harm, it may be a mitzvah—even if the victim doesn’t yet know. Intent and method define whether it’s truly toeles.

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Preemptive Lashon Hara?

You may warn others about a habitual speaker—if the victim already knows. Otherwise, you risk causing rechilus by revealing it.

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Don't Let Emotion Skew Halacha

Lashon Hara spoken out of personal rage—even for a relative—violates the rules of toeles. Closeness requires more caution, not less.

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Not Everyone Needs to Know

If the victim doesn’t yet know what happened, revealing it may be rechilus. Also, don’t speak to those who won’t care to change.

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Protecting Others Is Also Toeles

Even if you can’t undo past damage, warning others—so they avoid harm or bad influences—is valid toeles, if all other rules are kept.

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Even if you act with permission now, becoming guilty of the same aveira later reveals your motives weren’t truly l’shem Shamayim.

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No Room for Hypocrisy

You may not speak toeles if you’re guilty of the same aveira. Fix yourself first—then you can care about someone else’s growth.

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Don’t Destroy More Than You Fix

The seventh rule warns: if your words will cause greater damage than the Beis Din would, it’s not toeles—it’s harm, and it’s assur.

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Only If There’s No Other Way

If you can fix the issue another way, don’t speak Lashon Hara. The sixth rule of toeles requires minimizing harm wherever possible.

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Stick to the Facts

You may not exaggerate. The fourth and fifth rules require accuracy and sincere kavana l’toeles—not revenge, drama, or self-righteousness.

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First, Talk to Them

The third rule of toeles: try giving tochacha first. Lashon Hara isn’t permitted if direct, caring conversation can correct the problem.

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Looks Can Be Deceiving

Even eyewitness accounts can mislead. The second rule of toeles reminds us: interpret with care before assuming an aveira occurred.

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Don’t Act on Rumors

The first rule of toeles requires firsthand knowledge. Lashon Hara is only permitted if you saw it yourself or fully verified its truth.

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When Lashon Hara Helps

If speaking will help a victim recover stolen money or damages, it may be l’toeles. But halacha requires strict conditions—good intent alone isn’t enough.

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Secrets Deserve Silence

Even without the words “don’t tell,” private matters must remain private. Repeating secrets—harmless or not—is a violation of trust and halacha.

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Teach Children Early

Children copy what they see. If parents reject Lashon Hara clearly and consistently, kids absorb that as the norm—and carry it for life.

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Trapped? Don’t Be Mekabel

If you can’t speak up or leave, protect yourself: block out the Lashon Hara or focus elsewhere. But never accept it in your heart.

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Speak Up or Walk Away

If rebuke fails, distance yourself from those who harm with words. And when stuck in Lashon Hara situations, steer the conversation away—subtly but firmly.

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Avoid Lashon Hara Zones

Living near or sitting beside habitual speakers of Lashon Hara is assur. Protect your soul—your spiritual health must come first.

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Praise Can Attract Trouble

Highlighting someone’s generosity can lead to unfair pressure, jealousy, or harm. Even praise, when misunderstood, may turn into Avak Lashon Hara.

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Public Praise Needs Caution

Praising someone in front of a crowd is risky—unless he’s universally respected or unknown to the audience. Otherwise, criticism often follows.

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Too Much Praise Is Dangerous

Even sincere compliments can invite criticism. Avoid excessive praise in public—people may feel the need to “balance” the conversation with damaging words.

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When Praise Becomes Harm

Implying something negative or praising someone in front of enemies often triggers Lashon Hara. If there's any risk of backlash, don’t say it—even if it sounds positive.

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The Subtle Danger of Avak

Avak Lashon Hara—the “dust” of gossip—can seem harmless but causes real damage. It’s subtle, common, and easily overlooked. Awareness is the first defense.

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Rebuke with Respect

Even adult children must show kavod when correcting parents. Suggest gently, avoid confrontation, and model values quietly when necessary.

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Teach By Example

Parents must model that Lashon Hara is unacceptable. Even when choshesh, never accept harmful words as truth—and speak up gently when necessary.

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Would You Accept This About You?

Unless someone is a public rasha, we may not accept Lashon Hara—about neighbors, friends, or even enemies. Respect others as you’d want to be respected.

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Sharp Insults Aren’t Smart

Using clever or sarcastic remarks to gain approval at another’s expense is Lashon Hara, leitzanus, and ona’as devarim. Torah has no room for “funny and cruel.”

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The Sin of Informing

Reporting a fellow Jew to authorities—even with true information—falls under malshinus, one of the gravest aveiros. Always consult a Rav before taking such steps.

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Don’t Speak to Non-Jews

Lashon Hara to a non-Jew can damage far more than just reputations. It harms communities, violates halacha, and desecrates Hashem’s name.

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Tochacha or Talk?

If you’re truly seeking tochacha, why not give it yourself? Don’t use others as messengers unless they’re better suited—with care and humility.

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Not an Excuse for Gossip

Even when warning family, you must stay focused on protection—not storytelling. Spreading general neighborhood gossip under the guise of “toeles” is still Lashon Hara.

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Protecting Your Family from Harm

You may speak with family to warn them of dangerous influences—but only to protect, not to shame. Avoid exaggeration and don’t present rumor as fact.

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Speaking About the Deceased

Lashon Hara remains assur even after death. Slandering a niftar, especially a talmid chacham or his Torah, incurs serious consequences, including nidui.

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No Shortcut to Shalom

Even when speaking Lashon Hara seems to help end conflict, it’s only permitted as a last resort—with firsthand knowledge and no alternative path to peace.

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When Fighting Justifies Speech

Lashon Hara about a ba’al machlokes may be allowed to prevent damage—but only with clear intent, clarity on who is at fault, and pure motives.

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Known Reshaim, Not Suspicions

If someone publicly violates severe aveiros with no excuse, Lashon Hara may be allowed. But misuse of this heter is dangerous and deeply discouraged.

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Certainty Required for Apikorsus

Even when halacha permits Lashon Hara about an Apikores, it must be based on firsthand knowledge or overwhelming communal consensus—not rumors or assumptions.

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Outside the Boundary of Am Yisrael

The halachos of Lashon Hara don’t apply to someone who openly rejects Torah fundamentals. But one must be 100% sure before applying this grave label.

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Respecting Torah’s Representatives

Speaking Lashon Hara about a talmid chacham is not just personal—it’s an affront to Torah itself. Disrespecting leaders can unravel entire communities.

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Lashon Hara About Children

Criticizing children—especially when not your own—can deeply harm them. Even when rebuke is needed, speak only with care, truth, and clear toeles.

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Venting About a Spouse

Speaking negatively about a spouse to family can destroy multiple relationships. Unless it's for true toeles, even venting can cross the line into Lashon Hara.

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No Excuses for Family Gossip

Lashon Hara remains assur even when spoken about close relatives. Love doesn’t justify gossip—true care means speaking directly, not behind someone’s back.

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Don’t Act on Accusation Alone

Even community leaders must not act on mere suspicion or one-sided claims. Halacha demands real evidence—not emotion or instinct—before taking serious steps.

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Can Beis Din Rely on Hints?

In rare cases, Beis Din may act on devarim hanikarim, but only after thorough investigation. Regular individuals should never rely on such signs to take action.

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Believing ≠ Acting

Even when belief is halachically permitted, you may not spread the information, shame the person, or cause financial harm. Caution does not equal permission to harm.

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Clear Evidence or Just Suspicion?

Devarim hanikarim must be unmistakable, direct, and witnessed yourself. Vague impressions or secondhand reports are not enough to justify belief.

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Signs That Confirm a Story

If you see external behavior—devarim hanikarim—that seems to confirm Lashon Hara, belief is only allowed when judgment l’kaf zechus is impossible.

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Lashon Hara Told Casually

If someone mentions Lashon Hara lefitumo—incidentally during another story—it still cannot be believed. Even unintentional slander isn’t grounds for judgment or harm.

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Belief Doesn’t Mean Broadcast

Even if you're allowed to believe someone sinned—when all strict halachic conditions are met—you still may not publicize it. Distancing is allowed; gossip is not.

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You’re Causing Him to Sin

Showing interest in Lashon Hara causes the speaker to sin more—and violates lifnei iver. Even silent curiosity encourages spiritual harm.

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When a Rav May Believe

A Rav may believe trustworthy testimony about a known aveirah, but not personal criticisms or family gossip. Even credibility has limits in Lashon Hara.

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Can You Trust the Trustworthy?

Even someone famously honest cannot be believed if they speak Lashon Hara—unless you are a Rav with halachic responsibility and strict conditions are met.

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He Admits It—Together With Someone Else

If someone confesses to an aveira and implicates another person in the same sentence, you're only allowed to believe what he says about himself—not the other. Even shared guilt doesn’t justify belief in Lashon Hara.

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Exceptions for Known Resha’im

Lashon Hara may only be believed about someone who is a known public rasha—but only after confirmed facts establish their status beyond doubt.

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Don't Trust the Rumors

Even repeated, vague rumors carry no weight in halacha. In a world of fake news and viral lies, we must be even more vigilant before believing anything harmful.

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Two Witnesses? Still Lashon Hara

Even if two people testify to the same claim, if it’s not in Beis Din, it’s still Lashon Hara. Reputation and halacha—not hearsay—define credibility.

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Even the Rav Stayed Silent

A Rav once overheard Lashon Hara about himself—and said nothing. Shock, humility, or calculation might silence a victim, but it’s no license to believe gossip.

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Azus Isn’t Proof

When someone confidently slanders another—even in front of them—it doesn’t mean it’s true. Silence from the victim isn’t admission; never confuse chutzpah with credibility.

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Public Doesn’t Mean Proven

Even if Lashon Hara is widely publicized or shared online, you still may not believe it. Truth isn’t determined by volume or visibility—only by proper investigation.

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Undoing the Damage of Belief

If you already accepted Lashon Hara, do teshuva—reject it in your heart, reflect on alternate explanations, and work to uproot belief from within.

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The Danger of Hurting the Needy

Even if you suspect a collector is dishonest, halacha demands continued support until proper investigation. Rumors don’t cancel chezkas oni.

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Caution Without Harm

Being choyshesh doesn’t permit harming the person—no insults, no withholding owed money, and no public shaming. It’s for self-protection only.

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Fifty Rumors Don’t Equal Fact

Widespread rumors—even from many people—don’t justify labeling someone a rasha. Only Beis Din can establish such a verdict.

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Be Wary, Not Certain

When Lashon Hara affects your safety or future, you may be choyshesh—cautious—but not mekabel. Protection is allowed; judgment is not.

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The Past Is Off Limits

Lashon Hara about someone’s past or ancestors—no matter how true—is still forbidden. Teshuva demands respect for who a person is now.

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Disagreement Doesn’t Permit Disrespect

Even after verifying an error in Beis Din, you may not slander its members. Corrective steps must follow halacha—not public humiliation.

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Doubting a Din Is Not a Heter

Even if a Dayan’s ruling seems mistaken, degrading Talmidei Chachamim is never justified. Respect demands restraint, even when questioning halachic outcomes.

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Respecting Torah Authority

Speaking negatively about Dayanim—even if you think they ruled wrongly—is forbidden. We must trust that Hashem ensures justice, and always be dan Talmidei Chachamim l’kaf zechus.

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Judge Favorably, Even If True

Even if a story is factually accurate, we must still be dan l’kaf zechus. Context matters—and assuming the worst violates a mitzvas asei of the Torah.

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Don't Sit With Them

Choosing to sit with known gossipers makes you part of their aveirah, even if you stay silent. The Torah warns us: avoid the company of scoffers.

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Three Tools for Resistance

Reject the words in your heart, feel regret about hearing them, and avoid showing any approval. Even a frown can send a message—and protect your neshamah.

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When You’re Caught in It

If you’re surrounded by people speaking Lashon Hara, discreetly showing disapproval or mentally rejecting the words can still count as spiritual resistance—even without speech.

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Group Dynamics and Strategy

When facing a group with a dominant speaker of Lashon Hara, sometimes the best move is to wait and later correct the others—quietly, thoughtfully, and without confrontation.

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Can You Handle the Truth?

Even when permitted to listen, you must be confident you won’t accept what you hear. If you know you’ll believe it, even a justified listening becomes assur.

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Listening to Make Peace

If your sincere goal is shalom, listening to Lashon Hara may be allowed—if you actively seek to defend the subject or calm the speaker. Intention makes all the difference.

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Protecting Others Without Accepting

You may listen to Lashon Hara to protect someone else, but vague excuses like “maybe one day I’ll need it” are not a heter. Every word must have real purpose.

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