Be Real with JoDee

What if you didn’t have to hate yourself into becoming better?

So many of us think that shaming ourselves, replaying past mistakes, or calling ourselves lazy or a procrastinator will finally motivate us. But it doesn’t. It just keeps us stuck and feeling embarrassed, discouraged.  

In this episode, we talk about why your past choices don’t define you, why self-criticism doesn’t create growth, and how compassion actually moves you forward. You’ll learn how to stop reliving who you used to be and start asking a more powerful question:

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Finals week hits and suddenly your brain is yelling, “I’m stressed, I’m overwhelmed, I have too much to do!”

And then… you don’t actually do anything.

In this episode, I break down why telling yourself you’re stressed actually makes finals harder, not easier and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling, calm your nervous system, and still show up and do your best without burning out.

We’ll talk about:

•Why “I’m so stressed” keeps you stuck

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In this episode ai break down what I actually did this week feeling bad about not completing my goals.  We also dive into a trick we used this week in coaching for when someone doesn’t like you.   

What if you’re only one thought away from feeling confident today? 

In this episode I tell you a story about a client that chose a thought intentionally and watched her whole school life change!

Your brain believes what you teach it. Let’s train it to see your strength, your potential, and who you’re becoming — not just your fears.

In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we talk about what to do when you’re not getting the validation you want from your coach, your teammates, or anyone else.

If you’ve ever walked off the field wishing someone would say “good job” — and instead heard only what you did wrong — this episode is for you. JoDee shares a story from a recent coaching session with a teen athlete who was tired of feeling disappointed after every game, and how learning to “let the coach off the hook” changed everything.

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How to feel better without changing anyone!!!

Fall break sounds awesome until you are sitting sound brain rotting in your phone and feeling bad about your life.  In this episode we break down what is actually going on in your brain and how you can feel better!

How can you finally get motivated to clean your room or finish your paper or anything else in your life?  Starting is the hardest part and I’m going to give you the best back to get started!  

We spend so much time preparing for the worst and what ends up happening it we make it even more likely the worst will happen!  Listen today to find out how optimism could change your entire life!

Fighting with friends is the worst but what if you don’t have to match the negative defensive energy?  Find out how to feel calm no matter what your friends are doing.  

It’s hard because you know you shouldn’t worry but you cant help it!  In this episode we give you real tips to use in the moment you are worrying!

Do you wish you could be friends with people but don’t think they accept you?  If so you are in the right place because that’s exactly what we are diving into in this episode!

growth is expensive just like the movies but instead of paying $12… you pay with discomfort. 

School isn’t about being smart or dumb,  it’s about knowing how you learn best. In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re breaking the myth that some people are just naturally good at school and others aren’t. You’ll learn how to figure out your learning style, use simple brain-coaching tools to crush negative thoughts, and find strategies that make studying actually work for you. This year, it’s not about working harder, it’s about working smarter… your way.

People tell you all the time “you have to believe in yourself!”  If you are like me you are thinking “ya I want to but HOW do I do it?”  We are going to go through the HOW in this episode and you are going to change your whole life once you learn that belief is a decision you can just make.  Spoiler alert….  You even get a permission slip!

In this episode, I share a real coaching moment with a teen gymnast who felt overwhelmed by anxiety during her events. Instead of trying to shove anxiety away, we gave it a name, Barb! She has a new role: riding in the backseat, not driving the car. If your anxiety is bossing you around, this episode will help you see it differently, take back the wheel, and show up with confidence, even when Barb tags along.

Want more friends but not sure how to make it happen? You’re not alone. In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’ll talk about a game-changing mindset: what if you started looking for what’s cool about every person you meet? When you learn to genuinely like people, something surprising happens—they start liking you back. You’ll discover how to stop overthinking, connect more easily, and build real friendships without changing who you are. Let’s ditch the pressure and start making friends the real way….by being real, being kind, and seeing the good in others.

Fitting in is hard and it’s also a made up thing.  

In this episode we find out how we can we can start being ourselves everywhere we go instead of trying to be someone we are not.   

You don’t need to cheerlead yourself out of pain. Sometimes just saying “yeah, this is hard” is exactly what your brain needs to hear.

Check out this episode where we stop feeling bad for feeling bad and give ourself a minute to feel however we do.  

Then we will learn a powerful question that will empower us to move forward instead of staying stuck!

Stop telling yourself to be more positive or grateful or whatever…. Feeling negative is normal and you aren’t bad for having these thoughts.  

In this episode you will find out what to do instead of shaming yourself that will actually unlock some real leverage over your thoughts and help you create the life you want!

There is no worse feeling than when you feel left out but what if there is a way you could feel better without anyone else changing?  

In this episode we will break down how you can break free from that feeling and not leave yourself out even more by feeling bad about yourself.  

Real tools to help you in the moment!  Check it out!

Real tools to help you take back your power and have the best summer ever!

If you feel sorry for yourself welcome to being a human!  You are normal.  It’s also exacting and can make you feel stuck.  If you want to feel better without changing anyone check out this episode where we give you a life changing tool that can help you take back your power!

Do you try your best to help your teens with anxiety and sometimes make it worse?  I totally get it!  In this episode you will learn how to help yourself and your teens!

Is fear holding you back?  Are there things you want to do or try but you tell yourself you are just too scared to do it?  If so that is NORMAL!!  There is nothing wrong with you but what if you could learn some tools to move through the fear and take action on the things you want to do?  In this episode you will learn what to do when you get that feeling and how to go accomplish your goals!  

You might think you’re being humble when you put yourself down but what if that’s actually just ego in disguise? In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between humility and insecurity, and why constantly thinking negative thoughts about yourself isn’t a sign of being humble.  It’s a sign your are always thinking about you. We will learn real tools on how to break free from this way of thinking.  

In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re diving into one of the most painful thoughts a teen (or anyone!) can have: “I have no friends.” If you’ve ever felt left out, invisible, or convinced that you don’t belong, you’re not alone—and this episode is for you.

Ever wish people would just act the way you want? In this episode, we’re talking about why trying to control others never works—and how letting go of that need actually makes you feel better. You’ll learn about “The Manual” (a sneaky little guide your brain writes for other people) and how dropping it can bring more peace, confidence, and freedom. Take your power back—without needing anyone else to change.

What do you do when your friends start doing things you know aren’t right—like vaping, drinking, cussing, or making other choices that don’t match your values? In this episode, we talk about how to still be kind and loving without following their lead. You’ll learn how to be the kind of friend who lifts others up, how to choose friends who help you stay true to yourself, and why real happiness never comes from fitting in—but from knowing your worth and remembering how much God loves you. This one’s for every teen w...

It’s so hard to know what the right decision is especially when everyone has their own opinion of what “right” is. 

Check out this podcast today and let’s  help you figure out what the right decision is for YOU today!  

If you have a hard time following through with your goals and doing what you say you are going to do ….this episode is for you!!

We are going to teach you some tools to make your goals achievable and help you increase your confidence in yourself exponentially!

Worth and worthiness sound the same but mean completely different things. 

In this episode we break it down in understandable parts so we can actually know the difference. 

Great news!!  

You can’t take credit for your worth and you can’t lose it.  

Let me know what you think in the reviews and share with a friend!

If I locked you in room with a bully for a year how would you feel about it?  How would you feel after a whole year hanging out with that bully nonstop?  Terrible right?!  

We would never choose to do that in our lives but the truth is we do that everyday in our minds.  We bully ourselves with the negative thoughts we hear all day every day.  

In this episode we learn how to break up with the bully in our heads and best friend ourselves!  Check it out!

It’s easy to be happy when life is going your way.  What are you supposed to do when everything seems hard?  How can you feel happy then?  The truth is we aren’t always suppose to be happy.  It’s totally fine to be sad or mad or upswept.  If you are like me though sometimes you get sick of feeling sorry for yourself and feeling sad and you want to feel better.  I have good news for you.  You can.  Even if your life doesn’t change.  I’m this episode we talk about how to feel happy when life is...

Your thoughts FEEL TRUE.  It’s seems like the thoughts you have about yourself and your life are just observations of what is real.  But what if that’s not true at all?  What if your thoughts are your brain trying to keep you safe and also small.  In this episode we break down what to do when those negative thoughts come into your brain. How to choose your thoughts intentionally and practice the skill of being confident.  You can learn this and I can’t wait to teach you! 

Sometimes we think if we are really hard on ourselves and tell ourselves this is a really big deal we will play or perform better.  The truth is sometimes it works but eventually the pressure builds up so much we end up crumbling mentally and are not able to play or perform at the level we want.  In this episode we break down how to deal with losing or performing badly and give you tools that actually work to help you do your best.  

It’s normal to feel defensive when you make a mistake.  We could name tons of reasons we are justified in our behavior and it’s not our fault.  

The problem is when we blame other people for our mistakes we are left powerless. We also have this little voice in our head that tells us “maybe it is all your fault!”  “Maybe you just aren’t good enough.” 

In this episode we talk about how to get yourself out of this blame shame trap and come out feeling confident and able to try better next time! 

Stop trying not to have negative thoughts.  Stop being mad that you have them and start EXPECTING THEM.  Satan is NOT original. He will tell you the same things he tells everyone… You aren’t enough.  You don’t belong.   You don’t fit in.  No one likes you.  In this episode we learn  how to expect these negative thoughts and then choose on purpose what we WANT to believe.  Let ago!!

Why a new life won’t fix an old mindset.  Learn how to choose on purpose to feel good now instead of thinking “I’ll be happy when”

We would never set up a meeting with a friend and then not show up but we do this all the time to ourselves. 

In this episode we take a closer look at how we can strengthen our relationship with ourselves by following through with what we say we will do no matter how we feel. 

Teenagers and young adults who learn this skill will watch their confidence sky rocket! 

Let’s go!

Do you want to feel better?  Be happier?  Feel more confident?  This episode will teach you the tools to do it.  Here is a spoiler… your feelings come from what you are thinking!  You have the power to create any feeling that you want by choosing a BELIEVABLE thought.  

In this episode we dive into some actual tools of what to do when you are worried.  If you fear the future or get caught ruminating in your thoughts you are not alone.  There is nothing wrong with you.  We are going to make a plan for you so you can move forward in your life without worry holding you back!

Anxiety is such a buzz word!  We hear it everywhere we go.  It can feel so heavy and it can hold you back, especially if you don’t have the right tools to deal with it.  

In this episode we take a deep dive into how to actually deal with it and it doesn’t involve just thinking positive. 
 
Let me know if you need more help with this!  You can DM me at jodee.ensman.coaching on Instagram and Facebook!  

It’s normal to feel sad or negative about yourself when people ignore you but what if that was optional?  

This episode of Be Real with JoDee will teach you REAL tools of what to do if that happens!

Comparing yourself to others is normal and NOT productive. In this episode we will talk about ways to shift your focus from things outside your control and start living the life you want to live!  

Not feeling good enough is very normal and also optional. I’m this podcast we will learn where your worth really comes from and that you can’t earn or lose your worth.  This is the basis for real confidence.  

"Be Real with JoDee" is the ultimate hangout spot for teens who want to ditch doubt, embrace self-worth, and step into their most confident selves. Hosted by life coach JoDee, each episode is packed with real talk, faith-based insights, and life tools to help you crush anxiety, own your worth, and thrive in a world that tries to tell you otherwise. Ready to glow up and get real? Let’s do this!