Why Do People Do That?

In this episode, I sit down with Elaine Belson, LCSW, a seasoned therapist, mindset mentor, and emotional wellness coach who specializes in helping women shift out of automatic negative thinking and into calmer, more empowering internal dialogue. With decades of experience in understanding human behavior, emotional patterns, and communication, Elaine blends clinical depth with the practical, future-focused tools of coaching.

Together, we explore the complex dynamics of women’s empowerment, especially for those who naturally take on the roles of caretakers and empaths. We dive into why so many women feel compelled to prioritize the needs of other...

What is love really? In this episode, Stacy and Heather sit down with relationship scientist and licensed marriage and family therapist Marisa Cohen, PhD, LMFT, to explore the science behind how humans form emotional bonds. They break down love into its emotional and biological components, unpack common relationship patterns, and examine what people are truly seeking in meaningful connection. Together, they dive into why human connection is essential to our well-being, what defines a fulfilling relationship, and the common barriers that can get in the way of forming healthy attachments in romantic partnerships.

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The holidays are often painted as joyful, bright, and magical, but for anyone grieving, they can feel heavy, complicated, and painfully lonely. In this episode, we open up about what it’s really like to face the holiday season without our mothers, sharing both our professional insights as mental health providers and our personal stories of loss. We talk openly about the emotional realities of grief during a time that pressures us to “be merry,” explore why this season can intensify feelings of longing, and offer compassionate, realistic coping strategies listeners can use to support themselves. From setting boundaries to cre...

In this episode, we dive into the timeless question we’ve all asked at least once: “Why do people do that?” Joined by a curious and insightful social work student, we explore a range of listener-submitted questions spanning mental health, everyday behavior, and the fascinating quirks of the human mind.

Together, we break down the patterns that shape how we think, feel, and interact with the world, unpacking everything from emotional responses and coping styles to the subtle habits that reveal more about us than we realize.

This conversation isn’t just about understanding others—it’s about understand...

In this powerful and deeply human conversation, we sit down with Jason Mayo, founder of Sober Not Subtle and author of In Case of Emergency, Break Childhood. Together, to explore the psychological and emotional landscape of Substance Use Disorder (SUD) through Jason’s personal journey of recovery and transformation.

This episode goes beyond addiction—it’s an exploration of trauma, self-awareness, and emotional resilience. Jason shares how understanding the why behind his behaviors became the cornerstone of healing and how developing a new relationship with emotions and distress tolerance can open the door to recovery and authenticity.

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Why do we do that on Halloween? From the sexy costumes to the spooky décor, from group costumes to ghost stories, this week, we dig into the fascinating why behind our Halloween habits. In this episode of Why Do People Do That?, we unpack: Why we love to dress up and what that says about identity and belonging.  Why women often feel pressure to go “sexy” on Halloween (and where that comes from) How culture, groupthink, and tradition shape the way we celebrate. The healing power of ritual, togetherness, and a little predictability. And why, even as adults, we can...

In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Christy Whitman, the bestselling author of The Flow Factor, to explore how anyone can tap into their inner power to create a life of purpose, abundance, and ease. Christy unpacks the core principles of her book — blending spiritual wisdom with practical tools to align your energy, thoughts, and emotions with what you truly desire.

We dive deep into the Law of Attraction and the art of manifesting — why people are drawn to these practices, the transformation they can bring, and the underlying science of energy and mindset that makes them work. Ch...

In this inspiring conversation, Jeffrey Reynolds, author of Every Mile Matters, shares his deeply personal journey through cancer and the lessons he’s learned about resilience along the way. Together, we explore what it truly means to be resilient—embracing acceptance, cultivating a positive mindset, practicing gratitude, learning to accept help, leaning on spirituality, and finding the inner strength to keep moving forward even when the road is tough.

Jeffrey draws powerful parallels between his experiences as an endurance athlete—running marathons, competing in triathlons, and achieving Ironman status—and the fight against cancer. Just as every mile of a...

Stacy and Heather chat with Renee Haber, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in treating PANS (Pediatric Acute-Onset Neuropsychiatric Syndrome) and PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections). PANS/PANDAS is a neuroimmune condition where infections in the body can trigger sudden, severe psychiatric symptoms—often misdiagnosed as anxiety, depression, OCD, and other mental health disorders.    Renee explains how she works therapeutically with children and families while guiding them to the right physicians for accurate screening and treatment, what parents, educators, and clinicians need to look for, and why early recognition is essential for positive outcomes.   If you or...

In this episode, we dive into the cultural conversation around gender identity and the growing use of they/them pronouns. Why are kids pushing back against traditional gender roles? Why does it spark so much fear and resistance from parents? And what does it actually mean when a young person is exploring their identity outside of old binaries? We unpack the anxieties, the myths, and the realities behind this shift, while asking: how can families respond in ways that encourage authenticity instead of fear? This isn’t just about pronouns—it’s about breaking free from indoctrination, rethinking identity, and al...

In this episode, we explore why artificial intelligence, no matter how advanced, can never replicate the transformative power of human therapy. While AI offers quick validation and instant responses, therapy is far more than problem-solving — it’s a nuanced process rooted in trust, transference, and the healing relationship between client and clinician.

We discuss how true therapeutic growth comes from the corrective emotional experiences only a trained therapist can provide. Unlike AI, therapists navigate the complexities of human emotions, guide clients through deeper exploration, and foster lasting repair that technology simply cannot replicate.

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 Social media isn’t just a distraction; it’s shaping how our kids see themselves, handle conflict, and form relationships. As they head back to school, it’s not enough to pack their backpacks. We need to equip them emotionally and mentally to navigate the digital world. In this essential episode, I break down how to help your kids build real resilience, set healthy boundaries, and handle the pressures of online life before they walk back into those school hallways. This isn’t a “nice to know”; it’s a “must know.”

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In this episode, we journey to a galaxy far, far away to explore the very real psychology behind fandom. Using Star Wars as our launchpad, we dive into the emotional draw of expansive fictional universes and why they resonate so deeply with us. From analyzing iconic characters to unpacking the societal nuances reflected in their stories, we ask the timeless question: why do people do that? Our guest, Kristine McPartlin — host of  @MindtheForce  , a podcast dedicated to examining mental health through the lens of Star Wars—joins us for a thoughtful conversation on how fiction mirrors reality. Together, we explore...

What happens to faith when the unimaginable happens? In this powerful and heartfelt episode, we sit down with Minister Elder Empress, who opens up about her faith journey after the devastating loss of her son. Together, we explore the sacred and often silent struggles of motherhood—mom guilt, generational trauma, identity, and the unbearable weight of grief. She shares how leaning into faith and cultivating a healthy belief system became her lifeline—a source of purpose, resilience, and a way to reframe even the darkest moments. This conversation is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the...

In this powerful and timely episode, I sit down with Suffolk County Legislator Rebecca Sanin to discuss the critical importance of the upcoming local elections and the often-overlooked role local government plays in shaping our daily lives. But the conversation goes much deeper than politics—we explore the current political climate and the growing divide across the country.

Rebecca brings thoughtful insights into what’s fueling this polarization, from cognitive dissonance and fear to the breakdown of meaningful communication. Together, we unpack how individual citizens can take small but impactful steps toward bridging the divide, fostering unity, and building a mo...

In this powerful and timely episode, we explore the roots of Pride—where it started, why it began, and what it truly means to be seen, validated, and supported. More than a celebration, Pride is a lifeline, especially for those in marginalized communities who are too often erased or targeted. We look at the mental health impacts of visibility, the weight of erasure, and the strength that comes from being recognized for who you are. As we navigate today’s hostile political climate—from surging anti-LGBTQ+ legislation to the dangerous rhetoric amplified on social media—we reflect on how the fight fo...

In this deeply insightful and honest conversation, I sat down with licensed sex therapist Heather Simonson, LCSW, CST, CSE, ERYT, RPYT (Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Sexuality Educator, Reiki Master, and Registered Yoga Teacher (specializing in kids and pre/postnatal) to explore some of the most vulnerable and often unspoken challenges couples face around intimacy. We dive into what happens when partners have mismatched libidos, how self-esteem and body image shape our sexual experiences, and why desire often fades after having children.

We also unpack the layers of shame tied to sexuality—especially for women—and the societal co...

Do you sometimes feel your child's successes—or failures—reflect directly on you? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore the powerful, often unconscious ways parents project their unresolved issues onto their children. When we see our kids as extensions of ourselves, we may inadvertently make them responsible for our self-worth, tying their achievements to our value and fearing judgment through their choices.

This dynamic can disrupt a child’s developing identity, strain the parent-child bond, and contribute to anxiety, confusion, and even depression—for both parent and child. Together, we'll unpack how these patterns form, how to r...

In this episode, we dive into the world of Reddit’s Am I the A**hole?—not to pass judgment, but to unpack the deeper emotional layers behind a few standout posts. As licensed therapists, we explore why people turn to the internet for validation, what their stories reveal about human behavior, and why things are rarely as black and white as they seem. Spoiler: Even when someone seems like the a**hole, there’s usually a lot more going on! Let’s talk about nuance, empathy, and the messy beauty of being human. Everyone has a story, and no one is e...

In this episode, we sit down with toy expert Jonathan Alexandratos to explore the profound role that toys play in our lives, far beyond childhood. From self-expression to identity formation, toys are vessels that help us explore parts of ourselves not yet fully realized.

We unpack how the evolution of toy design and accessibility has deepened our connection to play and how these small objects carry big meaning. Whether nostalgic or forward-looking, our relationship with toys reveals more about us than we might expect.

Jonathan Alexandratos is a New York City-based writer, professor, and toy...

Social workers are the backbone of countless communities, showing up in hospitals, schools, courtrooms, shelters, and beyond—wherever there is need, there we are. In this special episode, we celebrate the vast and vital profession of social work by speaking with dedicated professionals from across the country. From child welfare to hospice care, from policy advocacy to crisis intervention, we explore the many ways social workers create change, provide support, and uplift lives.

We’ll also take a journey through the history of social work, reflecting on its roots and evolution, and honoring the legacy of those who...

School refusal has become an epidemic, skyrocketing since COVID and the rise of social media’s influence on children. As licensed clinical social workers working with families facing this challenge, we sit down with special education attorney Susan Deedy, Esq., (https://www.susandeedylaw.com/), to unpack the many reasons kids are avoiding school—and, more importantly, what can be done about it.

In this episode, we provide a roadmap for parents, educators, and therapists, covering both therapeutic approaches and legal rights. What are your child’s rights when it comes to school refusal? What should schools be doing...

Wouldn't it be great if we could actually harness happiness just from changing the way we think? Well... we actually can. There is science-based research that explains how shifting our mindset into a place of gratitude manipulates the neurotransmitters in our brains, creates new neural pathways, reduces stress hormones and creates a cognitive restructuring of how our mind works. That's right! Simply ( we know this may not feel simple) by changing our inner headlines, we do have the power to live happier and more fulfilled lives. We know this is not as easy as it sounds. There can be h...

Calling all the Mommas! (Don't worry dads.. we get around to you also) Mom guilt?! What are we doing ladies? We at the "Why Do People Do That" podcast insist that we all come together to bring about change. Starting today! Join us in our heartfelt and passionate conversation about the root causes of mom guilt. We go on a journey through time and explore a deeper understanding of the definition of guilt, the societal journey of gender roles, expectations moms put on themselves and others, as well as steps we can all start taking today to bring about...

People often use the phrase, "time heals all wounds." In reality, time can certainly heal many wounds, but sometimes time alone is not enough. A more accurate truth is that in time, all wounds can heal. When trauma hits, we can sometimes process through and heal naturally. The mind is resilient and miraculous and new neural pathways are forming everyday paving the way for healthy movement forward. Sometimes, however, we are stuck. Trauma is stored in the body and triggers bring us back into the reliving of past events that have not moved through us into healing on its...

Join us in this discussion with divorce mediator, Gina Pellettieri, Esq. https://ginapellettieri.com/ as she helps us unravel what trends are showing up in the world of divorce. We come together to share stories and insights around issues underlying break ups in society today. (As well as the surprising realization that Valentine's Day seems to bring on a break up surge!) Is V Day now break up with your partner day? Join us on this journey as we explore how gender roles, communication breakdowns and generational trauma all play a role in whether people are likely to stay...

Sometimes we get stuck in the grieving process and develop maladaptive patterns that do not serve us. Join us in our stories where we share the symptoms, blocking beliefs and unhealthy patterns that can emerge from complicated grief. From war to suicide to ealry childhood loss, we uncover several examples of what causes complicated grief, how to identify it and what to do. "Why Do People Do That" host", Stacy Pellettieri, shares her story of losing her sister at the age of 3 and Tania DuFour, trauma nurse and former podcast guest, joins the conversation to explore the very complicated...

In this episode, we tackle the challenging topic of repeating cyclic negative patterns. Our guest, Tania, a trauma nurse and mother, bravely shares her story of personal growth and the lingering effects of past traumas. Despite her successes, Tania finds herself stuck in a recurring cycle—choosing relationships that fail to meet her desires, reflecting a younger version of herself repeating old habits. Together, we uncover the roots of these patterns, explore why they're so hard to break, and discuss actionable steps to rewrite them. Why do we stay stuck in cycles that no longer serve us? What can we...

Have you ever wondered why the actions, words, or even the mere presence of others—whether it's your partner, a coworker, or a stranger at the store—can spark such strong emotional reactions in you? In this episode, we explore the deeply human tendency to create stories, make assumptions, assign meanings, and project our inner fears or desires onto those around us. These automatic patterns often fuel misunderstandings, disrupt our relationships, and rob us of inner peace. But what if you could understand and challenge these behaviors? Join us for an insightful discussion about how cultivating self-awareness can transform your...

Hoarding is a common challenge that impacts countless individuals and their families daily. While it can deeply affect lives, it’s not a lifelong burden—help is available, and the issue can be managed.

In this episode, we delve into the roots of hoarding behaviors, exploring the psychological causes and offering practical tips for improvement. Our guest, Natalie Lowe, a Neurobalance Coach, shares a deeply personal and inspiring story about her mother’s harrowing experiences during World War II in Germany. She reveals how these traumatic events shaped her mother’s hoarding behaviors and the ripple effects it had o...

We are pleased to introduce our guest, long time teacher, and childhood friend, Liz Moliterno. Liz is a passionate educator and advocate for her students. As a special education teacher for high school students, Liz is in the trenches everyday witnessing the very real daily struggles of her students and the mental health crisis we are all hearing about all of the time. She has amazing insight and ideas on how we can do better as a society and systemically within education in this country. Does the education system add to the mental health crisis in today's youth? Is...

For thousands of years, humans have created New Year's resolutions for a fresh start in the new year. Year after year, as January 1st approaches, we pick a goal to work on that we are rarely able to follow through with. Why don't resolutions work? What goes wrong? Why do we still do this year after year if statistics show that they fail 86% of the time? What is the psychological benefit to having these goals and what tweaks can we make to make them more successful this year? Want to learn how to choose the right resolution this year...

ADHD comes in all shayourselfpes, ages, and sizes. Whether you are an individual with ADHD or someone who is looking to help and support someone who does, this podcast offers priceless information that will offer you the knowledge you need to give the right kind of support to guide your self or your loved one toward happiness and success. What is the science of the ADHD brain? What are executive functions? What strategies and techniques are helpful? Research shows that children with ADHD receive 20,000 negative messages by the time they are 12 years old. If you are a parent of...

Luigi Mangione, America's sudden new famous heartthrob makes the scene. But what is he famous for? Assassinating a CEO! Please join us as we have a tough conversation about what we think may have gone wrong for Luigi, what seems to have gone wrong in society, and why there is such a strong movement supporting this cold blooded murder. Let's unpack the #freeluigi movement. 

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Participation trophies aren't a new thing, as this custom goes back over 100 years. What is new, however, is the debate. Are they really harmful to motivation and the ability to accept disappointment? Are they helpful? Join Heather and Stacy, licensed clinical social workers, in this psychologically riveting discussion about whether the trophies help or harm our children and why this has become a trending debate.

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The Menendez brothers have been a controversial story and debate since the day they killed their parents. Wondering why they did it? Wondering how long-term sustained abuse can lead 2 boys to murder their parents? Wondering why we are looking at it through a new lens today than we did 35 years ago? From the psyche of the abused mind to the changes in gender roles, media, and societal norms, join us in this riveting analysis of the 2 boys who have been behind bars for 35 years. Just? Unjust? Should we free the Menendez boys? 

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Ever wonder why you are drawn to the TV shows or movies that you like? Why does one person want to watch Hallmark movies while the other wants to immerse themselves in a great horror flick? On this episode of Why Do People Do That, Heather and Stacy will explore the psychological aspects of why we enjoy watching the things we choose to watch! This is a fun, but informative self-awareness journey through the lens of film genre choice! Come and join us and see what you can learn about yourself!

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In this episode of "Why Do People Do That?", we are asking the question, Why do people get stressed for the holidays? We tackle the ideas of family roles and dynamics, the need to please, having a hard time saying no, asking for help, feelings of inadequacy, and the pressures that come from within as well as social media. Join us as we get personal, reveal insights, and offer tips and strategies to ease the struggle this holiday season!

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In our first episode, we discuss all the controversy and debates surrounding the election and choosing sides, and how we treat each other based on it. This is a great episode to watch through even post-election. Anxiety is high, and we attempt to help our viewers understand what is happening for them and the "others." Take our tips and try to relax! We're all in this together, and if you stay true to your beliefs, that's all that matters!

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