The Teen Years Toolkit For Moms: Parenting Communication Skills to Calm the Chaos

Ever finish a scroll session feeling more anxious or irritated than when you started?

Many moms of teens turn to social media for a mental break—only to walk away feeling emotionally drained. This episode introduces a simple, eye-opening self-coaching tool that helps you check in with your body and emotions while you scroll, helping you make more intentional choices without guilt or restriction.

Ever felt like a hypocrite telling your teen to get off their phone—while scrolling on yours?

If you're avoiding the screen time conversation with your teen because you're battling your own habits, you're not alone. This episode explores how to break the shame cycle and lead your teen from a place of honesty, not perfection.

Do you dread bringing up screen time with your teen because it always ends in conflict or power struggles?

You’re not alone — for many moms, managing screen time feels like a constant tug-of-war that leaves everyone frustrated. In this episode, Jessica Stewart and parenting expert Tess Connolly dive deep into how to move away from resentment and into cooperation, all while protecting your relationship with your teen.

Do you instantly imagine the worst when your teen misses an assignment or shuts down—and feel powerless to stop it?

It’s completely normal for your mind to spiral when your teen starts slipping at school or pulling away emotionally. But living in a constant state of panic doesn’t help them—or you. In this short episode, you’ll learn how to work with your fear instead of against it.

Ever feel like your yelling and past reactions may have permanently damaged your relationship with your teen?

If you’ve been lying awake at night replaying moments you regret—words you wish you could take back, reactions that feel too big—you’re not alone. This episode is a lifeline for moms feeling weighed down by guilt, wondering if it’s too late to repair the connection with their teenager.

Are your thoughts about parenting making it harder than it needs to be?

This episode dives into the real reason so many moms of teens feel burned out—and it’s not their teenager's behavior. It’s the guilt-ridden, perfectionist thoughts running on repeat that quietly drain your confidence and peace of mind.

Would you ever scream at a frightened dog caught in a trap—or would you try to calm it with care and compassion? Then why do we so often speak harshly to ourselves in moments of parenting stress?

When parenting your teen gets hard, your nervous system can go into survival mode—snapping, freezing, or shutting down. This episode offers a powerful reframe that helps you understand what’s really going on in those moments and how to respond to yourself with the same compassion you’d offer someone else in pain.

Feeling like you didn’t “do enough” this holiday season—or even finish all 12 days of this series? You’re not behind.

In this gentle final episode of the 12 Days of Holiday Calm, Jessica invites you to release the pressure to absorb everything perfectly and instead focus on just one calming insight that resonated with you. Whether you were here for all 12 days or popped in halfway through, there’s something worth carrying into the new year.

Do you ever find yourself thinking, “I love my teen, but I really don’t enjoy being around them right now”—and then instantly feel like a terrible mom for it?

You’re not alone—and more importantly, you’re not a bad parent. In this episode of Teen Years Toolkit for Moms, we dig into the silent guilt many moms carry when they don’t always like their teenagers, even though they love them deeply. If you’ve ever wrestled with this emotional tension, this episode offers the clarity and relief you’ve been looking for.

Ever wondered if someone else could parent your teen better than you—or if you're just not cut out for this?

In today’s episode of the 12 Days of Holiday Calm, Jessica offers a transformative reframe that starts with just one question: How are YOU the best parent for YOUR teenager? If you’ve been feeling doubtful or overwhelmed, this 3-minute gift to yourself will help you reconnect with your unique strengths and purpose as a parent.

Are you walking into family conversations—or teenage tension—without checking in on your emotional tone first?

In this short but powerful Day 10 episode of the 12 Days of Holiday Calm, Jessica shares a simple yet often overlooked tool to avoid off-key interactions during this high-stress season: tuning your emotional tone before stepping into conversations. Whether you’re parenting a teen or preparing for a holiday gathering, this quick mental reset can change everything.

Do you ever wonder why it feels so hard to love your teen when they’re acting out—even though you know you love them unconditionally?

In this honest and deeply relatable episode, Jessica dives into the emotional complexity of parenting teens—especially when your child’s behavior challenges every ounce of patience you have. If you’ve ever felt guilty for pulling back or losing your temper, this episode will help you understand why that happens and how to shift

Does your brain start running a stress-filled to-do list before you’ve even opened your eyes?

If your mornings feel like mini anxiety attacks before your feet even hit the floor, this episode offers a simple yet powerful practice to calm your nervous system before the day begins—without needing to force fake positivity.

Do certain family members always push your buttons during the holidays?

If you find yourself dreading familiar tensions or trying to "brace yourself" for uncomfortable moments, this episode gives you a surprising mindset shift to stay grounded, even when things get messy. Instead of being caught off guard, you'll walk in prepared—calm, centered, and ready.

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Does your teenager’s mood instantly ruin your day—even when everything was going fine?

If you’ve ever felt like your emotional state lives and dies by your teen’s attitude, you’re not alone. Many moms unconsciously tie their sense of peace to how their teen is feeling—but this leads to burnout, resentment, and constant emotional whiplash.

Do you ever catch yourself spiraling in worry and wonder if it's actually helping—or just draining you?

In this Day 6 episode of Holiday Calm, we’re unpacking the myth that constant worry makes you a better mom. The truth? Worrying doesn’t make you more loving—it just makes your day heavier. And with the right approach, you can take control of your thoughts and bring more peace to your holiday season.

Do your teen’s mood swings feel even more intense during the holidays — leaving you stressed, frazzled, and unsure how to stay calm?

This time of year puts extra emotional weight on both moms and teens. But what if peace doesn’t come from fixing everything — and instead comes from a few simple mindset shifts? In this short and gentle episode, you'll receive 5 golden thoughts to carry with you through the chaos.

Are you constantly walking on eggshells around your teen, wondering how you're supposed to feel any joy when nothing you do seems to help?

If your teenager seems emotionally distant or unhappy no matter how hard you try — especially during the holidays — it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost the connection and joy you once had. This episode breaks down why moms’ emotions often get tangled with their teen’s — and what to do about it.

Are you carrying the invisible weight of making everyone happy this holiday season—especially your teen?

If you're overwhelmed by emotions, expectations, and the pressure to create picture-perfect moments, this 3-minute episode is your permission slip to release what’s not yours to hold—especially during these emotionally charged weeks.

Take 3 minutes to reset and lighten your emotional load—p...

Feeling overwhelmed or disconnected when emotions run high—either yours or your teen’s?

In today’s episode, discover a 3-minute compassion ritual based on Dr. Kristin Neff’s work that helps you reset emotionally and build deeper, calmer connections—especially during stressful holiday moments.

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Do you ever feel guilty for not loving the holidays like you used to—especially while parenting teens?

If the magic of the season has been replaced by stress, overwhelm, and the fear of messing it all up, you're not alone. This episode explores why joy feels so distant during this busy season and how fear—not sadness—is often the hidden reason moms of teens feel disconnected and joyless.

Do you find yourself getting frustrated with people—even when they’re acting exactly how you knew they would?

The holidays can amplify emotional reactions, especially when we expect others to behave differently than they ever have. In today’s episode, discover the mindset shift that prevents unnecessary anger and helps you stay grounded—even when people disappoint you again.

Do you find yourself holding your breath during stressful holiday moments without even realizing it?

In the rush of the season, it's easy to overlook the simplest stress relief tool you already have—your breath. This episode explores how mindful breathing can instantly calm your nervous system and why ignoring it may be costing you peace and connection during the holidays.

Ever feel like the harder you chase peace as a parent, the more overwhelmed and reactive you become?

If your days feel like an emotional rollercoaster—especially with teens in the mix—you might be approaching peace all wrong. This episode invites you to rethink peace, not as a destination to force your way toward, but as a natural state you return to when you stop trying so hard.

Do you ever jump in with advice the moment your teen starts venting—only to watch them shut down completely?

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m just trying to help—why does this always backfire?” this episode is for you. You’ll learn why that “fix-it” reflex is so common for moms and what your teen actually needs from you in emotional moments.

Are your teen’s emotions pulling you into arguments you never meant to have—leaving you wondering why you lose your calm the moment they lose theirs?

If you’re a mom trying desperately to stop yelling, stop escalating, and finally communicate calmly, this episode breaks down the neuroscience behind why your teen’s intensity instantly activates your own stress response—and what you can do to interrupt that cycle and create emotional safety instead of chaos.

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Are you a mom who spirals into worst-case thinking the second something feels “off” with your teen?

This episode breaks down why your brain instantly jumps to every mistake you’ve ever made, why those all-or-nothing thoughts feel so real in the moment, and how this mental spiral quietly fuels stress, guilt, and disconnection in your relationship with your teen.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why negative thoughts multiply so quickly and leave you feeling overwhelmed

• How to recognize the earliest signs you’re entering a thought spiral

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About Today’s Guest — Beth Hillman

Beth Hillman is a certified life and parent coach who helps parents of struggling teens and young adults find clarity, calm, and confidence. After her son attended wilderness therapy for substance use and anxiety, Beth transformed her own overwhelm into a mission to support other parents walking a similar path. She now coaches parents privately, in groups, and through workshops, and is the host of the Parenting Post Wilderness podcast.

Connect with Beth:

Email: beth@bethhillmancoaching.com

Website: https://bethhillmancoaching.com/

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Do you ever feel like your hope for your teen is tangled with fear, pressure, or the constant worry that you’re getting everything wrong?

This episode breaks down why hope becomes so emotionally complicated during the teen years—and how reframing it can reduce your stress, strengthen your relationship, and help you parent with more steadiness instead of fear or perfectionism.

Listeners will learn:

Do the holidays leave you juggling excitement and overwhelm while your teen’s moods, eye rolls, or shifting plans make December feel even more chaotic?

This special four-week series gives you the calm, grounded guidance you’ve been craving—tying the universal themes of hope, peace, joy, and love to the very real emotional challenges of parenting a teenager during the busiest season of the year.

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Do you ever finish a holiday and immediately replay everything that went “wrong” — the tense moments, the mood swings, the comments, the overwhelm?

In today’s final episode of the P.E.A.C.E. mini-series, we shift from self-criticism to compassion. Day 5 is all about gently evaluating how things went — not with judgment, but with curiosity and kindness. This step helps you notice what worked, where you showed up differently, and what you want to carry forward into future gatherings.

Instead of picking apart your reactions or your teen’s behaviour, today is your chance to ce...

Do you ever feel so busy keeping the holiday “perfect” that you miss the small, meaningful moments unfolding right in front of you?

In Day 4 of the P.E.A.C.E. mini-series, we gently shift the focus away from perfection and back to what your heart actually wants during the holidays: connection. Real connection. The kind that doesn’t need matching outfits, beautifully staged photos, or a flawless holiday meal — just presence, openness, and tiny moments where you and your teen meet each other as you are.

When you’ve planned ahead, expected reality, and accept...

On Day 3 of the P.E.A.C.E. mini-series, we explore one of the hardest but most freeing skills for moms during the holidays: acceptance. Not the kind that means you approve of everything or love what’s happening — but the kind that stops the emotional tug-of-war inside you.

Acceptance helps you release the pressure to control every moment, every mood, every plan, and every person… including yourself. When we let go of resistance (“this shouldn’t be happening”), we make space for clarity, calm, and connection.

In this gentle, short episode, you’ll learn:

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Do you ever find yourself hoping your teen will act differently “just because it’s a holiday”… only to feel disappointed or hurt when they show up exactly the way they always do?

In today's tiny but powerful episode, we soften the expectations that quietly create so much stress for moms during the holidays. Instead of wishing for the picture-perfect, Hallmark-version of your teen or other family members, Day 2 invites you to expect the real people in your life—their moods, their quirks, their tiredness, their need for space, and yes… sometimes their attitude.

When you expect w...

Do you ever wish you could walk into the holidays already grounded—before the stress, the comments, or the teen attitude even show up?

On Day 1 of the P.E.A.C.E. Mini-Series, we start with the kind of planning that actually brings you peace—not the menu, not the shopping list, not the decorations. Today is about planning your reactions so your nervous system, your heart, and your energy don’t get swept away by the chaos of the season or the moods of everyone around you.

If certain moments, people, or teen behavi...

Are you already bracing yourself for the teen attitude, family comments, or chaos that always seems to hit during the holidays?

This episode shows you how to handle those triggering moments with intention instead of reactivity—so you can stay calm, grounded, and connected even when your teen rolls their eyes, relatives make comments, or the day feels overwhelming.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• How to use “deciding ahead of time” to stay calm even when stress spikes

• Why your brain reacts so quickly in family moments—and how to get your prefr...

Do the holidays feel heavier than they used to—like you're carrying the joy, the traditions, and the emotional weight for everyone in your family?

If you’ve ever wished you could slow down, breathe, and actually feel peaceful during this season—especially while parenting a teenager who has their own big emotions—this 5-day P.E.A.C.E. mini-series was made for you. These tiny, 2–3 minute episodes are small pockets of calm designed to remind you that you don’t have to white-knuckle your way through the holidays.

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Have you ever had a holiday plan perfectly mapped out—only for your teen to say, “I don’t want to go,” leaving you spiralling with hurt, frustration, or panic?

If holiday changes from your teen leave you feeling rejected, disappointed, or unsure how to respond without escalating tension, this episode will show you exactly why those reactions happen—and how to navigate them with calm, clarity, and connection. Holidays don’t have to be a battle between their independence and your desire for family time.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to understand your emotional...

Are the holidays starting to feel more like a negotiation with your teenager than the cozy family season you always imagined?

This episode breaks down why holiday plans suddenly feel emotional, tense, or even hurtful when your teen wants more independence—and how to navigate these changes without slipping into resentment, guilt, or full-blown conflict. If you want holiday connection instead of holiday power struggles, this conversation is exactly what you need.

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Ever wonder why you feel crushed with shame after yelling at your teen—even when you know better?

If you’re a mom trying to communicate more calmly but keep getting stuck in guilt, self-criticism, or emotional spirals, this episode breaks down why shame feels so powerful, why it pretends to be useful, and how it actually keeps you from changing the behaviors you want to improve.

Do you ever find yourself yelling at your teen, only to feel terrible afterward—and wonder why it keeps happening even though you swore you wouldn’t do it again?

In this episode, you’ll learn what’s really behind those moments of frustration, why guilt actually fuels more yelling instead of stopping it, and how to create the emotional space you need to respond calmly instead of reacting.

Does parenting your teen feel impossible—like no matter how hard you try, you’re always falling short?

That constant guilt and frustration may not mean you’re doing anything wrong—it might just mean you’re working from the wrong job description. In this “Coaching Tool of the Week,” Jessica helps you rewrite how you define your role so you can lead with calm, connection, and compassion instead of control and exhaustion.

Did you think parenting would get easier once your kids hit their teen years—only to find it’s actually harder than ever?

You’re not alone—and you’re not doing anything wrong. In this “Coach Me Through This” episode, Jessica explains why it feels harder, why losing your patience isn’t a failure, and how a subtle mindset shift can transform how you show up for your teenager (and yourself).

Do you ever wonder why parenting your teenager feels so much harder than you expected — even though you’re trying your absolute best?

You’re not failing; you’ve just been handed the wrong job description. In this episode, Jessica breaks down the real, science-backed reasons parenting teens feels so overwhelming — from emotional separation to control struggles — and reveals how shifting your thinking can finally bring calm and connection back into your home.

Ever wonder why you snap before you even realize you’re angry? What if your body was just trying to protect you, not betray you?

In this episode, Jessica breaks down what’s really happening inside your body when your “hackles rise.” Using the simple example of how a dog’s fur stands up when alarmed, she explains how our nervous system triggers anger—and why it’s not your fault. If you’ve ever felt trapped in guilt or frustration after yelling at your teen, this conversation will change the way you view those moments forever.

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Have you ever promised yourself you wouldn’t yell again—only to find yourself losing it when your teen rolls their eyes? You’re not alone, and it doesn’t make you a bad mom.

In this episode, Jessica unpacks what really happens in those emotionally charged moments: why anger often hides fear or sadness, and how understanding your triggers can help you break the guilt cycle. If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing because you can’t stay calm 24/7, this episode is your permission slip to be human again.

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Have you ever told yourself, “I shouldn’t be this angry” — or felt guilty for losing your temper with your teen?

If so, you’re not alone. Many moms believe that feeling or showing anger makes them “bad” parents, but that belief actually keeps them trapped in a loop of guilt, shame, and disconnection.

In this episode, we’ll explore how anger isn’t your enemy—it’s information your body and mind are trying to give you.

Do you ever catch yourself interrupting, correcting, or jumping in to “fix” things the moment your teen starts talking?

You’re not alone. Most moms of teens do this out of love—but constant fixing can quietly teach your teen to stop sharing. In this episode, you’ll discover the Listen-Only Practice—a simple yet powerful way to rebuild calm, open communication and become the safe space your teen needs.

Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “My teen doesn’t need me anymore” and feel a wave of sadness or loss wash over you?

As your teen grows more independent, it can feel like your identity as a mom is shifting under your feet. This episode helps you understand why those emotions show up—and how to handle them with compassion instead of guilt or resistance—so you can move through this stage with more calm and confidence.

Do you ever feel like the harder you try to help your teen, the more disconnected you become?

In this episode of The Teen Years Toolkit for Moms, Jessica reveals why parenting teens isn’t about doing more — it’s about doing what truly matters. You’ll learn how small, intentional shifts can replace chaos with calm, reduce conflict, and rebuild connection, even if you feel stuck in constant power struggles.

Ever think, “Why am I even doing this for them? They don’t appreciate it anyway”?

That thought hits every mom of a teenager at some point. But what if the frustration isn’t about what you’re doing—but why you’re doing it? In this short, actionable episode, Jessica Stewart introduces the “Why Am I Doing This?” Check-In—a powerful coaching tool that helps you shift from hidden expectations to calm, intentional choices that feel lighter and more aligned.

Do you ever find yourself thinking, “I do everything for my teen—drive them, cook for them, help with homework—and they still don’t respect or appreciate me”?

You’re not imagining it—many loving, dedicated moms hit this wall. When your teen’s attitude doesn’t match your effort, it’s easy to feel hurt, resentful, or even question your worth. In this episode, Jessica Stewart unpacks what’s really behind this dynamic and how to shift your mindset so you can feel calmer, more in control, and closer to your teen.

Do you ever catch yourself reminding your teen about every deadline, fixing their mistakes, or managing their moods—only to feel drained and unappreciated?

You’re not alone—and you’re not failing. Most moms overhelp because they love deeply. But here’s the truth: what feels like support can quietly block your teen’s growth and rob you of peace. In this episode, Jessica Stewart shares the five things to quit doing for your teenager so you can help them build independence while reclaiming your calm.

Ever wish you could see your relationship with your teen as clearly as the signal bars on your phone?

In this episode, Jessica Stewart introduces a brand-new coaching tool called The Connection Bars Check-In—a simple, visual way to assess and strengthen your relationship with your teen. Just like your phone signal fluctuates, your connection with your teenager naturally goes up and down. The key isn’t to stay at “five bars” all the time, but to notice where you are and make small, intentional moves to boost your signal.

Does it feel like your teen used to love spending time with you—and now all they do is hide in their room and give one-word answers?

You’re not imagining it. Many moms of teens feel this painful disconnect and assume it means their teen doesn’t like them anymore. But what if that distance wasn’t rejection at all? In this episode, Jessica Stewart coaches you through why your teen’s pullback is normal, how your own thoughts may be shaping the disconnection, and how to rebuild closeness without pressure or guilt.

Do you ever feel like every attempt to connect with your teen either ends in silence or a slammed door?

If you’ve been craving a closer relationship with your teenager but nothing seems to work, this episode breaks down why connection isn’t about one big talk—it’s about tiny, pressure-free moments that build trust naturally. Discover how everyday actions like watching their favourite show, swapping playlists, or cooking together can turn tension into understanding.

Does it ever feel like talking to your teen is like shouting into static — no matter how much you say, nothing seems to get through?

Here’s the truth: what looks like defiance is usually just disconnection. And just like with a dropped phone call, the solution isn’t to talk louder — it’s to check the line and reset the connection.

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Do you ever feel like no matter what you say, your teen just doesn’t hear you—or worse, completely tunes you out?

Most moms believe they need the “perfect words” to get through to their teenager. But the truth is, your words don’t matter if there’s no reliable connection for your message to land. In this episode, Jessica shares why focusing on repairing and maintaining the communication channel with your teen matters more than any script.

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Does every conversation with your teen feel like a battle of eye rolls, one-word answers, or endless arguments?

You’re not alone—and it’s not because your teen doesn’t care. The truth is, most moms unknowingly use communication habits that shut down conversations instead of opening them up. This episode gives you practical tools to shift from constant conflict to calm, meaningful connection.

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Do you ever try to tell yourself, “I’m a good mom,” but your brain flat-out refuses to believe it?

That’s because big, positive leaps—like going from “I’m failing as a mom” to “I’m amazing”—feel fake when you don’t believe them. In this quick episode of The Teen Years Toolkit for Moms, Jessica Stewart shares the coaching tool called The Thought Ladder to help you gently shift your thoughts in ways your brain will actually accept.

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Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m failing as a mom”—especially when your teen struggles, when you lose your cool, or when other moms seem to have it all together?

You’re not alone. Many moms of teenagers carry this hidden guilt and self-criticism, but what if that thought isn’t proof you’re failing at all? In this episode, Jessica Stewart, life coach for moms of teens, unpacks why your brain creates these failure alarms and how to shift your perspective so you can respond with calm instead of spiraling into self-blame.

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Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m failing as a mom” when your teenager is unhappy, struggling in school, or tuning you out?

If so, you’re not alone—and the truth is, those feelings of failure have less to do with your actual parenting and more to do with impossible standards no mom could ever meet. This episode helps you reframe what success really looks like in raising teens so you can release the guilt and focus on what you can control.

Do you feel stung when your teen shuts the door and barely says a word—like you’ve lost your connection?

The truth is, it’s not your teen’s action that causes the pain, it’s the dramatic story your brain spins about it. In this episode, you’ll learn a practical tool to separate facts from stories so you can stay calm and open to connection, even when your teen pulls away.

By listening, you’ll discover:

Does your teen come home, head straight to their room, and leave you wondering if you’re being pushed out of their life?

If so, you’re not alone—and the real struggle often isn’t their silence, but the painful meaning you attach to it. In this “Coach Me Through This” episode, Jessica helps a mom untangle the heavy thoughts behind her teen’s one-word answers and shows a gentler way forward.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

Does it feel like your teen used to tell you everything, but now they walk in, shut the door, and shut you out?

You’re not alone—many moms of teens struggle with the sudden silence and distance, often taking it personally and spiralling into guilt, frustration, or fear that the bond is broken.

This episode unpacks why your teen may be pulling away, what you’re unintentionally making it mean, and how to reframe your response to keep communication open.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

Do you feel like every conversation with your teenager turns into a battle of wills that leaves you both frustrated and disconnected?

You’re not alone—many moms of teens find themselves in a constant tug of war, trying to guide and protect while their teenager pushes for independence. The problem isn’t that you care too much, it’s that the harder you pull, the harder they push back.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

Do you feel like every little issue with your teenager turns into a fight, no matter how hard you try to keep the peace?

If arguments about clothes, curfews, or “small stuff” are leaving you frustrated and disconnected from your teen, you’re not alone. The problem isn’t that you’re failing as a parent—it’s that old thought patterns are keeping you stuck in the same cycle.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Do you find yourself in constant arguments with your teenager, leaving both of you upset and disconnected?

If every conversation with your teen feels like a tug-of-war, you’re not alone. Moms everywhere struggle with this exhausting cycle of yelling, power struggles, and the need to “be right.” But the truth is, these arguments don’t create influence or connection—they only push your teen further away.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

Do you ever feel like your teen pushes your buttons and anger takes over before you can stop it?

In this episode of Teen Years Toolkit for Moms, you’ll discover why anger isn’t just an outburst but a powerful signal—and how learning to listen to it can completely shift the way you respond in tough moments.

By tuning in, you’ll learn:

Do you find yourself snapping at your teen over eye rolls, messy rooms, or backtalk — and regretting it the second after?

If anger feels like it’s running the show in your parenting, you’re not alone. This episode walks you through a real mom’s struggle with constant frustration and shows you a coaching approach that helps break the cycle of yelling, guilt, and power struggles.

By listening, you’ll discover:

Do you ever feel guilty for being angry with your teen — like it means you’re failing as a mom?

Here’s the truth: your anger isn’t the enemy. It’s actually a messenger. In this episode, we’ll explore how to shift your perspective on anger so you can stop feeling ashamed of it and instead use it to create stronger, more open communication with your teen.

By listening, you’ll discover:

Do you ever feel like the more you talk to your teen, the less they actually listen?

If power struggles, eye-rolls, and constant pushback feel like the norm in your home, this episode is for you.

Today, Jessica reveals why moms often fall into the trap of over-talking—and how a surprising tool called the "mouth zipper" can transform tense moments into opportunities for connection.

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Ever feel like you’ve got the perfect advice for your teen, but the moment you share it, they shut you down with “You don’t understand”?

If you’ve been left frustrated, helpless, or wondering why your teen won’t listen, you’re not alone. This episode explores why your teen resists your solutions and what you can do to foster calm communication instead of constant power struggles.

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Do you ever feel frustrated when your teen comes to you with a problem, but then shuts down the moment you share your advice?

You’re not alone. Many moms fall into “fix-it mode,” believing solutions will strengthen the bond—but the truth is, your teen craves understanding, not instructions. In this episode, we explore why advice-giving often backfires and how listening can transform your relationship.

By tuning in, you’ll discover:

Do your mornings with your teen feel like an endless cycle of chaos, frustration, and rushed arguments?

Most advice tells moms to “just think positive,” but when you’re already stressed, your brain calls that out as fake. This episode shows why positivity doesn’t stick in high-stress teen moments and what actually works to stop the morning blow-ups.

By tuning in, you’ll discover:

Do your mornings with your teen feel like a frustrating repeat of the same chaos—just like Groundhog Day?

If your teen rolls out of bed late, scrambles to find their stuff, and leaves you both annoyed before the day has even started, you’re not alone. Many moms feel stuck in this exhausting cycle. But the truth is, you have far more power to shift your mornings than you think.

Do your mornings turn into a battle because your teen just can’t seem to wake up on time?

If you’re tired of starting the day with stress, guilt, or shouting matches, you’re not alone. Many moms struggle with teens who hit snooze, rush out the door, and leave you frustrated before the day has even begun. But what if there was a calmer, more effective way to handle it?

Do you jump in with a quick comeback, text, or lecture—only to regret it minutes later?

In this episode, you’ll discover the difference between reacting and responding, why both have their place, and how to spot the moment when a pause will save you from unnecessary conflict or backpedaling.

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When your teen is shut in their room after seeing friends hang out without them, do you rush in to comfort—or to fix?

In this “Coach Me Through This” episode, you’ll hear how a real mom worked through her own reactions before speaking to her excluded teen—and why this inner work changed the conversation completely.

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When your teen sees friends hanging out without them on social media, do you feel the urge to fix it—or to say “just let it go”?

In this episode, you’ll learn why exclusion can hit teens (and parents) so deeply, how social media magnifies that pain, and why your own emotions matter just as much as theirs in these moments.

Ever feel like every conversation with your teen turns into a power struggle?

When you’re caught in frustration, fear, or judgment, it’s almost impossible to hear your teen clearly—let alone respond calmly. This episode shows you how to use the “Perspective Goggles” tool to instantly shift your mindset, lower reactivity, and see the full picture, even in heated moments.

Is your teen refusing to go back to school—and you're torn between pushing them and preserving your relationship?

If you've tried everything from consequences to calm conversations and nothing’s working, this episode helps you see the problem in a whole new way. Discover why the urge to “fix” your teen’s mindset may be backfiring, and how shifting your internal approach can open up the exact connection you’ve been craving.

Does your teen hate school—and you're stuck between yelling, worrying, and wondering what it says about your parenting?

If back-to-school season brings dread and power struggles instead of structure, you’re not alone. In this episode, Jessica opens up about her own experience with a teen who rejected the entire idea of school and offers mindset shifts that will help you stop spiralling and start connecting—without micromanaging or guilt-tripping your kid.

Are you constantly stuck in “what if” thoughts about your teen going off to college—and feeling overwhelmed by fear?

This week’s tool, The Fear Flipper, will teach you how to recognize those fear-based thoughts and ask your brain better questions—ones that lead to clarity instead of chaos. If you’ve been stuck in a loop of anxiety, this episode will give you the exact mindset tool to break free.

Is your teen heading off to college soon—and you’re wondering why it feels like your heart is breaking?

When your child steps into independence, it can feel like you’re losing a part of yourself. This episode is your personal coaching session to help you untangle the overwhelming thoughts and emotions that come with this huge transition—and learn how to let go without falling apart.

Is your heart already breaking at the thought of your teen heading to college—and you’re wondering how you’ll survive the goodbye?

While we obsess over packing lists and dorm essentials, what most moms miss is how emotionally unprepared they are to handle the quiet, the fear, and the identity shift that comes with this life milestone. This episode is your guide to making space for all those big feelings—and coming out the other side with more peace and self-compassion.

Do you find yourself spiralling into worst-case scenarios when your teen doesn’t text back or something feels off?

In today’s episode, Jessica introduces a deceptively simple coaching tool called the Fear vs. Fact Finder—a game-changing practice that helps parents separate emotional overwhelm from grounded reality. If you’re tired of letting anxiety lead the way in tough parenting moments, this episode is your new go-to.

Are your teen’s summer thrill-seeking adventures sending your anxiety into overdrive?

If your teen’s cliff jumping, dirt biking, or spontaneous road trip ideas trigger a full-body “NOPE” reaction, you’re not alone — and you’re not a bad parent. In this episode, we unpack why teens are wired for risk and how moms can respond with calm confidence instead of panic.

Does it feel like family vacations with your teen aren’t what they used to be—and you’re left wondering if they’re ruining the trip or if something else is going on?

If you’ve ever packed your bags hoping for reconnection and joy, only to be met with eye rolls and headphones, you’re not alone. This episode introduces a powerful mindset tool—the Vacation Expectation Reframe—to help you navigate this phase without resentment or emotional exhaustion.

Do your once-excited kids now groan at the idea of a family vacation—and bring more eye rolls and phones than smiles?

If summer break has started to feel more like a power struggle than a peaceful getaway, you're not alone. This episode unpacks why your teen's attitude toward family trips has shifted, and how you can adapt your mindset (and expectations) to reduce friction and reconnect—without losing your mind in the process.

Do you feel like your emotions are running the show—especially in tense moments with your teen?

In this episode, Jessica Stewart reveals the Emotional Energy Meter—a practical tool to help you name, understand, and feel your emotions instead of escaping or burying them. Learn how emotional awareness impacts your energy, your communication, and how your teen learns to handle their emotions by watching you.

Are you avoiding “the talk” with your teen because it feels awkward, overwhelming, or just too uncomfortable to start?

Are you avoiding “the talk” with your teen because it feels awkward, overwhelming, or just too uncomfortable to start?

You're not alone—most moms hesitate to talk about sex, consent, and relationships with their teens, worried it might encourage the very behaviour they’re hoping to prevent. But silence doesn’t protect them—it only leaves them vulnerable to misinformation from peers, media, and the internet

Are you constantly putting your teen’s needs before your own—only to end up exhausted, overwhelmed, and reactive?

This episode dives into why so many moms ignore the advice to “put your oxygen mask on first” and how that silent resistance leads to burnout, guilt, and emotional spirals during the most critical parenting years.

Are you constantly trying to “fix” your teen’s mental health—only to feel more helpless, disconnected, and overwhelmed?

In this deeply personal milestone episode, Jessica shares her emotional journey through her son's OCD diagnosis and what she learned the hard way about supporting a teenager through mental health struggles. If you've ever felt powerless or like you're doing everything wrong, this episode will bring clarity and calm.

Still trying to parent your teen the same way you did when they were little—and wondering why it's not working anymore?

In this short but powerful episode, you'll learn why your default parenting habits might be causing the very pushback and emotional chaos you're trying to avoid. Your teen is operating on a new system—and it's time your parenting upgraded too.

Do you ever catch yourself thinking, "It was so much easier when they were younger…” or “Why do I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing anymore?” You're not alone—and there’s a powerful reason for that shift.

Raising a teenager requires a completely different parenting approach than the one you used when they were little. And while you may know they’re changing, emotionally adapting to this new stage is a whole different story. If you're feeling disoriented, disconnected, or stuck in old habits, this episode will help you understand why—and how to move forwar...

Ever feel like your teen says one thing and you're instantly triggered? What if the key to calm parenting was as simple as pressing a pause button?

As a mom of a teenager, it's easy to slip into reactive mode—snapping, lecturing, or yelling before you even realize what happened. But what if you had a moment to breathe, reflect, and choose how to respond? This episode reveals the science behind why it's so hard to pause—and how mastering this single habit can change the way you parent forever.

Ever felt like you're failing at parenting—especially during your teen’s most difficult moments?

If you’ve ever lost your cool, blamed yourself for your teen’s struggles, or believed everyone else has it figured out, this episode is your lifeline. The pressure to be a “perfect parent” during the teen years can leave you feeling defeated, but what if those feelings are misleading—and even a sign that you're actually doing something right?

Do you feel dread every time you ask your teen to do something—because you know the complaints are coming?

You’re not alone. Many moms of teens struggle with feeling rejected, frustrated, or exhausted by constant pushback. This episode introduces a simple yet powerful tool you can use before these tough moments to reduce conflict and stay calm.