Anger Secrets

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What do you do when the person you love no longer wants to be with you, and anger, fear or past behaviour has broken trust?

In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks directly to those facing one of the hardest moments in a relationship: separation caused by anger issues. With honesty and realism, he explains why rebuilding trust takes time, and outlines a clear, step-by-step path forward for those who are genuinely committed to change.

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Have you ever gone to bed replaying an argument over and over in your mind, wishing you’d said things differently, wishing you’d stayed calmer or wishing the damage hadn’t been done?

If so, you’re not alone. And more importantly, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner or a bad person. It means something inside you is trying to tell you something, and learning how to listen to that signal can change everything.

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You're in the middle of an argument and you know where it's headed. But what if you could change the outcome before things spiral out of control?

In this essential episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals how to recognise the signs of escalating conflict and use simple, proven repair techniques to stop fights before they start and strengthen your relationship instead.

Key Takeaways:

-Every argument offers a choice: escalate the fight or repair the connection.

-The first...

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It’s often not the big things that make you angry. It’s the small stuff that hijacks your day.

In this thoughtful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores why seemingly minor annoyances can trigger such big reactions, and how learning to let go of them can radically improve your relationships, your mood and your life.

Key Takeaways:

-Small events like a comment or forgotten chore often trigger anger because of deeper emotional patterns.

-Reacting in the heat...

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Most relationships don’t fall apart in one explosive moment. They unravel quietly through patterns we barely notice.

In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the four hidden killers that silently destroy relationships from the inside out. If your connection with your partner feels colder, more distant or just off, this episode might explain why, and what you can do about it.

Key Takeaways:

-Criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling are four of the most destructive behaviors in re...

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Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages, even when you're in the same room? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why active listening is the missing link in most relationships, and how mastering it can bring you closer than ever before.

If you’re tired of arguments that go nowhere, this episode offers a better way forward.

Key Takeaways:

-Active listening means being fully present, not planning your reply while your partner is st...

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After an anger outburst, the silence can feel unbearable. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the one essential ingredient most people overlook when trying to change: a powerful personal “why.”

Through real stories from men and women just like you, this episode will help you uncover the deeper reason you want to control your anger, and help you finally break free from the cycle for good.

Key Takeaways:

-Change only lasts when it’s driven by a deep...

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Have you ever found yourself in an argument before you even realise what triggered it? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how defensiveness quietly damages relationships, and how you can stop it.

Learn why your instinct to defend yourself often masks deeper fears, and how choosing connection over combat can transform your relationship.

Key Takeaways:

-Defensiveness often stems from the fear that we're to blame, even when we don’t want to admit it.

-T...

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Have you ever said, “You made me so mad”? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs unpacks the hidden cost of blaming others for your anger—and the freedom that comes when you take full responsibility for your actions.

If you’re ready to step out of blame, stop the cycle of conflict and take back control of your emotions, this episode offers the insights and tools you need to begin.

Key Takeaways:

-Blaming others for your anger gives away you...

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When therapy didn’t work, Katie feared she’d never get control of her anger. Her relationship was falling apart, her parenting was suffering and she was terrified of repeating the cycle of anger she grew up with.

In this inspiring episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs interviews Katie about her powerful journey—how she broke free from past patterns, what finally helped and how her family life has transformed as a result.

Key Takeaways:

-Therapy often focuses on the past...

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Have you ever felt the urge to prove you're right—especially in the heat of an argument? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares a personal story and a lesson from a truck-driving client that will change the way you think about conflict.

Discover why letting go of the need to be right isn’t weakness—it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to protect your relationships and your peace of mind.

Key Takeaways:

-The n...

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Arguments that start small often end in deep emotional disconnect. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how seemingly minor issues can spiral into major conflicts—and how you can change that.

He shares three simple but powerful tips that will help you manage conflict better, communicate more effectively and reconnect with your partner in a meaningful way.

Key Takeaways:

-Conflict doesn’t have to damage your relationship—when handled well, it can actually bring you closer togeth...

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Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere—one moment you're fine, and the next you're exploding?

In this insightful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the real reasons why you might think you get angry so quickly.

By understanding what's truly happening beneath the surface, you can learn to spot the early warning signs of anger, break unhelpful habits and regain control before things spiral.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger rarely comes out of no...

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Have you ever said something in anger that you instantly regretted? In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six powerful, practical tips to help you stay calm and in control—even in the heat of the moment.

Whether you're struggling with sudden outbursts or lingering tension, these strategies can help you shift from reactive to reflective, strengthening your relationships and your emotional well-being.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is a habit, not your identity—and habi...

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What if one moment of clarity could save your relationship? In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Paul, a single father whose anger was slowly pushing away the people he loved most.

When his partner said life felt like “walking on eggshells,” Paul knew something had to change — and in just a few weeks, everything began to shift. This is a story of courage, self-awareness and the power of choosing a different path.

Key Takeaways:

-Const...

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Are you telling yourself you'll deal with your anger someday? In this compassionate yet eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the five most common reasons people avoid anger management — and why those reasons might be keeping you stuck.

If you're ready to stop making excuses and start changing your life, this episode is your wake-up call.

Key Takeaways:

-Believing “anger management won’t work” often stems from past disappointments — but the right tools can lead to real, lasting ch...

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Have you ever poured a drink to unwind, only to find yourself angrier than before? In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the often misunderstood connection between alcohol and anger.

Whether you're a casual drinker or someone who struggles with outbursts after a night out, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a practical path forward.

Key Takeaways:

-Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and impairs judgment, making you more likely to lash out in anger

-If you...

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What if 30 years of anger could be transformed in just five weeks?

In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the remarkable story of Raymond, a man whose volatile temper nearly ended his marriage — until one turning point helped him change everything.

If you've ever felt like your anger is out of control, Raymond's journey will give you hope, practical tools, and a reminder that it’s never too late to change.

Key Takeaways:

-Even deeply root...

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Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm—only to find anger rising before you even realised it? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful, easy-to-apply steps that will help you recognise, defuse and communicate through anger before it takes control.

If you're tired of the regret that follows angry outbursts, these practical tools can help you shift from reaction to intention, and start creating more peaceful moments in your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger often builds sl...

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This episode dives into one of the most difficult but essential topics: understanding how abuse and violence may show up in your life—and how to end the cycle. Anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with clarity and compassion about behaviors that cause harm, whether through words, control, silence or physical actions.

If you’ve ever questioned the impact of your anger or wondered if your actions have crossed a line, this episode offers a courageous path forward.

Key Takeaways:

-Abu...

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Arguments in relationships often start small but quickly spiral into deep disconnection. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why conflict escalates with the people we love most—and how to stop it before it starts.

With three powerful, practical techniques, Alastair guides you to shift from reaction to response, helping you transform your most difficult moments into opportunities for connection.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to resolving conflict—but even small changes can prev...

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In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional toll of anger—not just on the people around you, but on your own sense of self.

If you’ve ever whispered an apology and still felt the weight of guilt, this episode will help you understand why anger shows up and how you can begin to break free from its grip.

Real stories of transformation offer hope, showing that lasting change begins with awareness and a simple, courageous first step...

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In this deeply moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the powerful transformation of Cameron—a husband, father and successful businessman—who took brave steps to change the legacy of anger in his family.

After a painful outburst left his daughter afraid, Cameron realised he was repeating patterns he swore he’d never pass on. What followed was a journey of self-awareness, emotional growth and quiet victories that began with enrolling in The Complete Anger Management System.

Key Takeaways:

-Recog...

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In this powerful episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores a transformative truth: anger doesn’t start in the world around you—it starts within. Through vivid storytelling and real client experiences, Alastair reveals how your thoughts shape your emotions and how shifting your perspective can bring calm, clarity and deeper connection to your life.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is not caused by external events, but by your thoughts and interpretations of those events.

-Recognising your role...

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Have you ever snapped at someone you love — and immediately regretted it?

In today’s powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals what he considers the missing key to managing anger. This simple yet essential shift has helped thousands of people break the cycle of outbursts, regret, and disconnection — and it could do the same for you.

Key Takeaways:

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What has your anger really cost you?

Your peace of mind? A relationship that mattered? Your child’s trust — or your own self-respect?

In this powerful episode, Alastair Duhs invites you to take an honest look at the true cost of anger — not with judgment, but with compassion. He shares real client stories, including Richard, whose marriage collapsed under the weight of unresolved anger, and Jason and Josh, two men who learned to reclaim their calm and their connections by finally unders...

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In this powerful episode, host Alastair Duhs interviews Leon, a courageous man who recently took the step to control his anger.

Initially, Leon didn't realise he had an anger problem. He thought that since he wasn’t yelling or being physical, anger was not an issue for him. Listen as Leon shares how this understanding changed, and how understanding the subtleties of emotional and verbal abuse transformed to approach to anger management.

With his newfound awareness, Leon quickly became a calmer fa...

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The blame game is a trap that keeps people locked in negative patterns and arguments. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while blaming others feels good in the moment, it ultimately damages trust and connection in relationships.

Recognising and stopping the blame game is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships. By practicing self-awareness, empathy and better communication, you can take control of your anger and foster more positive interactions.

Key Takeaways:

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In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into the idea that real change in anger management is possible, even if it feels like nothing works. By the end of the episode, listeners will understand that anger management is a skill that can be learned, not just a trait they are stuck with.

Alastair also emphasises that with the right tools and support, transformation is achievable, and that you are not alone on this anger management journey.

Key Takeaways:

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In this powerful and deeply honest episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, Alastair Duhs sits down with Gary — a recent participant of The Complete Anger Management System — to explore the painful realities of letting anger go unchecked for too long.

Gary opens up about the breakdown of his relationship, the guilt he carries and the critical moment he realised he needed to change — not just for his relationship, but for himself.

With raw vulnerability, Gary shares how enrolling in The Complete Anger...

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In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into four key behaviors that lead to the end of marriages, based on research by Dr. John Gottman. Alastair discusses how these behaviors often creep in unnoticed, slowly eroding trust and connection in relationships.

He emphasises that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are crucial patterns to recognise. Each behavior has its antidote, which can help partners communicate better and rebuild their relationship.

By addressing these issues, couples can create a more loving and...

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In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of a genuine apology and how it can truly heal relationships.

He shares how many people struggle with apologising effectively, often just saying "I'm sorry" without understanding what it really means, and shares seven practical tips to help listeners make their apologies more meaningful.

From acknowledging mistakes to committing to real change, Alastair emphasises that a heartfelt apology can rebuild trust and repair damage. By taking these steps, he believes people...

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Change is possible, even after anger has caused hurt and broken trust. In this episode, anger expert Alastair talks with Simon, a husband and father whose anger impacted his family life.

Simon shares his journey of recognising his anger patterns and taking responsibility for his actions. He emphasises that the path to change starts with oneself and that it’s never too late to become a better person.

By the end of their conversation, listeners will see how facing the truth ab...

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Many couples find themselves stuck in the same argument over and over. They often feel frustrated and exhausted, wondering how to break the cycle. In this episode, anger management expert Alastair shares a three-step approach called the LNC Method.

This method is designed to help couples replace fighting with productive conversations. Alastair emphasises that this isn't just theory; it's a practical way to create understanding and find solutions that work for both partners. By learning to communicate better, you can build happier and...

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Compassion can be a game changer when it comes to managing anger.

In this episode, anger management expert Alastair Duhs shares a powerful story about a man named James, who almost let his rage take over in a hospital parking lot. But instead of acting on his anger, James had a moment of realisation that completely shifted his perspective.

Understanding what others might be going through can help calm the storm of anger. By asking oneself what might be happening for...

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Sometimes, it takes just one angry outburst to hurt someone you love or to do unrepairable relationship damage. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into how to stop anger before it escalates.

Learn five simple strategies to stay calm and grounded when emotions run high. By utilising these strategies, you can prevent anger before it starts and protect your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

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Scott's is the fun Dad who kept the laughs coming. Deep down however, he was dealing with a lot of unresolved pain. Over time, this pain turned into a rocket of rage, especially when he felt his daughters push back against him. After a series of explosive moments, Scott realised he needed to change his approach to anger.

In this episode we hear how Scott faced his past, took ownership of his anger and rebuilt trust with his family through The Complete Anger...

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Fighting with loved ones can be tough. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives into why the fights happens and how to handle them better.

Learn how small issues, like a forgotten anniversary or a simple comment, can escalate into big arguments, leaving both partners feeling hurt. To break this cycle of anger and arguments, Alastair introduces three essential rules for fighting fair. These rules help couples see arguments as chances to connect, keep communication respectful and work together to find solutions. <...

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Feel like anger gets the best of you? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful strategies to help you regain control over your anger and respond thoughtfully instead of reacting explosively.

Learn the importance of recognising your Early Warning Signs of anger, using positive self-talk to stay grounded and challenging your beliefs that fuel anger. These steps are straightforward and practical, aimed at creating calmer and stronger connections with loved ones.

Key Takeaways:

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Anger doesn’t have to control you, and it definitely shouldn’t ruin your relationships. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three key strategies to help manage anger effectively.

These strategies have transformed the lives of many, promoting healthier relationships and a calmer, happier mindset. Tune in to discover how you can take charge of your emotions and create lasting change in your life.

Key Takeaways:

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Do you ever hold back your feelings with someone you love? It can be tough to be vulnerable, but in this episode, host Alastair Duhs shares three solid strategies for opening up and connecting deeper with your partner.

By embracing vulnerability, you can build trust and intimacy, leading to a happier, more loving relationship. Tune in to learn how to drop the emotional walls and feel truly understood.

Key Takeaways:

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Many men wear masks that hide their true feelings, making it hard for them to connect with themselves and others. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs talks about how these masks can suffocate men and keep them isolated.

Alastair emphasises that being vulnerable and honest doesn’t make a man weak; it makes him human. By choosing a new way to express manhood, men can lead happier lives and set a better example for future generations.

Key Takeaways:

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John's story is all about facing anger head-on and finding a way to control it. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, he describes his anger like a volcano, always ready to explode at any moment.

John shares how he learned to confront the roots of his anger and the tools he used to change his behavior. His journey shows that anger often hides deeper issues, and by tackling those, you can build a calmer, happier life and improve your relationships.

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Do conversations with your partner often turn into a mess of frustration? It’s a common issue, and it can really hurt relationships. Poor listening habits erode trust and create resentment. But what if small changes could fix that?

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs shares five practical tips to help anyone become a better listener. These tips are designed to improve communication and build respect and understanding in relationships. By practicing these skills, you can create a calmer, happier and more loving re...

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Feeling disconnected in a relationship can be tough. This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast dives into how couples can bridge that gap. Host Alastair Duhs shares three essential steps to create a happier, lasting marriage.

By implementing these steps, couples can build a strong foundation for love and respect in their marriage, no matter what else is going on.

Key Takeaways:

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Anger can be a powerful emotion, but when it gets out of control, it can cause serious damage. In this episode, we explore the hidden dangers of uncontrolled anger through the story of Joe, a man whose anger almost ruined his marriage and business.

Joe's journey shows how a single moment of realisation can change everything. He learns to master his emotions and finds peace, even as life throws challenges his way. This episode is all about understanding how to control anger and...

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Understanding the crucial distinction between anger, abuse and violence is essential for fostering healthier relationships. This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into these concepts, highlighting that emotional abuse often leaves deeper scars than physical harm.

Listeners will learn about the five main types of abuse and discover why taking responsibility for abusive behaviors is vital for personal growth and change.

Key Takeaways:

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Navigating conflict in romantic relationships can be challenging, but it’s essential for building stronger connections. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares five proven tips to help couples manage disagreements constructively.

By emphasising the importance of controlling anger, avoiding the urge to win arguments and focusing on understanding your partner’s perspective, you can transform heated discussions into opportunities for growth.

Alastair also encourages listeners to choose their battles wisely, ensuring that not every issue beco...

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Taking a Time-Out is an effective tool for controlling your anger. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast you will learn how to use Time-Outs to step back and cool down before conflicts escalate.

Host Alastair Duhs shares actionable tips for implementing Time-Out effectively in your relationship, ensuring both you and your partner feel respected and heard. Join Alastair as he provides insights from over 30 years of anger management experience, empowering you to create a calmer, happier and more loving relationships.

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Are you ready to break free from anger and discover true happiness? This episode introduces the powerful ETFA model, which emphasises that it's not the events in life that trigger anger, but rather your thoughts about those events.

Podcast host Alastair Duhs shares how changing your perspective can lead to greater calmness and understanding, ultimately enhancing your emotional well-being. You'll also learn two transformative habits that can significantly boost your happiness levels.

By applying these strategies, you can take control of...

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When anger controls your life, here's how to take it back: Tony's story is a powerful journey that illustrates that confronting anger is not only possible but essential for personal transformation and healthier relationships.

After a troubling incident that left his wife fearful, Tony realised he needed to address his anger issues for his sake and that of his future children. Through the Complete Anger Management System, he discovered valuable tools and insights that shifted his perspective and helped him take control of...

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Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed by anger? Discover how to regain control of your anger with three transformative steps that will help you manage anger effectively.

This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into recognising the physical, emotional, and cognitive signs of anger and emphasises that awareness is the first crucial step toward change.

Podcast host Alastair Duhs also shares practical strategies for reshaping your thoughts and communicating calmly, ensuring that anger does not escalate into conflict. By applying...

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Forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools for healing and personal growth. Letting go of anger and resentment not only frees others but also liberates yourself.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the profound impact of holding onto past hurts and offers seven actionable tips to help listeners navigate the challenging journey of forgiveness.

From understanding the burden of anger to practicing empathy and communicating feelings, each tip is designed to empower you to...

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Anger can feel like an inescapable cycle, especially for those who have grown up in environments where conflict and frustration are commonplace. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs shares the powerful journey of Angela, a mother struggling with anger management in the wake of her upbringing in a volatile household.

Angela reveals how her father's short temper shaped her understanding of anger, including a gradual realisation that her own reactions were negatively impacting her children and marriage.

The episode uncovers the...

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Does anger affects your relationships, your family or your well-being? How do you know if you have an anger issue? If so, you are not alone.

Learn the signs that indicate your anger may be crossing a line into problematic territory. Host Alastair Duhs shares key insights on how to recognise unhealthy expressions of anger, such as quick escalations, prolonged resentment and harmful impacts on your loved ones.

By understanding these signs, you can take actionable steps towards managing your anger...

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Judgmental thinking is a pervasive issue that sabotages personal relationships and impacts emotional well-being. This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into the instinctive human tendency to judge others, examining its origins in our evolutionary past where quick assessments of people and situations were crucial for survival.

Alastair Duhs, the podcast host, emphasises how this survival instinct has morphed into a detrimental habit that can create conflict and disconnect in modern relationships.

By sharing a powerful ancient Buddhist story about...

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Workplace anger is a pervasive issue, affecting approximately one in five American workers daily. With the pressures of tight deadlines, demanding schedules, and diverse personalities, it's no surprise that conflicts arise in professional settings.

In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs offers listeners concrete strategies to manage anger effectively in the workplace. The episode emphasises three key strategies: taking a brief pause before reacting, reframing the situation and practicing clear communication.

These techniques not only help individuals control their immediate reactions but also...

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. After spending over 30 years teaching over 15,000 men and women to control their anger, why does anger expert Alastair Duhs do this work?

In this episode, Alastair answers this question by sharing an interview with Syrus, a man who has undergone a remarkable transformation from struggling with anger and abuse to a life embracing vulnerability and compassion.

In this episode Syrus recounts his initial reluctance to seek help and the pivotal moment when he realised the extent of his anger's impact on his wife...

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Emotional abuse is a serious issue that can leave deep, lasting scars on both victims and perpetrators.

This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into the nature of emotional abuse, exploring its various forms and the significant impact it can have on relationships.

Show host Alastair Duhs outlines five essential steps to help individuals recognise and break free from emotionally abusive behaviors, emphasising the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's actions.

By understanding the effects of emotional abuse...

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Parents often face overwhelming situations that can easily lead to angry outbursts, affecting both themselves and their children. Learning to control this anger is essential for fostering a calmer, happier family life.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares practical techniques designed for parents to manage their anger effectively.

Key strategies include using the STOP approach, using I statements for communication, and prioritizing self-care. By implementing these methods, parents can break the cycle of anger and...

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Is anger truly a choice?

This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into this profound question, exploring both the superficial and deeper aspects of whether anger is truly a choice.

Anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while feeling angry is a natural human emotion, how you respond to that anger is where your choice lies. By becoming aware of your emotional triggers and recognising your early warning signs of anger, you can regain control of your emotions and decide how...

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com. Mindfulness is an important practice for anyone struggling with anger issues, as emphasised by Alastair Duhs in this insightful podcast episode.

In this episode Alastair elaborates on the essence of mindfulness—being fully present and aware without judgment—and its crucial role in defusing anger.

By cultivating mindfulness, you can learn to recognise your emotional triggers and respond to them intentionally, rather than reacting instinctively, which often leads to regrettable outbursts.

This episode breaks down three valuable mindfulness techniques: deep breathing, body...

Do you feel you and your partner speak different languages when it comes to love and affection?

Or perhaps you and your partner struggle to understand each other's needs and desires.

Or maybe you've heard about the 5 Love Languages idea before but aren't quite sure how to apply it in your relationship.

If any of these situations sound familiar, this episode is for you!

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into the concept of the 5 love languages.

The episode explores what the 5 love...

Are you fed up with losing your temper with the people you love most?

Do you recognise that you need help managing your anger but need help figuring out where to start?

Or perhaps you're painfully aware of the devastating consequences your anger has caused, yet you can't find the motivation to change.

If any of this resonates with you, then this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast is what you need.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into the profound journey of Colin, a 38...

Do you often feel trapped in the same patterns of conflict with your partner?

Have you noticed that your relationship sometimes feels like a game in which someone always blames, rescues, or feels like the victim?

Do you want to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and create a calmer, happier and more understanding relationship?

If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces the Winner’s Triangle, a powerful model created by Au...

Are you tired of being stuck in the same argument again and again?

Do you feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional chaos in your relationship?

Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and take your relationship to a new level of understanding and respect?

If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces listeners to the Drama Triangle, a model developed by Stephen...

In Episode 101 of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the critical role of self-awareness in anger management.

Self-awareness is the foundation of controlling your anger and making thoughtful decisions, and today's discussion spotlights three transformative tips to enhance this skill.

From recognising the subtle signals your body sends during early agitation to understanding personal anger triggers, these insights are designed to empower you to take charge of your reactions.

Join us as we unravel practical strategies to transform anger into opportunities for growth and create more harmonious interactions in your daily...

Welcome to the milestone 100th episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast!

In this special episode, host Alastair Duhs reflects on the journey of creating valuable anger management content over the past two years.

Known for providing practical anger management strategies, this podcast is all about inspiring you with real-life success stories from individuals who have conquered their anger through Alastair's comprehensive course, the Complete Anger Management System.

Tune in to learn how profound change is not only possible but within your reach.

Key Takeaways:

Transformational Journeys: Hear from past...

Relationships are challenging, especially when you are trying to balance work, family, and personal well-being. If you’re like many of the thousands of men I’ve worked with, you might sometimes feel overwhelmed or uncertain about how to maintain a healthy, healthy and loving relationship.

The good news is however, there are some simple and practical strategies you can use to strengthen your connection with your partner, reduce conflict, and create a more happier, more loving and fulfilling relationship.

In today’s episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, we dive into the heart of what m...

Do you find yourself getting angry more often than you'd like?

Or perhaps you lose you temper at those that you love, and know that if things don't change, you may lose the people that matter the most to you?

If so, you’re not alone.

In today’s episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, we dive deep into the complexities of anger and how it affects our daily lives. Join us as we tackle five critical questions that many struggle with, delivering practical advice and personal anecdotes that resonate with anyone seeking to u...

Does it ever feel like your anger takes over before you have time to think?

Or perhaps you struggle to stay calm when someone pushes your buttons, only to regret your actions later?

If either of these scenarios sounds familiar, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you.

In this episode, we delve into the often-misunderstood emotion of anger and explore effective strategies for managing it in the heat of the moment. Join us as we share real-life stories that illustrate how awareness and perspective can transform your interactions, creating healthier...

Have you ever felt offended by something that someone said or did, even if it wasn't intentionally meant to hurt you?

Do you find yourself dwelling on negative comments or situations, and struggle to let them go?

Is it difficult for you to differentiate between constructive criticism and personal attacks in your interactions with others?

If so, then this compelling episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast is for you!

Join us as we explore how your reactions to criticism can shape your relationships and personal growth. We share compelling stories from...

Have you thought about doing an anger management course, but worried that you won't make any changes? Or maybe you've thought: Even if I do learn how to control my anger in the short term, these changes won't last long term?

If you can relate to these concerns, then you're not alone.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs talk to Michael, a 78-year-old retiree who completed an online anger management program 18 months ago.

The episode delves into Michael's significant changes in managing anger, particularly with his family, and...

Are you tired of letting anger control your life? Has someone told you that your temper is getting out of control? If so, you're not alone.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs uncovers the Ten Rules of Anger Management that can transform your life.

From understanding the key to managing anger to recognising when to seek professional help, Alastair provides a comprehensive guide to conquering anger and enhancing your relationships.

Here are some of the key topics discussed in this episode:

Taking Responsibility for Your Actions:<...

Can just six hours a week transform your relationship? According to relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, the answer is "Yes".  

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs reveals the transformative power of Dr. John Gottman's "Magic Six Hours." Learn how dedicating just six hours a week can significantly enhance your relationship, bringing more happiness, love, and fulfillment into your life.

The seven essential steps to implement the Magic Six Hours are as follows:

Are you tired of feeling angry all the time? Do you find it hard to let go of your anger, even when it hurts you and those around you?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs reveals three powerful mindset shifts to help you let go of your anger and find more peace. Alastair dives deep into the psychological strategies that can transform your response to anger, leading to a calmer and happier life.

These mindset shifts include:

Are you tired of constant arguments in your relationship? Do you feel like you and your partner are never on the same page? Do you wish you could communicate more effectively and improve your relationship?

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into practical strategies for becoming a better listener in your relationships. Alastair outlines four essential steps to enhance your listening skills and foster healthier, more meaningful communication with your partner.

These steps include:

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses how to control your anger in 30 days or less.

Alastairs shares three critical steps to manage anger, including short and long-term strategies for controlling anger and how to build a healthier relationship. Additionally, Alastair highlights success stories from individuals who have transformed their lives through his online anger management program.

Key strategies mentioned in this episode to control anger include recognising and managing your Early Warning Signs of anger, using Cognitive Restructuring to change thought patterns and developing effective communication skills.

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Do you and your partner argue with each other frequently? Is your relationship lacking in communication and understanding? Are you and your partner drifting apart and you don't know how to stop it?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, in this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives into three powerful steps to enhance your relationship: addressing anger issues, improving communication skills, and implementing Dr. John Gottman's "Magic Six Hours."

Tune in to learn practical tips, habits, and insights that can lead to a stronger, healthier, and happier relationship.<...

Do you struggle to control your anger? Have you tried to control your anger but still feel overwhelmed and out of control? Do you want to learn practical exercises based on the principles of mindfulness to help you control your temper ?

If you answered "Yes to any of these questions, in today's episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs describes into three powerful mindfulness exercises designed to help you manage anger more effectively. From deep breathing techniques to mindful observation, these exercises are practical tools you can use anytime, anywhere.

But remember, professional gu...

Do you lose your temper at those closest to you? Are your angry outbursts leaving you feeling lonely, isolated and ashamed? Have you Googled "how to control my anger" too many times to admit and are still confused about your best anger management option?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, in this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast host Alastair Duhs dives into the debate: "Should I do a face-to-face or online anger management program?"

Discover firsthand experiences from Alastair's clients and explore recent research that highlights the effectiveness of online programs...

Do you struggle to control your anger? Have you gone to anger management counseling or therapy sessions but still lose your temper in stressful situations? Do you want to learn how to effectively control your anger and improve your relationships with others?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into the pitfalls that can hinder your progress in managing anger and provides actionable tips to navigate these challenges.

From not recognising your Early...

Do you find it difficult to stay calm in stressful situations? Do you lash out at others, even over minor inconveniences or disagreements? Has someone close to you, perhaps your partner or a family member, told you that your anger scares them?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you! In it, host Alastair Duhs delves into a crucial topic that can impact every aspect of your life: how to tell if you have an anger issue.

Alastair explores seven key signs that indicate...

Have you ever found yourself in a cycle of anger and abuse, unsure of how to break free?

Or perhaps you've been raised in a family where you have been exposed to anger, abuse or violence and you are struggling to break this cycle.

Are you looking for a life-changing way to transform your thoughts and feelings, so that you do not get angry in situations that would have previously made you mad?

If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, then you are in the right place.

In...

Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of someone's anger and felt helpless and unsure of how to handle the situation?

Perhaps there are times when your partner loses their temper and you have no idea what to do.

Or perhaps there are times when your partner loses their temper and it triggers you to do the same.

Whatever situation you are in, dealing with other peoples anger can be a difficult and overwhelming experience. In many ways its like being caught in the eye of a storm, with intense emotions...

We've all been there.

You're feeling overwhelmed by frustration or anger, and suddenly it overcomes you. Your heart races, your blood boils and before you know it, you've lost control and said or done something you regret.

In the moment, it can feel impossible to control your anger and respond calmly to whatever situation you are in. But with practice and dedication, it is possible to gain control over your anger, and it can be far easier than you may think possible.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, you will learn...

Do yourself struggle to manage your children's behaviour without getting angry? Do you want to learn effective and gentle ways of disciplining your children without resorting to anger, aggression, intimidation or threats?

If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, then this episode is for you!

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, we dive into the challenging world of parenting—specifically, how to discipline your children without resorting to anger.

Through a list of seven practical tips, the episode covers a range of strategies from understanding your own emotions an...

Have you ever wondered why the smallest issues can turn into the biggest battles in your relationship?

Do you find yourself constantly arguing with your partner over trivial matters?

Do you struggle with issues such as how to be more vulnerable in your relationship, or how to be a better parent to your children than your parents were to you?

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, I share Matthew's heartfelt story of overcoming anger and the positive impact anger management has made in his life.

Matthew shares his personal...

Have you ever found yourself regretting something you said in a moment of anger?

Do you feel like your temper sometimes takes control of you, instead of you being in control of your temper?

Are you been looking for ways to better control your anger and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships and daily life?

If you answered "Yes!" to any of these questions, then this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you.

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into the powerful STOP model of anger...

Do arguments with your partner often spiral out of control?

Do you feel like you're constantly trying to get your point across but your partner never seems to understand what you are saying?

Are anger, arguments or poor communication ruling your relationship?

If so, then today's episode of the Anger Secrets is packed with actionable advice and insightful strategies for improving communication within your relationships.

If you're looking to overcome obstacles and enhance the quality of your interactions with loved ones, you've come to the right place.

What You'll...

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In this power-packed episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into how to identify and handle your anger triggers.

If you've ever found yourself reacting impulsively in a heat of anger or struggling to keep your cool in stressful situations, this episode is for you!

What You'll Learn:

Can anger be expressed in a healthy way?

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores this question and shares the distinction between healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger.

Drawing from over 30 years of experience teaching more than 15,000 men and women how to control their anger, Alastair acknowledges argues that while anger often leads to negative outcomes, it can serve positive purposes when expressed constructively.

In this episode you will learn what constitutes healthy anger and the differences between healthy and unhealthy anger.

Alastair also provides practical...

Do you want to create a happy, healthy and passionate long-term relationship?

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the significance of primary loving relationships for happiness and success in life.

Alastair introduces his upcoming relationship coaching program, "Reignite My Relationship", which aims to help couples foster happier, more loving, and passionate relationships through effective communication, developing intimacy, shared goals and much more.

The core of the episode delves into a lesson from the program, highlighting friendship as the paramount factor in the success of romantic relationships. Citing...

Have you and your partner separated due to anger issues?

If so, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you.

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs explores the challenge of rebuilding a relationship after separation caused by anger issues. While this is difficult, it can be done!

In this episode, Alastair outlines a five-step process for individuals looking to reconcile and rebuild their relationships. These steps include dealing with one's anger issues, accepting responsibility for the impact of one's anger, reestablishing contact when appropriate, showing evidence of change and working on...

Do you struggle to control your anger with your partner?

If so, you are not alone. But it is vital that you learn to control your anger as soon as possible.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs revisits strategies to master your anger in relationships.

Anger is a natural human emotion and it's normal to feel angry from time to time. However, if your anger becomes too intense in your relationship, it will cause significant damage. And even worse, it can very easily result in the end of...

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs provides advice on how to avoid escalating conflicts in relationships.

Drawing on the work of relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, Alastair discusses the concept of relationship repair, or the ability to deescalate conflicts and resolve them harmlessly.

You will learn how to recognise signs of escalating conflict, the importance of valuing the relationship over the conflict, and how to make repair attempts to deescalate conflict.

Alastair offers practical examples of relationship repair attempts and emphasises the significance of accepting and acknowledging repair attempts from your partner.

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of not sweating the small stuff in life.

Alastair describes how small issues often escalate into larger conflicts, and why this is.

This episode will teach you to take a step back before responding to situations, question the long-term significance of any issue you are facing and practice gratitude.

Alastair also shares his personal perspective on the value of focusing on the important aspects, and why he does not sweat the small stuff!

Finally, Alastair shares how...

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs discusses four behaviors that quietly kill any relationship.

You will learn what these behaviors are, real-life examples of these behaviors and the "antidotes" (or opposites) to these behaviors.

If you want to create a calmer, happier and more loving relationship, this episode is for you.

Alastair discusses the importance of managing anger in maintaining a happy, healthy and loving relationship. He also introduces his powerful online anger management coaching program called The Complete Anger Management System.

For more information on this powerful program visit:

In episode 69 of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the power of active listening to transform relationships.

This episode will teach you:

You will also discover how active listening can help you create calmer, healthier and more loving relationships.

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Remember too that struggle with anger is a common issue, but one you...

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs addresses an important question to ask while seeking to control your anger: '

Why do you want to control your anger?

Alastair describes why knowing your motivation for change is crucial to successfully controlling your anger.

Various responses to this question from clients, often complex and deeply personal, are shared, demonstrating the different reasons people seek to control their anger.

Key motivations include everything from bettering relationships, setting positive examples, breaking the cycle of anger or abusive behaviors, to leading...