The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

If intimacy feels harder than it should, this conversation offers a different way of looking at it. This episode is about staying connected through real emotions, real differences, and the very human messiness of long-term relationships.

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with men's and relationship coach Bryan Reeves. Bryan shares the winding path that led him here—from Air Force captain and corporate executive to relationship coach—after realizing in his late 30s that, despite being successful and well-intentioned, he had never actually learned how to create emotional safety or intimacy. That reck...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pleasure advocate and sex educator Melissa Louise. We explore the connection between sexual confidence, creativity, and self-trust, and how owning your sexual energy can change the way you show up in your relationships and your life.

Along the way, Melissa shares her personal journey of growing up in a conservative, patriarchal culture in South Australia and navigating cultural shame, sexual trauma, and rigid gender roles. Together, we unpack how both men and women are constrained by societal expectations, how mistrust between genders is reinforced...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with psychologist and author Dr. Eric Fitz Medrude about what it really means to be "a better man." Together, we explore how cultural conditioning, shame, and lack of real education have left so many men confused about sex, masculinity, and intimacy.

Eric shares how his Catholic upbringing and family's unusually frank conversations about sex shaped his perspective, and how those early experiences inspired his book, The Better Man. We dive into common myths about porn, testosterone, and what men are "supposed" to want—and how tho...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with elder, teacher, author, and longtime men's work facilitator Dene Maria Sebastiana, author of Fierce & Tender: Healing the Deep Masculine. We explore what really happens inside men's circles—and why emotional maturity, vulnerability, and deep male connection are essential for better sex and healthier relationships.

Dene shares his journey from growing up in a hyper-masculine world to leading transformational circles across the U.S. and Mexico. He talks about the power of integrating both the fierce and the tender—the masculine and feminine energies within all of us—a...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with board-certified sexologist Dr. Diane Mueller. She holds doctorates in naturopathy and acupuncture, is the founder of MyLibidoDoc.com, and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast. Together we explore how science, spirituality, and sensuality come together to shape desire—what awakens it, and what quietly turns it off.

Pelvic Health, Pleasure & the Cooch Ball with Jana Danielson

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pelvic health expert and creator of the Cooch Ball, Jana Danielson. We explore the connection between pelvic floor health and sexual well-being, and how caring for this overlooked part of the body can unlock more intimacy, pleasure, and vitality.

Along the way, Jana shares her journey of pain, incontinence, and dismissal by the medical system—and how discovering Pilates led to her healing and ultimately the creation of the Cooch Ball.

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex and relationship coach, Dr. Jeni Wahlig, co-founder of Powerful Love Relationships and creator of the Powerful Love Method. Together we explore how to create "next level love" through radical self-leadership—even when your partner isn't ready or willing to do the work.

In this conversation, we dive into Jeni's Awareness → Choice → Power framework and how it helps you stop repeating old patterns, renegotiate agreements with freedom and repair, and reframe conflict as an opportunity for deeper trust.

Along the way, Jeni shares her powerf...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Mel Cassidy, a queer, multidisciplinary somatic practitioner and relationship coach who specializes in supporting queer and questioning folks navigating non-monogamy. Together, we explore the liberating possibilities of honest, consensual non-monogamy—how it works, why it can be both exhilarating and challenging, and what it means to approach relationships with openness and authenticity.

Mel's personal journey—from crafting imaginative, non-monogamous love stories as a child to courageously embracing relationship anarchy and becoming their own primary partner—sets the stage for a conversation that is both vulnerable and deeply...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex, Relationship and Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach Ryan Brown. Together, we explore how understanding the Erotic Blueprints can unlock new ways to experience pleasure, connection, and self-expression. Ryan's own story, from growing up in a conservative, sex-negative environment to embracing their full erotic and gender expansiveness, sets the stage for a conversation that is both honest and inspiring.

As we dive deeper, Ryan unpacks what makes the Erotic Blueprints so powerful, explaining how they can be maps to guide us toward a richer, juicier experience

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with leading Somatic Sex Therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, Ma. We explore how women can reclaim their sexuality—not by waiting for someone else to unlock their pleasure, but by learning to create it for themselves.

Susan shares her powerful personal story—how she went from a sexless marriage to discovering deep, full-body pleasure on her own. That awakening became the catalyst for her life's work helping others break free from sexual shame and disconnection.

Together, we unpack the common myths about women's sexuality and why so m...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Somatic Sex Coach Danie Bergstrom where we explore what it really means to initiate intimacy with confidence—especially for queer women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) folks navigating trauma, social conditioning, and disconnection from desire.

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with clinical psychologist and neurodiversity expert Dr. Matt Zakreski about navigating sex, dating, and relationships through the lens of neurodivergence. From decoding consent to building confidence in communication, Dr. Matt offers real talk, deep insight, and practical tools for connection.

In this conversation, we go behind the scenes of the social dynamics most people take for granted—like reading the room, picking up on flirting, or knowing how to initiate intimacy—and what happens when your brain processes the world differently. Dr. Matt breaks down why things like...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Adult Film Performer, Producer and CEO of Red MILF Productions, Rachel Steele about the liberating—and often misunderstood—world of sexual fantasy. From taboo storylines to personal empowerment, Rachel shares how her work creates space for people to safely explore their desires without shame.

In this fascinating conversation, we take you behind the scenes of the adult film industry—from camming and casting to scripting and shooting—and unpack the difference between sexual entertainment and education. Rachel opens up about how she accidentally entered the industry, why she...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coaches, podcast hosts, and longtime partners Jason and Tina Marie Scott. We explore what it really takes to keep love alive beyond the honeymoon stage—and how a thriving relationship is built not on perfection, but on presence, communication, and intentional care.

During this conversation, Jason and Tina Marie discuss the foundation of friendship in their 33-year marriage, how they've redefined traditional roles in their partnership, and why self-awareness is key to lasting intimacy. Along the way, they share their own story—from a bumpy firs...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Dominatrix and kink educator Miss. Em, who brings over 20 years of experience in the world of BDSM, fetishes, and power dynamics. Hear about how her early curiosity around taboo desires became a calling—and how she uses passion, presence, and emotional intelligence to create safe, transformative experiences.

During this conversation, Miss. Em shares her insights on everything from the origins of fetish and submission to the importance of aftercare and the art of psychological play. We explore how kink isn't always about sex—and how rituals, scen...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sexologist and Educator Dr. Evelin Molina Dacker about the power of open conversations around sexual health at every stage of life. She gets real about her own journey—breaking free from societal expectations and redefining what pleasure looks like, especially through menopause.

During this conversation, Dr. Eveline shares her simple but powerful STARS framework to help guide open and shame-free discussions around intimacy. We discuss how this tool can help anyone—whether single or partnered—navigate important conversations about sex with ease and confidence.

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist and intimacy expert Dr. Toni Baer. We dive into sexual identity, fantasies, and the power of secrets in relationships. Dr. Toni shares how her personal journey—from high school teacher to sexologist—was shaped by a deeply personal family tragedy that ignited her passion for helping others embrace their desires and navigate sexual identity.

Along the way, we explore common sexual fantasies, why some are better left unspoken, and how privacy and consent shape intimate conversations. Dr. Toni also reveals how secrets can create stress in r...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with international Sex and Intimacy Educator and Relationship Coach, Ken Blackman. In this conversation, we dive deep into the nuance of jealousy and how it appears in relationships, exploring the different types of jealousy that can uniquely affect intimate connections. We also touch upon the transformative power of identifying different relationship motivations and how understanding these can shift things from transactional interactions to passionate partnerships.

Along the way, Ken shares his inspiring story from being an Apple software engineer to his current mission of helping couples co-create...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Certified Bondassage Trainer, Entrepreneur & Coach, Coco Williams who dives deep with us into the power of feminine energy, the art of flirting, and the journey of personal growth and healing. We talk about how subtle shifts in communication can significantly affect our interactions and relationships and the ways flirting can elevate your mood and energy while also exploring the nuances of flirting across different cultures and the cultural fears around it.  Along the way, Coco opens up about her healing journey, including therapy, coaching, and self-reflection techniques all l...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I chat with Sex Educator, Somatic Sex Therapist and Female Ejaculation Expert, Tallulah Sulis about empowering female sexuality, fostering better communication, and enhancing intimacy in relationships. As we talk, Tallulah shares a bit of her journey into somatic coaching as she learned the deep importance of nervous system regulation and discovered the concept of core erotic desires to deepen connection. Along the way, we chat about the value of slow seduction, the dynamics of initiating  and responding partners, and how open, reciprocal communication can transform sexual experiences. This episode is absolutely p...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I speak with the brilliant Neuroscientist, Best-Selling Author, Sex Therapist, & Licensed Psychotherapist Dr. Nan Wise.  During this conversation, we dive into the fascinating and transformative topic of "The Neuroscience of Pleasure and Happiness," uncovering how our brains are beautifully designed for connection, joy, and emotional well-being.

Along the way, Dr. Wise shares her inspiring journey from therapist to scientist, sparked by her deep curiosity about the powerful impact of pleasure on mental and emotional health. We also explore essential topics like overcoming sexual anxiety, fostering deeper, more authentic relationships, a...

In this episode, I sit down with Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Somatic Sexological Bodyworker Ayce Kypton. Ayce shares his inspiring journey from growing up as a conservative, Republican Christian kid to living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a trans-masculine individual. Together, we explore his passion for somatic embodiment and reclaiming pleasure.

Along the way, we dive into the importance of creating safe spaces—especially for LGBTQ individuals—to reconnect with their desires and express their needs openly. Ayce opens up about his personal journey of sexual self-discovery, revealing how approaches like the Erotic Blueprints and sexological body...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of

drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration.

Annie's extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to ou...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Author & Polyamory Educator Kevin Patterson exploring the world of non-monogamy. During this conversation, we delve into the nuances of polyamory, debunking stereotypes, and discussing the importance of clear communication and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Kevin's personal experiences, from navigating long-term relationships to balancing family and social dynamics, offer valuable insights for anyone exploring life outside the bounds of monogamy. We also get into the challenges of balancing multiple relationship dynamics, maintaining personal interests, self-care and parenthood. Kevin speaks to race and representation in the polyamorous community, emphasizing that...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with BDSM educator and creator of Dom Sub Living, Alesandra Madison. We delve into the dynamic world of Dom/Sub relationships, exploring how BDSM can be both healing and beneficial for partnership.

Alesandra shares a bit of her journey into BDSM as a lifestyle, giving us some invaluable insights into the importance of open communication, mutual respect, and regular check-ins in maintaining healthy relationships. We talk about different styles of BDSM partnership, safety, finding partners, kink in modern culture and how to get started with...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with Pamela Madsen, a true pioneer in women's sexual wellness and founder of the "Back to the Body Method." We dive deep into the transformative power of self-confidence, self-love, and how women can reclaim their erotic energy for more than just sexual expression—as a vital force in all areas of life.

Along the way, Pamela shares her journey, from her roots in the Bronx to creating immersive retreats in Joshua Tree that help women explore their bodies in safe, empowering environments. We talk abo...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with acupuncturist, theta healer, and sex relationship coach Alexis Ware, for a deep dive into voicing our desires. We explore the fascinating connection between the throat and the clitoris, and how speaking our truth is vital for intimacy and connection in relationships. Along the way, Alexis shares powerful insights on the importance of feeling safe to express our needs and the role open communication plays in fulfilling sexual and emotional connections.

As we chat, Alexis reveals her transformative journey through orgasmic meditation, and emphasizes the significance...

Is there such a thing as 'ethical porn'?

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sex Therapist Dr. Tom Murray to explore this question as well as pornography trends, erotophobia and different control dynamics as they play out within relationships . 

Along the way, hear more of Dr. Tom's story of becoming a sex therapist including time spent with pornography distribution giving him an insider's view to the industry.  Besides exploring the relationship between societal norms, expectations, fantasies and desires, we take a deep dive into control dynamics, namely over-controlling,  in relationships, a t...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Licensed Social Worker and Sexual Freedom Advocate, Mandy Salley of the Woodhall Freedom Foundation. In this conversation, we chat about some of the limitations of sexual freedom in the United States, touching on laws against activities like cunnilingus or interracial sex and how outdated these laws have become. We delve into the Comstock Act and its lingering effects on mailing erotic materials and contraception information. Along the way, Mandy shares insights into effective laws that protect sex workers, such as the "Stop Violence in the Sex Trades Act"...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sexologist, author, and sexual strategist Marla Renee Stewart who shares her extensive experience studying human sexuality and running workshops worldwide through her sexuality education company, Velvet Lips and as co-founder of the groundbreaking Sex Down South Conference. Marla shares her own journey, including her move from California to the South, and how it shaped her mission to create spaces for marginalized communities to explore sexual liberation and within the kink world.  She also talks about what she's seen in the evolving landscape of sex and relationship from desire d...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Hypnotherapist, Subconscious Reprogramming Expert and Relationship Coach,  Kate Shelor who takes us into the complexities behind the differences between how men and women perceive and communicate love and intimacy. Kate shares some of her personal journey using hypnotherapy to overcome her personal challenges with orgasms.  This led her to develop her own work bringing hypnotherapy into the realm of sex, body trauma, orgasms, and erections.  Along the way we chat about the power of 'scheduling' intimacy, the unrealistic expectations created by the media, the differences between men and wom...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Spiritual Teacher, Adam Chacksfield who takes us on a journey through spiritual healing and transformation of Erotic Shadows through his unique work combining non-duality and somatic practices.  Adam discusses how shadow work can empower individuals to embrace their desires, set boundaries, and break free from shame stories, particularly with our erotic turn-ons and fantasies. Along the way, we hear about Adam's journey through inner transformation, exploration of the relationship between eroticism and spirituality, and development of his method for healing shadow.  Adam's insights on embracing and exploring shadow as...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with certified Tantra educator and level two teacher trainer, Lisa Rizzoli. Lisa shares profound insights into the integration of sexual energy with life force energy, and how it can be harnessed to manifest the life we desire. We delve into her journey into Tantra, starting at a transformative retreat at Esalen, and how her experiences shaped her current practices. Lisa introduces a daily meditation practice called "loving myself awake," and discusses how it brings more sensation and awareness into the body. We also explore the spiritual and creative power...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Intimacy Expert to millions and best-selling Author Susan Bratton who brings her personal stories of receiving adoration to our discussion of expanding the definition of orgasm. During this fun and insightful conversation, we delve into the importance of knowledge, vulnerability, and meticulous scheduling to navigate different kinds of complex relationships while touching on the significance of adoration as a fundamental human desire that society often suppresses.

Susan sheds light on the benefits of oxytocin, the need for more time and stimulation to achieve arousal...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with CEO of Firmtech, Dr. Elliot Justin. Dr. Justin brings his extensive knowledge in medical technology and personal experience to share his innovations towards improved male sexual health and performance.

Beyond the technology available, we talk about the importance of non-rushed, pleasurable sexual experiences, prioritizing regular lovemaking and how planning intimate moments can help maintain the romantic connection between partners.  Diving into the science of pleasure a bit, Dr. Justin shares the benefits of regular sexual activity for maintaining penile and overall health, highlighting the ro...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sexual Fantasy Expert, Artemisia de Vine. Artemisia shares her personal story from her restrictive upbringing through her discovery of sexual fantasies and expanded consciousness to becoming a professional dominatrix.  During this conversation, we dive into the exploration of desires rather than suppression of them in forming a healthy relationship with desire for sexual play.  Atemisia brings a wealth of training and expertise in creating emotional and psychological safety during sexual play, offering listeners a unique exercise to explore sexual preferences.   With insights from her upcoming book "The Spirituality of...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Sensuality and Love Coach Maya Kova.

Maya's journey began as young woman fascinated by love, propelling her on a path to conquer her own relationship anxiety. Her journey and expertise offer a treasure trove of enlightenment that has the potential to revolutionize your experience with love and desire. With her partner, Maya has navigated the challenges of anxiety and attachment, crafting a grounded and secure co-creative partnership built upon self regulation of your nervous system.

Now, Maya draws on these personal experiences along...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with pioneering erotic bodywork educator Joseph Kramer, PhD. Joseph shares his transformative journey from academia to becoming a leading teacher of erotic massage and sexual embodiment. In this conversation, we delve into how pornography– which is often seen as 'bad'-- can be used as a tool to learn the art of touch in your relationship.  Along the way, we chat about methods for increased body awareness during self-pleasure, how to enhance erotic experience through breath and presence, and the value of experiencing all kinds of touch… even beyond the eroti...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Tantric Lawyer,  Kim Mukti Nirjhara.  Kim blends the worlds of deep spiritual practice and the legal field, using tantric principles to navigate personal evolution through conflict resolution. Kim shares her transformative journey to discovering tantric therapy, the revitalization of her yoni, and how she came to bring together the intertwining of emotion and pleasure into working with legal disputes. During our conversation, Kim talks about her unique path of facilitating community leadership and the importance of healing sexual trauma within the body. This rich conversation touches on misconceptions of...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with PhD, Sex and Relationship Coach, Sexuality Educator, and Sexological Bodyworker Charlie Glickman. Charlie shares his extensive experience and wisdom from over three decades of working in the field of sexuality education. We talk about his book,  "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure" providing listeners with an in-depth look at the pleasures and benefits of prostate stimulation for cisgender men, as well as touching on experiences for transgender women, non-binary, and gender-neutral individuals with prostates. As Charlie shares about his own journey to sexual education, he shares about the i...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with NeoTantra Educator and Pleasure and Intimacy Expert Caroline Carrington. Caroline shares her transformative journey from the corporate world to the rich and empowering realm of NeoTantra. During our conversation, we explore the differences between NeoTantra and traditional Tantra, discussing how dynamic meditations and mantras can act as profound tools for sexual mastery and deeper connection. Caroline provides valuable tips on reconnecting with the body and utilizing the chakras to improve sexual experiences.   Along the way, we talk about how to improve communication, sexual stamina and increase ov...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Bloom Community CEO, Noa Elan. Noa brings an innovative and refreshing approach to finding experiences and creating connections in the dating and social world bridging online access with live, in-person events.   During this conversation we dive into how a digital event & community site like Bloom can allow folks to communicate more authentically to form deeper relationships.  Along the way, Noa shares her story of learning about sexuality, connection, embodiment and relationship all leading to the creation of Bloom.  We talk about the nuances of consent, the valu...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Family, Divorce and Relationship Coach Veronica Nabizade. Veronica brings her wide range of experience from legal mediation to deep spiritual practice, and immense work on inner growth to support women in difficult marriages.   Her feeling is that "if it's worth fighting about, it's worth fixing." which is the heart of her work as the founder of Relationship Restart. This was an extremely rich conversation exploring leverage, personal development and the importance of self-relationship as the path towards either thriving together or divorcing with dignity.  We talked about codependency in...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Physician Healthcare Consultant, Keynote Speaker and Best-Selling Author, Dr. Erkeda.   Dr. Erkeda brings us their wisdom related to sexual health and wellness, particularly women's health issues and how to advocate for oneself with healthcare providers.  We touch on the struggles women have in the healthcare system due to poor education in women's health as well as getting support around sexual disorders.  We explore pelvic floor health and how physical wellness plays a major role in our sexual wellness.  Dr. Erkeda speaks about her commitment to provide more...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Bodyworker, Sexual Pioneer, Sound Healer, Dominatrix, and Visionary Craniosacral Practitioner, Emily Oren. Emily reflects on patterns of being absorbed into relationships and how that led to learning important insights on boundaries, self-intimacy and vulnerability.  She deep dives into what boundaries are, exploring your personal boundaries and expressing them in healthy ways.  During this conversation, we talk about vulnerability, self-intimacy, physical pleasure and slowing down to explore emotional intimacy.  Along the way, we hear a bit about Emily's journey as a model, artist, singer, and storyteller as we c...

In this episode I talk with Happiness Empowerment and Couples Intimacy Coach, Shay Sun.  Shay tells us about their journey with understanding the changing nature of relationships over time.  He shares about his exploration into Chinese Philosophy and its wisdom for the constant change of relationship as well the secrets it reveals about feminine pleasure .  In this conversation, we talk about strong women, creating desire, Tantra Speed Date, and the communication needed between a couple for great sex and deeper intimacy. We also chat about shutdown and resentment between couples and some tips for healing that divide by coming bac...

In this episode I talk with mentor, breathwork teacher, storyteller and creator of the Yoniverse Monologues, Sirena Andrea.  Sirena tells us about her work with women telling their stories to release shame around their experiences and desires.  She shares her journey as a breathwork practitioner and the transformative power breathwork has for healing and empowerment.  In this conversation, we explore the impact the stories we tell about our bodies have on our identities and the effect that has both in and out of the bedroom. We also chat about uncomfortable emotions and how to embrace them better sex and a f...

In this episode I talk with autistic polymath, maverick leader, business & life strategist and Tantra lineage holder Tanja Diamond. Tanja opens up about her own experiences as an introvert and offers valuable advice on embracing awkwardness during the dating process.
She shares her insights on autism, relationships, and the journey to better sex. Hear more of Tanja's journey with the unique dating challenges faced by individuals on the autism spectrum. During our conversation, we talk about understanding love and lust, autistic struggles, healing trauma and how to turn awkward conversations into fantastic sex.  You don't have to be n...

In this episode I talk with Love, Sex & Relationship Coach Iryna Sulim who specializes in men's empowerment and sexual mastery.  Hear Iryna's journey into Tantra and sacred sexuality and how that has informed her relationships as she becomes a mother.  During this conversation, we talk about the dance of the polarities within everyday life of kids, partners and jobs.  Iryna shares with us the importance of deep inner self-knowledge and tells us some easy ways to reconnect to your sexy self to share with a partner.

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In this episode I talk with Sex Coach, Will Tantra about the practice of Tantra and its impact on enhancing pleasure and intimacy in relationships. Hear about Will's personal journey in the field of sex coaching and the benefits of practicing edging and energywork during masturbation.  We also talk about how to create a masturbation practice to prepare for partnered sex, the role of breath, sound, and movement in experiencing touch and the role porn plays in sexual fantasy.  Along the way, Will shares about the need for comprehensive sex education for women as well as men, optimizing pleasure an...

On this episode I sit down with professional Dominatrix and Coach, Daytona Day to dive into the world of Dominance & Submission (D/s). Hear how she got started in the world of fetish fashion which eventually led her to D/s and mentoring in that space.  In discussing the exploration of D/s within the kink world, we look at the value of understanding both the dominant and submissive energies within yourself as a path to empowerment. Daytona brings us through the ins and outs of exploring dominant/submissive experiences including boundaries, role-play, kink psychology and living 24/7 in this l...

On this episode I sit down with Tantric Scientist Dr. Jessica Harvey to talk about sexuality as a sacred practice.  Hear her story of taking her MIT-trained Organic Chemist academic research skills and applying them to the exploration of consciousness and sacred relating.  We dive into the path of Tantric wisdom that teaches sexuality as a sacred path for awakening and liberation from suffering.  Dr. Harvey shares her perspectives on emotional intelligence, mens' sexuality and how to empower men to vulnerably reclaim their desires in ways that also respect and honor women. Jessica shares more about her research into des...

 In this episode I sit down with filmmaker Max Carey, whose recent film, "tOuch Kink" explores  Human Sexuality and consensual kink practices. We discuss the evolution of kink culture, the importance of breaking free from societal boxes, and how the ethical guidelines used in BDSM can inform all kinds of romantic relationships beyond kink.  Our conversation wanders, like Max's tour of over 137 countries, through some of his personal story from farm-boy to kinky film director and a range of topics including informed consent, negotiation, outdated social norms and paths to deeper communication and trust in relationships.  Max shares more abou...

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with accomplished Sex & Relationship Educator, Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates.   We took a deep dive into relationship repair - what it is, why to do it and her best tips on how to go about it.  Throughout our discussion, Hazel-Grace shared their personal journey to discover and embrace their own sexuality as well as the importance of doing the work to heal in relationships. During this  fun and deep conversation, they share how to do  relationship repair well  (for all types of relationships) and use it as a path...

In this episode I sit down with astrologer, witch, and shamanistic strategist Umoh Luna. In this VERY unfiltered conversation, we explore the dynamics of sexual energy, the drama triangle, bodily autonomy and how all of this ties into sexual responsibility.  We dive into all the things – shame, judgment, empowerment, victimhood and power.  Juicy, right?!  Umoh shares the importance of playful curiosity while  exploring your own body. This curiosity is not just for you to learn yourself, but brings an element of even more depth when you bring it to the bedroom with your partner. 

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, I sit down with clinical hypnotherapist, executive coach, and author Michelle Walters to talk about the power of the mind in shaping our reality. Michelle shares about her journey into the world of hypnosis, how it has since become her passion leading to her recently publish book, "An Alignment of Spirit". This was such a fun conversation as we delve into hypnosis for intimacy and relationships! Personally, I've been curious about hypnosis for some time and Michelle answered all the questions as we explored Erotic Hypnosis, how it can help erectile...

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Deborah Catt interviews Beth Davis, known as the Dr. Purpose, an advisor to entrepreneurs and career professionals globally. Beth uses her intuition, extensive sales, marketing, and content creation experience, along with expertise in scientific hand analysis and human design, to help clients discover and unleash their purpose and design their life around their gifts for soul fulfillment. Beth shares her journey into entrepreneurship and the importance of being present in the now. Throughout the podcast, Deborah and Beth have an unfiltered conversation about sex and relationships, exploring the topic from...

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When it comes to sex, sometimes you need some help. You may be wondering how you can move towards better sex, or even how you can make your current sex life better. It's hard to say exactly what steps you should take in your personal search for improving your sex life without some guidance.

In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Louis Brantmeyer, an extraordinary business coach for heart-centered coaches, powerful creator, magical manifestor, eclectic philosopher, and devotee of growth, healing, love, and science fiction. He will talk about how c...

Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we're doing something a little different!  I'm turning the tables (or mic) around and for the first time ever, I'll be the guest, and my dear friend, Missy Singer DuMars will interview ME!  In this intimate conversation, nothing is off-limits!  We'll talk about my early relationships, unique childhood experiences, and how my passion for this work began.  Along the way, we'll chat about how to get your 'sexy' on, the basics of Tantra, Kink, Communication, and what I see as the Three Pillars to Better Sex all peppered with fun stories!

Dating can be stressful and intimidating at times, but it is also an excellent opportunity to connect with others, especially when you've found a good match. Whether you're a beginner to dating or looking for a refresher course in overcoming your dating fears, this episode is for you!

Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Matchmaker and Dating Coach Dan Silverman, who helps those singles prepare for fun dates by teaching them proven techniques for success. He offers immersive training to teach clients how to overcome dating fears and learned habits. 

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In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we will be having conversations with Eirikah Delaunay, a writer, Witch, and sexual rebel who identifies as a white, polyamorous, bisexual, cisgender woman, Dominant-leaning Switch, and sadomasochist. She is also the mother of two amazing adult children, an executive-level academic professional, and previously a monogamous wife of 20 years. Both/and is her magic word.

The founder of Desire Alchemy, she is a somatic sex+relationship coach and initiated priestess who helps people use embodiment, storytelling, and ritual to transform the energy of their own unique...

Are you having sex with your partner and not feeling like you have a clear understanding of their sexual needs? Are you unsure of how to ask questions, make requests, or navigate through conversations about sexuality? If so, it may be time to look toward honest and authentic sex.

Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Shana James, who has coached more than a thousand men and women to have passionate connections and fulfilling relationships. Whether you're single and looking to date, want a long-term relationship, or your relationship isn't satisfying, Shana quickly pinpoints t...

Today on The Better Sex Podcast, we have Zahava Griss, Founder of Embody More Love, a spiritual kinky dance community for personal and cultural liberation. For over 22 years, Z has been guiding dance, embodiment, and eros as the source of healing, creativity, building community, and shifting our culture. Z's love coaching focuses on secure attachment, kink, gender, expression, polyamory, and the erotic arts. 

In this episode, Z will unravel how they grew up with a lot of energy and was socialized as a white girl, which gave them the opportunity to understand how white supremacy culture is...

In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by Leah Piper.  Leah Piper, Founder of More Love Works and Co-Founder of the Sex Reimagined Podcast. Leah is a Certified Tantra Master Coach & Educator with a background in Positive Psychology. For 20 years she has been the primary female facilitator at the Source School of Tantra with Charles Muir.

By combining the ancient art of conscious loving with the modern science of well-being, her students have discovered that sex unlocks the keys to having a passionate, loving, and spiritually fulfilling life.

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Expectations about pleasure, and the messages you get about what it means to be a sexual being, are often deep. But I want you to know that it is possible to embrace pleasure —and that it is possible to find joy in your body and in the world around you. 

In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by M'kali-Hashiki. M'Kali is a Somatic Sacred Storyteller & Erotic Ritualist. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork; Sound, Voice, & Music Healing; and Tantric Sacred Intimacy. As a Somat...

Our whole lives are sex. Yes, you read that right. And I don't mean it literally. Sometimes sex is boring; other times, it is exciting–which is pretty much like it.

Here's a truth about sex– it's not just about you getting an orgasm; forget about penetration; it's just part of it. The truth is, sex feels good and even feels best when it touches parts of us that haven't felt good in a while; it could be our fears, our traumas, our insecurities, or whatever that isn't feeling good inside of us, or it could...

You know that feeling when you're out in the world, and you feel safe? You know what I mean, right? It's that feeling that lets you breathe a little easier, and allows you to be yourself and do whatever you want—the ones that make you feel like there's no way out.

And it's also that same feeling when you're in bed with your partner and do the intense moments the way you desire. We all want this kind of safety and power in our lives. But how often do we get it? How often do...

The key to better sex is to understand ourselves– what makes us feel good and what doesn't. Women are often not given the chance to rule in bed or they aren't even asked if they are enjoying the moment. 

Communicating and understanding what we want as a woman allows us to live with more connection and pleasurable experience that suffices our desires and erotic fantasies– this is where real empowerment lies. Know that you can speak up for yourself and that maybe you can learn how to be more assertive about your desires and boundaries because we deser...

We don't think about it a lot, but our emotional and spiritual health plays a HUGE role in our sex life. This week, I've invited relationships expert and author Sequoia Stafford onto the show to unpack some of the less-obvious causes of challenges people run into in the bedroom - from erectile dysfunction to jealousy.  Join Sequoia and I as we discuss:

Thea grew up in a traditional family where she was taught nothing about sex/intimacy/relating to others formally. She learned what she saw, did what she was told, and followed the path that she was promised would produce success... but when that path left her a newly divorced, stay-at-home mom of two kids in her late 20s, she decided it was time to try something different. 

On her quest to learn who she was outside of the role of "mom", she learned to love and listen to herself again. This gave her the power she needed t...

Thea grew up in a traditional family where she was taught nothing about sex/intimacy/relating to others formally. She learned what she saw, did what she was told, and followed the path that she was promised would produce success... but when that path left her a newly divorced, stay-at-home mom of two kids in her late 20s, she decided it was time to try something different. 

On her quest to learn who she was outside of the role of "mom", she learned to love and listen to herself again. This gave her the power she needed t...

Our guests' beginnings - Suzannah with a political and military background and Andre with a focus on love and relationships - couldn't be more different, but their meeting transformed their lives. When their traditional marriages ended and forced them to look at how they wanted to live for the first time in a long time, they found each other again and vowed to explore new ways of building relationships and relationship dynamics.

Eight years later, Suzannah and Andre work together healing, coaching, and offering guidance to those navigating ethical non-monogamy. In this episode, we explore what ethical...

When it comes to embodying our power, discovering what we want, and honoring our emotions, there are SO many awesome resources out there for women… but our men often get left out of these conversations

This week's guest, Karen Brody, is on a mission to fix that by giving men the space, permission, and support to connect with their potential and power. 

If you're a man ready to get what you want from a relationship AND awaken your women's desire - or if you're a lady looking to better connect with your...

Over the course of her life, LiSara has been everything from a forensic linguist to a performer, to a trade show marketer, to a leadership coach. Though her life has called her to many different roles and places, her varied experience revealed one constant truth: sound is powerful. 

As a relationship coach, LiSara witnessed sound's power to heal trauma. As a leadership coach, she marveled at how sound provided her clients an access point to their authentic selves and inner wisdom. During her performances, she's consistent

Now, LiSara has made it her mission to understand o...

Buckle up, sexy spirits! This episode is a transformative one. 

This week's guest Spirit Child is a revolutionary somatic practitioner who has never been a fan of the boxes we put ourselves in. They've made it their life's work to help people find liberation from stereotypes and shame - inside and outside of the bedroom. 

In this episode, Spirit explores how ancestry and culture assign stereotypes and shares ways we can responsibly acknowledge, heal, and free ourselves from those stereotypes.

Join Spirit and me as we discuss: 

When Lindy James walked into her first Tantra event with her friends, she really didn't know what to expect. Did Tantra require you to be naked? Would she be having sex? What the heck was she getting herself into? But instead of finding the intimidating orgies she had pictured, Lindy found a place of healing, empowerment, and freedom.  She left that event knowing she needed to be a part of this world - and to make this world more accessible to others like her.

A decade later, Lindy James serves as a counselor, intimacy coach, an...

Better Art = Better Sex?

Does becoming a better artist make you better at sex? And does becoming better at sex make you better at art? According to this week's guest, Artist and Sex Coach Rafael Martinez, the answer to both questions is yes - and he's here to show us how that's possible. In this episode, Rafael and I explore the relationship between sex and art, what Kundalini energy has to do with both, and how we can use both to heal ourselves and feel more fulfilled.

Join Rafael and me as we discuss: 

After leaving a sexless marriage at age 30, Sky Studley felt adrift. Her body was changing, she was a single mom, and she felt more disconnected from herself and others than ever before. Sky tried therapy, but it wasn't until she learned about sex and relationship coaching that her body was able to start processing things. Only then did her healing really start to begin. Now a Life and Relationship Coach, Sky supports people navigating big life transitions and anxiety - especially in the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities. In this episode, she shares how anxiety shows up in intimacy and...

I often talk about my Leather Daddy or my BDSM mentor I am beyond thrilled to have Ken as my guest.

Though he's always had a love for tying people up, Ken Zane didn't connect with the BDSM aspect of this affinity until he was stationed in Germany. There, he found an amazing community that introduced him to BDSM play - and unlocked his passion for being Dominant. But the more BSDM communities Ken explored, the more he found a lot of other Doms played in very unsafe, inattentive ways. So, Ken did what any g...

The Three Keys to Great Sex and Fulfilling Relationships This week's incredible guest, Sheba, Queen of the Night, began her career as a traditional stage actress, but a fated performance of the Vagina Monologues changed everything. That show became her life for the next 11 years, and opened her up to a world of sex, dance, creativity, pleasure, and kinks in the process. Now an Erotic Artist and Sex & Intimacy coach, Sheba spends her days teaching others how to fill their lives with good sex and fulfilling relationships. In this episode, she shares the pillars of her philosophy on fulfilling...

Tarot and You: A Conversation with Wizard and Business Coach Sage Lee I don't know about you, but when I have a fight with my partner or less-than-stellar sex, my first move isn't to consult my tarot deck - but after this episode, that might change. 

In this week's unfiltered conversation, wizard and relationship coach Sage Lee pulls back the curtain on the power tarot has to reveal the true challenges between you, love, and good sex. Tune in to learn how to use the power of tarot to identify our relationship or sexual blockages, fa...

Chemistry is essential for great sex - and it isn't as elusive or accidental as we make it out to be. In fact, how we experience chemistry can be a BIG indicator of blockages or unhealed patterns within ourselves.  This week, I've invited Hema - a gifted psychic, energy healer, and certified Tantra Instructor -  on to the podcast to take us through what contributes to chemistry, teach us how to use energy healing to move those past blockages and unhealed patterns, and give us the language we need to identify and communicate exactly what we want in the be...

Born in rural Eastern Europe, sex coach Lyuba Venable was raised with the understanding that women were to be married off and sex was only for men to enjoy. She lived by these rules... until a chance encounter with a stranger transformed her idea of what sex could be - and who it could be for. In this episode, sex coach Lyuba Venable shares her compelling journey from a subservient wife to a multidisciplinary sex coach - along with all of the orgies, orgasms, intimacy, and self-discovery in between!

Tune in to hear Lubya and I...

Episode 2: Sexual Healing with Lucia Pavone

In this episode, Deborah Kat interviews Lucia Pavone, a somatic sex mentor. Lucia began her journey of sexual emancipation began over 17 years ago when she took a  sensuality course. Quickly realizing that the pursuit of pleasure was her calling,  she became a dedicated researcher of communication, relationships and sensuality. Since then, she's trained and experienced over 6,000 hours of Deliberate Embodied Orgasm  (full body, extended orgasm), become a trained facilitator of Sacred Dao Pelvic Healing, and has supported hundreds of people in their sexual, ancestral, and trauma healing journeys.

Join Luc...

Welcome to the first episode of the Better Sex Podcast, where we feature unfiltered conversations about sex and relationships! In this episode, host Deborah Kat explains what to expect from this podcast, provides a peek into her work as a sex and relationship coach, and explores the unexpected ways some romantic narratives can wreak havoc with our sex lives.  Connect with Deborah: 

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