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Discussing : boundaries

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New Poetry Book: 

Peace, Love, and Chaos: A Woman’s Emotional Roller Coaster:

http://tinyurl.com/peaceloveandchaos

First Book: 

Xena: Life as a Dominatrix:

www.amazon.com/author/xenaromanova

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Oops…. I meant to say Wednesday Sept 4. 

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Episode 60 - Life As A Dominatrix - How To Become A Dominatrix

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I've created a substack page.
Enjoy reading & subscribe to my journal today:
https://xenaromanova.substack.com

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More stories are found in My book, "Xena: LIfe As A Dominatrix"
Available via Amazon: www.amazon.com/author/xenaromanova

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You can find Matthias on Fetlife : SirMatthiasBlack
Matthias also writes for Free The Kink, found at www.freethekink.com

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Enjoy this 50 minute conversation with Mistress Xena & Dahlia Kake.
Discussing: Polyamory, The BDSM Lifestyle, The Swinger Community, and much more. You can find Dahlia on Fetlife at : https://fetlife.com/users/18134620?sp=1

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Escapism
Forms of positive escapism. Going to the movies, attending a concert, seeing live plays, trying out floatation tanks, attending a workout class, trying out a BDSM scene with an experienced player, taking a mini-retreat, going on a vacation.
Negative escapism: Turning to substances (i.e. drugs and alcohol). 
Word of advice: Don't do it ! It's not worth it.

Dating
Put yourself out there. Give a dating app a shot. Or, strike up a conversation in person. Don't give up. And if you enjoy being single? More p...

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Life As A Dominatrix - Q&A With Domina Pari Soltani - of Chicago

Domina Pari Soltani can be found on:
IG: saffronbarbie / Chat online with Domina Pari on Sextpanther & Niteflirt
and you may find Domina Pari on Tryst: tryst.link/bdsm/pari-soltani

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This episode: A whole lotta topics.
I have a lot to get off of My chest.

Topics discussed in this episode:
A big thank you
Session story
Events
Spicing it up
The crush
Assistance
Grieving (note: I meant to say 'personal', not 'personable')

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Mistress Xena answers your questions for this episode.

1 What are my musical influences
2 Describe individuality
3 What are your fetishes
4 What are some good traits you look for in a newbie
5 Describe self care
6 Why NYC

The audio cut at 31 minutes.
I just want to say thank you again for the birthday wishes!
Also, both Chicago and NYC are great cities. And if you've never been to either city, don't get discouraged.

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Xena discusses Men and Femininty
Discusses personal stories

Femininity in men refers to someone who possesses traits 
that would be considered more feminine than masculine.

Enjoy this 35 minute episode.

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Xena discusses upcoming shows she will be hosting in NYC.

Show dates:
May 5th
May 6th
May 12th
and there will be more !

Learn about the shows when you follow Xena on social media !
IG: xenaromanova
Twitter: xenaromanovanyc

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Xena talks: Masturbation
It's good for the mind and the body.
There are so many benefits to masturbation. 
Hear all the benefits in this episode today!

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Xena talks "Public Masturbating: DON'T DO IT"
This incident is what Xena witnessed while waiting for the F train.
We'll also call it: 2nd Ave Chronicles

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Many more stories are found in My Book,
"Xena: Life As A Dominatrix" 
found on Amazon.

This particular story time, I discuss: 30 tips for the slaves
Note: Meant to say : Chapter 9
The tips are all in Chapter 9.

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Xena talks Chastity Training:::

Why are people into Chastity Training?
What is Chastity Training?
Scenes Involved in Chastity Training.
Safety Tips
Which ones to Choose
Storytime
Clips

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 Mistress Xena answers your questions for this episode.

Question #1: How does one prepare for a session?
Question #2: My Mistress wants me to be a sissy. What should I prepare for?
Question #3: Any dating sites you recommend?
Question #4: I'm not into pain. Can I still be into BDSM?
Question #5: Do you host sessions in person?
Question #6: Any misconceptions?

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Many more stories are found in My Book,
"Xena: Life As A Dominatrix" 
found on Amazon.

This particular story time, I discuss: My previous parties back in Chicago.

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Mistress Xena discusses: 

A movie recommendation
A band recommendation
A book recommendation
Question of the day
A fetish to discuss
Story time
and
Back in the day

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Mistress Xena has a Q&A with Hoodman.

Questions:

How or what inspired you to be Hoodman?
How did you get into BDSM?
How old were you when you were introduced to BDSM?
What's your favorite type of content to shoot?
What is your novel about? How many novels have you written?
What inspired you to write novels?

Check out Hoodman's novels on Amazon:
 https://www.amazon.com/The-Surge-Series-3-book-series/dp/B0BHBQ6KJR

Check out Hoodman's videos: https://c...

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Xena discusses life events in the 15th chapter in her self-published book,

"Xena: Life As A Dominatrix"
found on Amazon.

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Mistress Xena has a Q&A with RossBound. 

Questions:

When did we meet?
How did you get into bondage?
What's your favorite bondage predicament?
What's your most memorable scene?
How many Women have tied you up?
Do you enjoy tying Women up too?
What advice do you have for the listeners who are bondage beginners?
What's your favorite show (or movie) involving bondage?

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Episode 25:
Mistress Xena discusses the controversy behind Balenciaga;
They recently posted their campaign which featured children holding
 Bondage Teddy Bears. WTF !

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Mistress Xena interviews C for this podcast.

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Laughter is the best medicine.

Hear some goofy jokes & hear some of Mistress Xena's personal real life stories:

Stories from Her filming days with Her video company, "Bizarre Cinema."
Stories from Her party hosting days in Chicago.

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Xena discusses Identity.

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Xena discusses life events in the 10th chapter in her self-published book,

"Xena: Life As A Dominatrix"
found on Amazon.

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P.S. My throat / voice was a touch raspy in this episode.
Weather change = Allergies = Boo !

At any rate, Enjoy this 35 minute listen.

Xena discusses life events in the first chapter in her self-published book,

"Xena: Life As A Dominatrix"
found on Amazon.

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Mistress Xena discusses

WTF is going on ?!
part 2

Only My Opinions.
What I've been stumbling upon...
and it is mind-boggling !

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Mistress Xena discusses

WTF is going on ?!

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 Mistress Xena answers your questions for this episode.

Question #1 : You spoke previously about what characteristics and qualities make for a good Dom/Domme and a good Submissive. Do these qualities and approaches change at all in a relationship where the D/s aspect of it is contained only to the bedroom or play space?

#2: I am having difficulty finding the right person. How does someone like myself find the right person?

#3: What's your favorite type of bondage?

#4: How do I get my wife to say y...

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Mistress Xena discusses Spicing It Up : 

Specifically:

Kinky Sex 
Shopping For Toys / Lingerie
Dirty Talk
Bondage
Naughty Texts
Foreplay
Spanking
Vocal
Masturbation
Role Play
Different Positions
Making A Home Movie
Watching Porn
Threesomes

Remember, it's all about SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL !
COMMUNICATION IS KEY !
SET YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES & RESPECT BOUNDARIES, AS WELL !

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In the episode, I stated this was Episode 16.
This is actually Episode 15.

Mistress Xena discusses Kink, from A-Z.
She reads from Her book, "Xena: Life As A Dominatrix"

Podcast Length: 25 minutes.

Disclaimer:

Remember, it's all about SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL !
COMMUNICATION IS KEY !
SET YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES & RESPECT BOUNDARIES, AS WELL !

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Mistress Xena discusses Impact Play.

Specifically:

Why people enjoy impact play?
Necessities
Various Tools
Where to / Where not to hit
Stories
 
Disclaimer 1 :
-  I would suggest good quality bondage toys.
- There are BDSM stores online which you may purchase toys.
-  Eat a well balanced meal and hydrate before playing.

Disclaimer 2 :

Remember, it's all about SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL !
COMMUNICATION IS KEY !
SET YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES & RESPECT BOUNDARIES, AS WELL !

Duration: 00:24:58

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Mistress Xena answers your questions for this episode.

1. What's a typical day of your life as a Dominatrix?

2. How do you set aside time for yourself as well as your sessions?

3. How do you keep your professional and your private life separate?

4. Latex or Leather?

5. Any rituals you prepare for your sessions?

6. If you weren't a Dominatrix, what would you be doing?

7. How has the pandemic affected you? What protocols or precautions do you take?

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Mistress Xena discusses the Art of Bondage.

Specifically:

Why people are into Bondage?
Different Bondage Techniques
Different Bondage Supplies
Safety and Trust
And Stories

Disclaimer 1 :
-  I would suggest good quality bondage toys.
- There are BDSM stores online in which you may purchase your bondage goodies.
-  Eat a well balanced meal and hydrate before being placed in bondage.
And
- ROPE DOES NOT GO AROUND THE NECK.

Disclaimer 2 :

Remember, it's all about SA...

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Mistress Xena discusses the Art of Humiliation.

Specifically:

Erotic Humiliation
Verbal Humiliation
Physical Humiliation
and
Public Humiliation

Disclaimer: 

Remember, it's all about SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL !
COMMUNICATION IS KEY !
SET YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES & RESPECT BOUNDARIES, AS WELL !

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Life as a Dominatrix - Discussing Medical Fetishism

Mistress Xena discusses some tips on :::::

Role Play
Preparation
Tips For Couples
and
Story-Time

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Life as a Dominatrix - What Makes A Good submissive

This is For Aspiring, Beginning, and Current submissives.

Mistress Xena discusses some tips on :::::

Positive Traits
Mannerisms
Boundaries
Behavior Modification
and so much more !

Mistress also expresses negative traits to have / what to improve on.
 

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Xena answers questions from various anonymous listeners.

Questions answered in this episode:::

1. Do you require aftercare after sessions? If so, which forms of aftercare do you prefer?

2. What makes a good slave?

3. My partner and I want to get into the lifestyle. Where do we begin?

4. Were you a witness to someone having sex?

5. What's your opinion on online BDSM play?

6. What are good characteristics for a slave / submissive starting out?

7. Have you ever come out about...

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Life as a Dominatrix - What Makes A Good Dominant

Mistress Xena discusses some tips on :::::

Trust
Communication
Respect
Intelligence
Good Self-Esteem
Kindness
Good Understanding
Sharing Kinks
Creativity
Sense Of Humor
Checking In

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Xena talks BDSM Essentials for your playroom / for your toy-box !  

BDSM items within your budget.

Enjoy this 20 minute episode, where Xena discusses:

1. Main essentials - cleaning products, rubber gloves, safety scissors.
2. Bondage equipment - start out small.
3. Impact play - again, start out small.
4. Sensual play - what goodies to have that can spice it up in the bedroom.
5. Wardrobe 
6. Role-Play

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Xena talks latex ! Enjoy this 20 minute discussion on LATEX. Yum !

A few things I forgot to mention:

1. I love that latex has gone mainstream. Singers, Dancers, Actresses wear lovely latex = it inspires fans to wear latex.

2. Hydration: when wearing a latex catsuit, be sure to drink plenty of water.

3. Take your time slipping on latex. Do NOT rush it.

4. After washing the latex in your tub, don't forget to rinse. 

5. Cover your latex in corn starch when your latex is completely D...

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Xena answers questions from various anonymous listeners.

Questions answered in this episode:::

Question 1: How long of a tickle session have you done?

Question 2: Where can I get a good paddle?

Question 3: What is the strangest fetish request you have ever received?

Question 4: Am I weird for being in this lifestyle?

Question 5: Are you a switch?

Question 6: I am into ball busting. Will I be able to have kids if I am into ball busting?

Question 7: Some of...

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Life as a Dominatrix in NYC - What A Journey !
Listen to why I got started in this wonderful world of BDSM &
some tips for newbies !

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Life as a Dominatrix in NYC - 2021
Discussing: The pandemic, yet again. 
What life was like in NYC in the year 2021.
Plus: My travel experiences to Chicago and Florida.

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Life as a Dominatrix in NYC - 2020
Discussing: The pandemic
What life was like in NYC when sh*t hit the fan in March of 2020.

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