Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
By: Julius Marques
Language: en-us
Categories: Society, Culture, Relationships, Health, Fitness, Sexuality, Science
Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!AroundtheKinkyKampfire@yahoo.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@aroundthekinkykampfireWe have merch now! - https://www.etsy.com/shop/SafeWordSociety
Episodes
Ranking The World’s Most-Watched Porn Categories In 2025 | S4 EP110
Jan 08, 2026Send us a text
New year, fresh data, and zero shame—we kick off 2026 by digging into the most-watched porn categories of 2025 and what they reveal about culture, power, and pleasure. From hentai’s fascinating origin story in censorship to the rise of ethical studios and the steady normalization of anal, we connect the dots between what people click and the stories we tell about bodies, desire, and boundaries.
We unpack why lesbian tops the charts in places like the U.S. and Australia, why MILF and step labels just won’t fade, and how Asian...
Why Dating As A Queer Switch Breaks When We Don’t Ask Clear Questions | S4 EP109
Dec 18, 2025Send us a text
Ever sit across from someone you’re wildly attracted to and realize you’re both waiting for the other to start? That’s the quiet chaos of dating as a queer switch—where presentation invites assumptions, desire doesn’t follow a clock, and the hottest scenes fizzle when roles aren’t clear. We open the campfire to talk about being “single” in non‑monogamy, the pressure of labels, and why curiosity—not mind‑reading—makes kink and relationships work.
Julius and Shannon share real‑world stories from clubs, apps, and long‑term dynamics that stalled b...
From Newbie Nerves To Kinky Belonging: How Games, Ambassadors, And Consent Culture Lower The Barrier To Entry | S4 EP108
Dec 11, 2025Send us a text
Ever parked outside a munch, heart racing, and turned the car around? We’ve been there, and we built a roadmap for getting past that moment—from the first hello to feeling like you truly belong. With Shannon Elliott joining in person, we trade stories and hard-won lessons on lowering barriers to entry in kink and swinger spaces using playful design, clear consent culture, and smart hosting.
We start with the real obstacles: cliques, jargon, and the fear of speaking first. Then we get tactical. Think wristbands to signal openness, craft nigh...
Belonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107
Dec 04, 2025Send us a text
Ever walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging, blending real talk, humor, and a little tequila to explain why groups can feel icy and how to melt the wall without losing yourself. We explore the tension between upbringing and chosen identity, the pull of religious guilt, and the liberating power of explicit consent and negotiation in kink and queer spaces. The big idea: most people aren’t gatekeepers by intent—they’re cautious, introverted, and watchi...
Duration: 00:26:17From Burnout To Momentum: Libido As Life Energy | S4 EP106
Nov 20, 2025Send us a text
Ready to trade hesitation for momentum? Julius takes us to the edge of comfort and names the leap: escape velocity, the instant you decide to outgrow fear and become more. We reframe libido through a Jungian lens as life energy—motivation that fuels creativity, connection, and change—so you can stop waiting for inspiration and start generating it.
I share how this show began: tired of yelling at the screen, I hit record, learned in public, and then stepped into teaching relationship anarchy. Along the way came the messy parts—awkward first...
From Anxiety To Aftercare: Navigating Scene Headspace In Kink And BDSM | S4 EP105
Nov 13, 2025Send us a text
We dig into headspace before, during, and after scenes—how nerves shift into focus, how communication sets the tone, and how aftercare steadies the landing. Along the way we share real talk on public vs private play, music, flow state, consent, and post‑scene drop.
• defining headspace as mood, intention and attention
• pre‑scene planning and capacity checks
• private vs public play differences and timing
• warm‑ups, calibration and toy order
• consent, boundaries and calling a scene
• music and rhythm to support flow
• aftercare plans and negotiating needs
•...
Boundaries, Red Flags, And Growth with Author, Shannon Elliot | S4 EP104
Nov 06, 2025Send us a text
We sit at the fire with Shannon Elliott to unpack losing yourself in a relationship, finding your values again, and building boundaries that hold. From red flags to safe words to dating parents while child-free, we trade fixes for clarity and negotiation.
• solo poly identity versus escalator expectations
• awareness, willingness, and capacity to change
• partner as collaborator not classroom
• problems with “training a submissive” framing
• negotiation before scenes and in public play
• impact play as sensation not automatic pain
• safe words as standard, not optional
• dating paren...
From Pegging To Power Dynamics: What Happens When Couples Go Public With Their Kinks | S4 EP103
Oct 30, 2025Send us a text
What happens when couples reveal their kinks for the first time on camera? We pull up to the fire and break down the viral Truth or Drink format—where women confess desires like pegging, food play, and medical roleplay—to show how real-world communication can be safer, kinder, and way hotter than shock value. This isn’t about judging anyone’s turn-ons; it’s about building the skills to talk openly, hear a “no” with respect, and find creative pathways to a “yes” that honors consent.
We start by unpacking the pegging reveal: ho...
I’m Here To Cuddle, Not Diagnose | S4 EP102
Oct 23, 2025Send us a text
We explore how to stop therapizing friends and partners, set clean boundaries, and keep consent front and center when the urge to fix takes over. We share scripts, signs of receptivity, and how to find kink-aware, non-monogamy-competent support without burning out.
• consent before giving advice
• listening over fixing with partners
• energy management and burnout cues
• why friends can’t be therapists
• simple boundary scripts that land
• differentiating roles across the slash
• when to refer to kink-aware professionals
• using groups and community with consent
• self-reflection to m...
From Small Talk to Real Connection: Communication Skills for Kink, Non-Monogamy, and Everyday Life | S4 EP101
Oct 16, 2025Send us a text
We explore how “vocal image” transforms consent talks, small talk, and relationship check‑ins, especially in kink and non‑monogamy. We share practical tools—melody, pace, volume, pauses, gestures—and reflect on shedding labels like “shy” or “introvert” through practice.
• why communication habits matter more than labels
• using melody, pace, volume, pause, and gesture
• upgrading small talk into real connection
• practicing skills beyond two tries to build ease
• aligning voice and body language for consent and safety
• expressing emotion without performance
• applying tools to poly dynamics, scenes, and aftercare
We hit 100 episodes, and the biggest lesson is simpler than you think... | S4 EP100
Oct 09, 2025Send us a text
We celebrate 100 episodes with gratitude, humor, and a clear message: just show up. From podcasting to conventions, improv, and ace-spectrum allyship, we share how tiny steps built a community around honest kink talk.
• why the campfire theme holds space for taboo topics
• what 100 episodes taught us about persistence and progress
• how podcasting led to volunteering, teaching, and new friends
• improv skills that improve consent, negotiation, and connection
• ace-spectrum views and practical allyship in sex-positive spaces
• time distortion since quarantine and rebuilding offline habits
• evolving relationships recorded in re...
“Are we really STILL saying ethical non‑monogamy?”—Julius has thoughts | S4 EP 99
Oct 02, 2025Send us a text
We dig into how communication, boundaries, and honesty make non‑monogamy work, and why adding “ethical” to the label misses the point. Julius shares practical skills for active listening, handling jealousy, scheduling across partners, and repairing after mistakes.
• reframing “ethical” non‑monogamy as skills and consent
• core pillars of communication, boundaries, and truth
• personal non‑negotiables and spoken expectations
• context for hard talks and when to pause
• active listening behaviors that signal care
• transparency, vulnerability, and trust building
• jealousy as a feeling, response as a choice
• time management...
From Crown to Kilt: Adventures of a Volunteer Supervisor at SmutLovers Con 2025 | S4 EP98
Sep 25, 2025Send us a text
Julius shares his third year volunteering at Smut Lovers Convention 2025 while reflecting on the challenges and joys of being an introvert in social spaces.
• Teaching an improv panel for writers to help them develop characters and scenes for their books
• Supervising the convention registration area and demo dungeon while wearing a crown and kilt
• Experiencing cognitive dissonance between personal presentation and upbringing
• Observing the excitement of readers meeting authors and filling carts with books
• Appreciating the respectful behavior of attendees during demonstrations
• Finding value in volunteering as practice f...
The Adult Child: When Growing Up Gets Stuck | S4 EP97
Sep 18, 2025Send us a text
We dive deep into the fascinating concept of Puer Aeternus or "eternal youth" – a psychological pattern where adults remain stuck in adolescent mindsets well into adulthood. This episode unpacks how this manifests in fear of commitment, inability to follow through on projects, and constant daydreaming about potential without taking action.
• Puer Aeternus describes charming, creative people who struggle with adult responsibilities
• Fear of making wrong choices leads to decision paralysis and "perpetual loading"
• The cycle: fantasy → failure to commit → cutting responsibilities → half-hearted efforts → more daydreaming
• Breaking free requires tolerance for unce...
Anime, Kink, and Finding Your Community: My Weekend at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025 | S4 EP96
Sep 11, 2025Send us a text
Julius shares his experience performing and teaching at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025, an adult anime convention combining anime fandom with alternative lifestyle education in a consent-focused environment.
• Explaining what "ecchi" is – the middle ground between mainstream anime and explicit hentai content
• Performing adult improv comedy on the main stage at the convention
• Teaching panels on anime genres and relationship anarchy
• Experiencing the unique blend of anime fandom and kink community
• Learning about future events including Alt-Life Expo in Denver
• Finding freedom in cosplay and expression in an adults-only sp...
Monogamy is a Social Construct, Not Our Biological Destiny | S4 EP95
Aug 28, 2025Send us a text
Evolutionary anthropologist Dr. Anna Machin delivers groundbreaking research revealing monogamy as a social construct rather than our biological destiny, with satisfaction levels being equal between monogamous and polyamorous relationships.
• Monogamy developed as a social control mechanism when civilization became more complex
• Approximately 50% of supposedly monogamous households experience infidelity
• Very few species in nature are truly sexually monogamous, including humans
• Research shows no significant difference in relationship satisfaction between monogamous and consensually non-monogamous partnerships
• Social stigma remains the biggest challenge for polyamorous individuals despite their emphasis on honesty and commun...
Primal Play isn't just what I do—it's who I am | S4 EP94
Aug 21, 2025Send us a text
Julius Marques dives into the wild world of Primal Play - the raw, instinctual expression of dominance and submission through animalistic behaviors. He shares his personal experiences and insights on this lesser-understood aspect of kink that revolves around instinct over structure.
• Primal Play involves raw, instinctual expressions different from structured BDSM scenes
• Distinguished from Pet Play - not focused on specific animals but on unleashing your inner beast
• Typically involves Hunter and Prey dynamics with wrestling, biting, scratching, and mounting
• Energy exchange is central - skin-to-skin contact creates powerful...
Relationship Anarchy: Breaking Free from Expectations and Assumptions | Season 4 EP 93
Aug 14, 2025Send us a text
Relationship Anarchy is not just a buzzword but a lifestyle philosophy emphasizing intentional connections where each relationship exists independently, free from predetermined expectations or hierarchies. This episode explores why the relationship with yourself should be your primary focus and how Relationship Anarchy principles can benefit everyone, regardless of relationship structure.
• Introduction to Relationship Anarchy as a serious topic with no fluff
• The misconception that Relationship Anarchy justifies dropping people without consideration
• Each relationship should be independent of others — what happens in one shouldn't dictate another
• The relationship with yourself i...
The Return (Again) of the Kinky Kampfire!! | Season 4 EP 92
Aug 07, 2025Send us a text
Julius Marques returns to the podcast after a hiatus, introducing his new vision as a "relationship spotter" rather than a coach or therapist. He shares his journey through imposter syndrome and his plans to teach relationship anarchy with unconventional techniques.
• Taking time away from podcasting after questioning qualifications despite being invited as a guest on another show
• Developing educational content on relationship anarchy for in-person workshops
• Introducing the concept of being a "relationship spotter" to help during difficult relationship transitions
• Advocating for personalized "a la carte" approach to relation...
The Social Probation Period | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 42
Apr 17, 2025Send us a text
Julius explores how different communities operate similarly despite their diverse interests and activities. He dives into his experiences navigating kink, board games, non-monogamy, geek culture, and improv communities, highlighting the universal patterns that emerge in each social group.
• All communities have an approximately 90-day "probationary period" before truly accepting new members
• People need to see you consistently show up before they open their inner circle
• Bad actors and creepy people don't last long in any community regardless of focus
• Finding your specific tribe within the larger community takes time but...
Put Down Your Phone and Wash Your Ass: Dating Advice Nobody Asked For | Advice Line 2 | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 41
Apr 10, 2025Send us a text
Julius explores the fundamental differences in how men and women communicate and the painful lack of education we receive about these differences before entering relationships.
• Communication styles differ significantly between genders based on both biology and socialization
• Men are typically raised to be solution-focused while women often communicate to process emotions
• Active listening without trying to "fix" problems is a learned skill many men find physically uncomfortable
• Social media and smartphones have worsened our ability to connect meaningfully face-to-face
• Dating requires consistent effort and realistic self-presentation, not just swipi...
Bite-Sized Wisdom for a Full-Sized Life: Advice for Taboo Lifestylers | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 40
Mar 27, 2025Send us a text
We explore relationship anarchy's core principle that each relationship exists independently, challenging traditional hierarchies while emphasizing the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself first.
• Relationship anarchy means treating each connection as independent from others, including your relationship with yourself
• Growth happens through interaction with others, not in isolation – bringing trusted people into your process provides valuable perspective
• Growth requires failure – you can't evolve without making mistakes and learning from them
• Physical attributes like penis size or height matter far less than emotional intelligence and confidence
• Sexual shame a...
You Can't Change Your Past, But Your Future Isn't Written Yet | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 39
Mar 20, 2025Send us a text
Starting life on the back foot doesn't mean you're destined to stay there. This raw, vulnerable episode challenges the notion that our beginnings dictate our endings, offering a candid look at overcoming disadvantage and finding forward momentum when everything seems stacked against you.
We dive deep into what it means to grow up with fewer advantages – whether economically, socially, or in terms of family stability – and how these early circumstances shape our relationship with possibility and progress. The psychological weight of constantly feeling "behind" others can be crushing, yet there are path...
What Nobody Tells You About Dating When Sex Isn't Your Primary Attraction | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 38
Mar 13, 2025Send us a text
Navigating the dating world as someone on the asexual spectrum comes with unique challenges that many dating platforms simply weren't designed to address. Drawing from decades of personal experience across various dating platforms, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really means to date when sexual attraction isn't your primary motivation.
The digital dating landscape often feels like it was built exclusively for those seeking immediate physical connections. For demi-attracted and asexual-spectrum folks who experience attraction primarily through emotional and intellectual connection, this creates a fundamental disconnect. How do you...
EP 49 | Taboo talks with a new friend! | Melanie Carolyn from Mom's Unboxed podcast
Mar 06, 2025Send us a text
Join us for a riveting conversation at the Kinky Kampfire as we explore the kaleidoscopic experiences of kink, alternative lifestyles, and the colorful journey of non-monogamy. In this episode, we chat with Melanie Carolyn, the dynamic host of Moms Unboxed podcast, whose personal insights into bisexuality, swinging, and group play spark genuine and thought-provoking dialogues. Melanie candidly shares her journey of self-discovery and the thrills of exploring desires, illuminating the importance of communication and consent in every encounter.
Navigating relationships can be tricky, especially when blending intimacy with autonomy. This episode...
Rejection: The Universal Struggle | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 37
Feb 27, 2025Send us a text
Have you ever felt the sting of rejection? In this compelling episode of The Pillowfort Sessions, we dive into the complexities of rejection—the emotional turmoil it brings and why it affects us all. Our host shares relatable experiences and strategies for dealing with this very common, yet often painful, aspect of human interaction.
Join us as we unravel physiological aspects behind why rejection hurts and explore its presence in various relationship forms. While most associate rejection primarily with romantic endeavors, we reveal its multifaceted nature and discuss how it permeates man...
Navigating Tough Talks: Reimagining Communication, Gender Roles, and Vulnerability | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 36
Feb 20, 2025Send us a text
Ever found yourself tongue-tied when it comes to navigating the trickiest conversations in your relationship? We're tackling those moments head-on, from chatting about money woes to discussing whether or not kids are part of your future. Even while battling a stubborn flu, I’m diving into the art of open dialogue with partners, helping you to foster healthier, more fulfilling connections. Together, we’ll explore why many relationships stumble over these communication hurdles and how you can learn to handle such challenges with grace and confidence.
Have you ever thought about the...
Understanding Consent in Unique Community Gatherings | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 35
Feb 06, 2025Send us a text
This episode delves into the complexities of navigating the kink community, sharing personal reflections and observations regarding social dynamics, consent, and self-awareness. With a humorous yet candid approach, we explore the intricacies of adult gatherings, the importance of partners and community, and the challenge of addressing predatory behaviors while fostering a safe atmosphere for all.
• Sharing personal experiences and insights from various kink events
• Discussing the significance of partner dynamics in adult gatherings
• Observing the community turnover and its impact on connection
• Recognizing the efforts of community organizers and their c...
Introverted Networking and the Art of Self-Promotion: A Podfest 2025 Recap | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 34
Jan 30, 2025Send us a text
Is your podcasting journey crossing into the realm of taboo topics, and where do we draw the line between fantasy and reality? Join me as I recount my experiences at PodFest 2025 in Central Florida, where the buzz of conversations was as vibrant as ever, even in the absence of a dedicated track for taboo discussions. Reflecting on these engaging interactions, I question the evolving landscape of taboo podcasting and its intersection with sex work. Could my own podcasting endeavors fall under this controversial category? Get ready for a deep dive into these provocative...
Duration: 00:32:22An "Intro" to Julius: A Journey Through Non-Monogamy, Geek Culture, and Self-Discovery | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 33
Jan 23, 2025Send us a text
What if stepping out of your comfort zone could lead to a whole new world of self-discovery and personal growth? Join me, Julius, as we kick off the new year with "Around the Kinky Kampfire, the Pillow Fort Sessions," a podcast episode that promises to take you on a journey through the intriguing realms of BDSM, queer culture, non-monogamy, and geeky interests. In this episode, I share my personal mission to challenge assumptions in relationships and provide honest opinions, all while blending humor with serious insights. Listen as I explore the importance of...
Duration: 00:32:35Shifting Perspectives on Adult Traffic Analysis | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 32
Jan 16, 2025Send us a text
This episode dives deep into the shifting landscape of kinks and porn searches in 2024, revealing surprising trends and insights about global traffic and viewer preferences. From the dominance of the U.S. in traffic rankings to the rising female viewership and generational differences in content preferences, we explore the fun and intriguing data surrounding pornography today.
• Discussion of global porn traffic rankings and significant trends
• Exploration of time spent per visit across different countries
• Insights into female viewership and demographic shifts
• Generational differences in porn preferences and kinks
• An...
State-by-State: A Playful Look at America's (and the World's) Unique Preferences | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 31
Jan 09, 2025Send us a text
We dive into 2024's most surprising porn search trends, exploring themes from regional favorites to unique kinks. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own preferences while unpacking what these trends reveal about societal views on sexuality.
• Analyzing top porn searches by state (and other countries)
• Exploring the popularity of milking and furry content
• Discussing the significance of racial and body-type preferences
• Examining unique kinks like foot jobs and homegrown porn
• Reflecting on societal norms and individual exploration in adult content
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Duration: 00:38:29Finding Clarity in Conversations and Relationships | Pillow Fort EP 30
Jan 02, 2025Send us a text
Ever wondered how a chilled drink might actually warm you up in the brisk Florida weather? Join me, Julius, as I kick off 2025 with a curious blend of tequila, mezcal, and energy drink in our latest Pillow Fort Session. I'm diving headfirst into the world of assumptions versus expectations, challenging the common trap of accepting unverified beliefs as truths. This year, I'm excited to expand our podcast's realms, keeping BDSM, queerness, and non-monogamy at heart while exploring intriguing topics inspired by the media and my personal reflections on communication.
Are assumptions...
Impromptu Rant as the Year Comes to an End | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 29
Dec 05, 2024Send us a text
Ever wondered what makes the BDSM community tick? Imagine stepping into a world where consent is king and every knot tells a story. This episode promises to unravel the complexities of BDSM and kink, offering listeners a candid look at challenges creators face in an ever-changing digital landscape. Through my personal reflections, you'll gain insight into the nuances of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and impact play, and learn why consent and negotiation aren't just important—they're everything.
Journey alongside me as I recount my path of sexual discovery, beginning with a fascination fo...
Rewiring Your Mind: The Science of Habit Formation | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 28
Nov 21, 2024Send us a text
Ever wondered what truly sets the successful apart from the rest? It might not be talent, but instead the powerhouse of consistent habits. Join us as we dissect the often subconscious world of habits, challenging the notion that talent is the golden ticket to mastery. With a blend of humor and heartfelt stories, we explore how anyone can break free from self-imposed barriers and utilize positive habits to conquer personal goals.
Travel back to 1890 with us as we highlight William James's groundbreaking insights and trace the evolution of habits through various c...
EP 48 | Embracing Authenticity: Navigating Alternative Lifestyles and Identity with Shannon Elliott
Nov 14, 2024Send us a text
Gather 'round the Kinky Kampfire as we explore the vibrant tapestry of alternative lifestyles with the fabulous, Shannon Elliott, by our side. Ever wondered how labels can both liberate and confine us? Shannon and I tackle this curious dynamic as we swap tales of personal discovery within the BDSM, kinky, and non-monogamous communities. We dive deep into the sense of belonging these spaces offer—where judgment is left at the door, and everyone is free to be their authentic self. It's a reflection on how stepping into these circles can be as exhilarating as...
Duration: 00:51:18Enhancing Your Relationships: Mastering Effective Communication and Conflict Resolution | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 27
Nov 07, 2024Send us a text
Can you imagine transforming awkward silences and misunderstandings into meaningful conversations that deepen your relationships? In this episode of the Pillow Fort Sessions on the Around the Kinky Kampfire podcast, we're pulling back the layers on effective communication across all kinds of relationships—whether they're romantic, familial, friendships, or professional connections. We'll unravel the process of exchanging information clearly and delve into the common pitfalls, like assumptions, that can put a wrench in your interactions. From verbal and written exchanges to the subtleties of visual and nonverbal cues, we’re on a mission to h...
Duration: 00:37:36EP 47 | From Repression to Awakening: A Journey of Self-Discovery with Shannon Elliot
Oct 31, 2024Send us a text
What happens when you mix a vibrant author, a love for smutty romance, and a passion for alternative lifestyles? You get an electrifying conversation with Shannon Elliott, who's as multifaceted as they come. Shannon shares her journey into the world of polyamory, swinging, and kink, offering insights that are as educational as they are entertaining. My alter ego, Mr. Criss P Bacon, is thrilled to connect over our shared love for the unconventional and explore the dynamic energy at events like the Smut Lovers convention. Through personal stories and a few laughs, we...
Duration: 00:47:25Exploring the Cass Model: Navigating Identity and Embracing Authenticity | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 26
Oct 24, 2024Send us a text
Imagine navigating the challenging labyrinth of identity in a world that often expects conformity. That's what we explore as we journey through the Cass Model, a framework that psychologist Vivian Cass crafted to illuminate the path of identity acquisition. While originally designed to map out homosexual identity development, we uncover its broader relevance for all who are on their personal quests, especially within diverse communities like BDSM, non-monogamy, and the queer spectrum. Growing up in a conservative environment, I share my personal saga of discovering and aligning with the terms and identities that...
Duration: 00:37:30Unlocking Personal Connections Through Love Languages | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 25
Oct 17, 2024Send us a text
What if your way of expressing affection isn't hitting the mark with your loved ones? Join us here at Around the Kinky Kampfire: Pillow Fort Sessions as we navigate the intriguing world of love languages, a concept that has sparked curiosity since Gary Chapman introduced it in 1992. With a playful twist, we unravel the origins and applications of these five love languages—not just in romance but in friendships and family ties, too. Expect a blend of humor and insight as we challenge assumptions and explore how these Love Languages shape our interactions.
Untangling Attraction: A Journey Through Asexuality, Empathy, and Meaningful Connections | Pillow Fort Sessions EP24
Oct 10, 2024Send us a text
Have you ever wondered how relationships can thrive beyond the bounds of sex and romance? Join me, El Comidin, also known as Taco Knuckle or the Cuddle Gigolo or HH Julius on a fascinating journey through the landscape of asexuality and diverse attractions. I begin with my personal story of realization, moving closer to identifying with the asexual spectrum rather than as a demisexual. As we navigate through sex-repulsed, sex-neutral, and sex-positive identities, you'll gain insight into how these differ from celibacy, a choice, rather than an orientation. Through sharing my experiences, you'll...
Duration: 00:36:12My Journey Through the Smut Lovers Convention 2024: Insights and Revelations | Pillow Fort EP 23
Sep 26, 2024Send us a text
Get tickets for next year's Smut Lovers Convention - https://smutlovers.org/home/conference/tickets/
Ever wondered how smut literature intersects with BDSM, queer communities, and non-monogamy? Join me, HH Julius—your favorite host, also known as Cuddle Gigolo aka El Comiden aka Taco Knuckle—as I unravel my experiences at the Smut Lovers Convention 2024 in Central Florida. Volunteering at this vibrant event opened my eyes to the community's inner workings and the educational value it offers. In this episode, I share my journey through panels, highlight the importance of accurate repr...
This Year Thus Far: Taking a Little Break From the Deep Dives | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 22
Sep 12, 2024Send us a text
What truly distinguishes solitude from loneliness, and how can meditation help us navigate this emotional landscape? Join Julius on the latest episode of the Pillow Ford Sessions, as we explore these profound questions and delve into the world of self-awareness and personal growth. Julius shares his personal journey into polyamory, revealing the importance of managing expectations, understanding differences, and fostering genuine connections in relationships. This episode encourages listeners to embrace self-reflection and accept imperfections, offering valuable insights into nurturing meaningful relationships.
Ever felt your social skills could use a boost? Julius...
Replacing Hierarchies with Harmony: A Relationship Anarchy Guide | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 21
Sep 05, 2024Send us a text
Ready to challenge the norms of traditional relationships? Join us around the kinky campfire as we embark on a revolutionary journey into relationship anarchy. We'll redefine what it means to connect with others by rejecting monogamy and hierarchical structures. Instead, we focus on autonomy, community interdependence, and anti-normativity. Whether you're monogamous or non-monogamous, this episode promises to expand your understanding of how relationships can thrive without the constraints of societal expectations.
In this episode, we break down the core tenets of relationship anarchy, highlighting the importance of love, respect, and integrity...
Navigating Kink Dynamics: The Role of Labels | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 20
Aug 29, 2024Send us a text
Ever wondered how a simple label can reshape your entire identity? Embark on an eye-opening journey with me, Mr Cuddle Gigolo, also known as El Comedin, Colonel McBee, and HH Julius, as we unravel the significance of roles and labels within the kink community. Discover how these identifiers are more than just tags—they're keys to personal identity and crucial in forming meaningful connections. We'll explore why labels, while sometimes confining, can serve as a vital starting point for understanding and navigating complex dynamics and relationships.
Moving beyond the basics, we'll di...
How do you know if you're into Kink? The Motivation Behind Our Curiosities: From Hobbies to Kink Exploration | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 19
Aug 15, 2024Send us a text
What fuels our curiosity to try something new and adventurous? On this episode of Around the Kinky Campfire Pillow Fort Sessions, we explore the forces that drive us to step outside our comfort zones, from hobbies and personal interests to the more daring realms of kink. Join us as we delve into the importance of doing what brings us pleasure in our leisure time and the crucial role of consent in all aspects of life. Reflect on what ignites your passions and be ready to share your own experiences with us.
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EP 18 Pillow Fort Sessions | Disarming Assumptions: Strengthening Relationships Through Clear Communication
Jun 20, 2024Send us a text
Can assumptions really derail your relationships? Join us in this eye-opening episode of Route to Keep Campfire Pillow Fort Sessions as we explore how unexamined beliefs and assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, especially in the realms of kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy. We spotlight the crucial role of clear communication and questioning to foster more functional and validating connections with your partners, friends, and family members. Through transparency about your needs, wants, values, hopes, and dreams, you’ll uncover the keys to preserving and enriching your relationships.
Regular check-ins and op...
Ep 17 Pillow Fort Sessions | Ambiverts Unveiled: Bridging the Gap Between Introverts and Extroverts
May 30, 2024Send us a text
What if understanding your personality could transform your relationships? Welcome back to the Pillowport Sessions with your host, HH Julius! In this episode, we're navigating the intricate world of ambivert personality traits. Kicking things off with a quirky ASMR segment, I dive into why personality awareness is crucial in any relationship—romantic, familial, or friendly. Learn how recognizing these unique traits can enrich your everyday interactions and help you appreciate the diverse spectrum of personalities you encounter.
Ever wondered where you fall on the introversion-extroversion spectrum? This episode breaks down the co...
Ep 16 Pillow Fort Sessions | The Quiet Strength of Solitude Versus the Challenge of Loneliness
May 23, 2024Send us a text
Ever found yourself at a crossroads between cherishing your alone time and feeling the aching pangs of loneliness? It's a path I've walked many times, and I invite you on a journey through the latest Pillow Fort Sessions of Around the Kinky Campfire, where we untangle the fine threads that separate solitude from loneliness. As your guide, El Comidin, the Cuddle Gigolo, aka HH Julius I'll share how my own polyamorous journey has taught me the value of self-reflection and the necessity of social connections.
This heart-to-heart is not just about...
EP 46 | Kinky Campfire Revelations: Unraveling the Secrets of BDSM Dating, Social Acceptance, and the Power of Introspection
May 09, 2024Send us a text
Gather 'round the Kinky Campfire, where your hosts Bartholomew Hunt and Ms Ru serve up a piping hot blend of humor and insight on the fascinating intricacies of BDSM and non-monogamy lifestyles. Ever wondered how to subtly signal your kinky interests on the battlefield of dating profiles? We've got you covered with tales from the front lines, including what to look out for and how to spot the green flags of a genuine, respectful connection in the vast wilds of fetishization.
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EP 45 | Exploring Kink vs. Vanilla: A Kampfire Guide to BDSM Roles, Play Space Etiquette, and Sexual Discovery
Apr 25, 2024Send us a text
Ever wondered what the difference between 'kinky' and 'vanilla' really is, or struggled to navigate the often misunderstood landscape of BDSM roles? Fear not, kindred spirits, for I, Falkor, alongside the ever-intriguing Ms. Ru, will guide you through these murky waters with humor and a wealth of knowledge. Our latest episode of Around the Kinky Campfire promises to demystify the complexities of kink, BDSM, and non-monogamy, making you laugh, ponder, and possibly squirm—all in the name of education and entertainment.
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EP 44 | A Brief Touch On Relationship Phases (And Mostly A Rant)
Apr 11, 2024Send us a text
As we pop open a bag of nerd clusters, the playful banter sets the stage for an episode that's as much about the crinkle of candy wrappers as it is about the crunch of complex relationship dynamics. We're two peas in a podcast, bringing you a scoop of nostalgia with a nod to "A Knight's Tale" and Heath Ledger, served alongside a helping of heartfelt frustration at his too-soon departure from our screens. It's a rollercoaster ride from the giggles of an ASMR experience to the serious talk of how couples navigate the...
Duration: 01:09:43Ep 15 Pillow Fort Sessions | Decoding the Mystique: The Origin & Impact of the Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator
Apr 04, 2024Send us a text
Uncover the enigmatic roots of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator with me, Julius HH, as we traverse the intellectual legacy of a mother-daughter duo and the indelible mark they left on the psychological landscape. Whether you're an INTJ like myself, or another of the 16 personality types, this episode promises to gift you with a richer understanding of the MBTI's origin story. Sip on your pineapple seltzer and join our Pillowfort session as we delve into the historical intricacies behind a tool that's become a staple in our quests for self-discovery.
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EP 43 | Tales from the Leather Leadership Conference 2024
Mar 28, 2024Send us a text
Gather 'round the Kinky Campfire, where Miss Ru and I, Batty Coda aka Julius, ignite a lively dialogue that will leave you both informed and entertained. Ever wonder why your favorite fast-food soda tastes different at each restaurant? We'll quench your curiosity and then some, as we sip through our quirky drink choices and delve into the flavors of nostalgia with "Ferngully." But hold onto your leather hats, because we're going beyond mere reminiscence—we're opening the floor to discuss demisexuality, the nuances of kink versus BDSM, and the importance of leadership within ou...
Duration: 01:16:12Ep 14 Pillow Fort Sessions | Building Bonds Through the Subtle Art of Small Talk
Mar 14, 2024Send us a text
Ever felt like you're slogging through the swamp of small talk, only to find yourself stumped at the shore of silence? Fear not, my fellow conversational adventurers, as I, elacomy dome—known in some circles as the cuddle gigolo, and in others as HH Julius—usher you through the enigmatic maze of casual banter. Together, we'll discover that these seemingly simple exchanges are more than just idle chatter; they're the golden keys to unlocking new worlds of understanding and empathy.
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Ep 13 Pillow Fort Sessions | Navigating the World with Quiet Confidence A Guide for Introverts
Mar 07, 2024Send us a text
Have you ever wandered off into your thoughts at a party, or felt your energy sap in a crowd, leaving you to wonder if you're an introvert, or perhaps something more complex? That’s where my journey began, leading me to the discovery of Carl Jung's fascinating concept of introversion and the spectrum it exists on. Our latest episode takes a deep dive into the world of introvertism, where I share my own experiences and challenges, and the surprising ways they've shaped my interactions and leadership style. We'll peel back the layers of pe...
Duration: 00:33:13EP 42 | Geeky Pins and Pronouns A Look at Lifestyle Diversity in the Convention Circuit
Feb 22, 2024Send us a text
Gather 'round, fellow adventurers, as Ru and Gently McFluffin Stuff bring you tales from the wilds of kinky campfires and creative conventions. Embarking on a quest through the realms of non-monogamous kink and BDSM, our latest episode offers personal insights and candid conversations that aim to enlighten and destigmatize the often misunderstood. Whether you're a seasoned traveler of these communities or simply kink-curious, join us for an episode rich with the nuances of social dynamics, the thrills of identity expression, and the complexities of ethical non-monogamy.
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Ep 12 Pillow Fort Sessions | Unleashing Inner Beasts: The Untamed World of Primal Play in BDSM
Feb 15, 2024Send us a text
Ever felt the urge to unearth the animal within you, to connect with your ancient, instinctual self? Well, buckle up, my fellow kink enthusiasts, because Julius H. H.—yours truly—is about to guide you through the primal jungles of the BDSM community. Join me as we explore primalism, where the raw intensity of our kink identities meld with the world of geeks and polyamory. Whether you're a seasoned primal player or simply curious, this session promises to reveal the depths of an often misunderstood realm, shedding light on the multifaceted nature of prim...
Duration: 00:38:34EP 41 | Unveiling the Truth: The Intricacies of D/S Dynamics and Dispelling BDSM Myths
Feb 08, 2024Send us a text
Have you ever found yourself curious about the world beyond vanilla relationships? Well, stoke the fires and join us as we illuminate the paths through the realms of Dominance and Submission (D/S) dynamics. This isn't your typical kink talk; we're breaking down barriers and challenging the myths head-on. From the diverse roles that transcend gender stereotypes to the surprising ways D/S relationships can extend beyond the bedroom into everyday life, we're revealing the truth behind the leather and lace.
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EP 40 | Kinks, Quirks, and Digital Dilemmas by the Fire
Jan 25, 2024Send us a text
Ever wondered about the ethical implications of AI recreating celebrities or how professional dominants might navigate the digital age? Rue and Sterling Golden are stoking the fires for an enlightening discussion on these topics in our inaugural 2024 episode of "Around the Kinky Campfire." As we reminisce about the balance between our work lives and the podcast, we also share the buzz of excitement for the upcoming podcast convention that promises to be a networking bonanza. You're promised Instagram-worthy moments and a lighthearted debate that might just change your tea-making process forever.
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EP 39 | Are BDSMers A-holes??
Jan 11, 2024Send us a text
We don't really know either. Let's find out together!
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Duration: 01:08:54EP 38 | BDSM Myths....here we go...
Dec 28, 2023Send us a text
What are these myths? Are they true? Let's debunk them!
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Duration: 01:04:37Ep 11 Pillow Fort Sessions | Feel a little butthurt? (Rejection Sensitivity)
Dec 21, 2023Send us a text
What are these feelings? Lashing out? Rejection feeling like actually pain? Let's find out why!
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Nov 30, 2023Send us a text
What is a unreasonable or reasonable expectation in a relationship? How do we clear up a wrong expectation when we have them? We're going to give you some examples of each in this episode.
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Duration: 00:41:57EP 37 | Myths About Non-Monogamy
Nov 23, 2023Send us a text
Can you believe this?? Well we're going to debunk some pretty crazy assumptions about NM.
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Ep 9 Pillow Fort Sessions | Geeking Out p3
Nov 16, 2023Send us a text
Catching up on this Fall season of Animes and Superhero and maybe a little sci fi...and what I think about think about them.
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Duration: 00:42:15EP 36 | Relationship Myths
Nov 09, 2023Send us a text
Have you heard the myths going around? Well we're here to provide the reality of the relationship situation.
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Duration: 01:02:13EP 35 | Reality versus Fantasy
Oct 26, 2023Send us a text
In this episode, we have a "quick" discussion on our lifestyle experiences in the real world versus what we "thought" it was going to be like from the fantasy realm.
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Duration: 01:08:08EP 34 | Smut Lovers Convention 2023
Oct 12, 2023Send us a text
In this episode, we give you the highlights of our experiences at the Smut Lovers Con '23.
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Duration: 00:54:58EP 33 | Controversy & the Jonah Hill situation (kind of)
Sep 28, 2023Send us a text
In this episode, we give our thoughts on being controversial and what that means to each of us. Then we definitely do not go in depth on the Jonah sitch and react to a clip from one of my favorite creator's podcast, Tim Chantarangsu.
*Clip from Dudes Behind the Foods Ep. 94
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Duration: 01:17:23EP 32 | Weeee'rrreee baaaackkk!
Sep 14, 2023Send us a text
The group is back (in a different form) but still giving the same Kink and NM content like you're used to! In this episode, we give you some life updates and our differing opinions on the whole dating sitch/options.
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Duration: 01:03:26Ep 8 Pillow Fort Sessions | BSDM & Sex
Aug 31, 2023Send us a text
We've discussed this before but I'm seeing a lot of questions about this topic. BDSM & Sex...are they inclusive or can be done separately? Let's find out...
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Duration: 00:28:55Ep 7 Pillow Fort Sessions | The Many Facets of Non-Monogamy
Aug 17, 2023Send us a text
Going over a more recent overview of the many forms of non-monogamy and what I think about them.
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Duration: 00:45:04Ep 6 Pillow Fort Sessions | Geeking Out p2
Aug 10, 2023Send us a text
You wanted it so here it is again! Julius is here to give you the Geek news update for August. What is there in the news this time??
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Duration: 00:43:11Ep 5 Pillow Fort Sessions | Dating in the Lifestyle(s)
Aug 03, 2023Send us a text
In this episode I give my opinions about dating in the kinky and non-monogamy worlds and what I've experienced so far. What do you think about IRL dating versus dating apps?
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Duration: 00:42:14Ep 4 Pillow Fort Sessions | Boundaries
Jul 27, 2023Send us a text
Let's get more specific on more relationship topics. Here are some thoughts and facts about what boundaries are and how we can enforce them in all of our relationships.
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Duration: 00:37:30Ep 3 Pillow Fort Sessions | Geeking Out p1
Jul 20, 2023Send us a text
You wanted it and now you're getting it! More geeky goodness! Time to bring you up to date on the current (and recently in the past) geek culture happenings and thoughts about them.
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Duration: 00:51:07Ep 2 Pillow Fort Sessions | Podcast Update
Jul 13, 2023Send us a text
Changes...that's just the way it is! Things will never be the same. The podcast has had some pretty big changes recently and this is the episode where some of it is broken down.
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Ep 1 Pillow Fort Sessions | Introduction
Jul 06, 2023Send us a text
Introducing a new episode format to our faithful subscribers! The PFS will be a "filler" in-between our group episodes that will be a deeper dive on certain subjects that we have and will discuss in the future. Hopefully you wanted to hear more from us because you're going to get it!!
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Duration: 00:23:31EP 31 | So how does a 24/7 dynamic go exactly??
May 11, 2023Send us a text
We are not experts but we can have a discussion about it! In this episode we have a conversation with Ms Ru and get a good example of what a 24/7 dynamic would look like with contracts included.
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Duration: 01:12:13EP 30 | Con basics & Life updates
Apr 27, 2023Send us a text
What have we been up? Well we're about to tell you and give you a few tips for making the best experience at your next convention or play space!
Leather Leadership Conference - https://www.leatherleadership.org/
Leather & Limits - https://open.spotify.com/show/6DkNjgeQwQYeutVHLQNWHF?si=610dae304cd848a8
Megacon Orlando - https://fanexpohq.com/megaconorlando/
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Duration: 01:12:12EP 29 | Non-sexual BDSM...is that a thing?
Apr 13, 2023Send us a text
In this episode we answer that question and give some examples. There is more than one way to BDSM.
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Duration: 01:14:05EP 28 | Our Reactions to Old Sex Ed Videos from the Past
Mar 23, 2023Send us a text
Has anyone else heard or seen these videos? It's a first time for most of us as well! We'll tell you what we think in this episode.
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Duration: 01:10:42EP 27 | Kink Ed into the future!
Mar 09, 2023Send us a text
As quarantine comes to an end...FINALLY...we try to predict how the future of Kink education looks like from now on. How'd we do? Tell us what you think!
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Duration: 01:12:58EP 26 | The Basics of Negotiations
Feb 23, 2023Send us a text
In this episode we go through the negotiations that potentially lead to pick-up play. Do you remember to bring up all the things we talk about?
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EP 25 | New Year, New Negotiations!
Feb 09, 2023Send us a text
In this episode we start the new season and New Year with our negotiations and goals for the podcast this year. We try to educate and give examples of what we've been talking about and this is how we negotiate as a crew.
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EP 24 | A Little Personal History...101
Jan 26, 2023Send us a text
In this episode we go back in time and talk about our personal history and then one of us goes a little deeper. (Just the first part of this talk and may get back to it...at some point...)
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EP 23 | Going Behind the Scenes (Kind of like Oz, the Great and Powerful)
Jan 12, 2023Send us a text
In this episode we go back in time to about a year ago before we even started posting episodes and take a look "Behind the Curtain." Surprising how fast a year has been but we'll pick back up with fresh episodes next time and celebrate our one year anniversary!
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Duration: 01:00:06EP 22 | In the Land of Plenty...(Dating!)
Dec 15, 2022Send us a text
In this episode we try to elaborate on our definitions of relationships or at least the beginnings of what could be. Also we discuss the timing of when negotiations should start while being rocked about on a big ol boat (or ship?).
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EP 21 | Assumptions!
Dec 08, 2022Send us a text
We're on a boat y'all! And we're going to talk about what it feels like being on a boat and showing our queerness. Should we educate the random masses? Or should we stick to our lane?
(We took a break for Thanksgiving but we're back!)
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Duration: 01:00:16EP 20 | Leaders in Leather '22
Nov 10, 2022Send us a text
This is the one where we talk about some classes Dame went to at LLC 2022 (Leather Leadership Conference) and "try" to hold back "some" of our opinions....
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EP 19 | Let's collaborate over expect...tate(?) (AOSAAS pt 2)
Oct 27, 2022Send us a text
The one where we discuss expectations (sex and kink kinds) and how they relate to Acts of Service.
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EP 18 | AOSAAS
Oct 13, 2022Send us a text
The one where we talk about Acts of Service and try to classify what acts are actually acts. Also what is a hard skill versus a soft skill? One day we'll to how all this relates to kink :)
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EP 17 | There is a difference between Pansexual versus Bisexual? Who knew?
Sep 22, 2022Send us a text
The one where we talk about the differences between the two sexual orientations. Are we the a$$holes??
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EP 16 | Spectrums...what are they?
Sep 08, 2022Send us a text
In this episode we try to break the different relationship and orientation spectrums....can it be done??? (Part 1)
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EP 15 | Strippin' and Dating Online
Aug 25, 2022Send us a text
The one where we talk about out strip club experiences and get into our online dating history...or at least partly....(Part 1)
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EP 14 | That one book that talks about being Secure in Polyamory
Aug 11, 2022Send us a text
PolySecure is a book that only came out a few years ago but has impacted the ENM (CNM) community is a great way. This is the one where we talk about it.
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EP 13 | Em..poster? A poster? In posture? Ah Imposter Syndrome!
Jul 28, 2022Send us a text
What's that feeling you have when you don't really think you should be given the credit you deserve? Don't think you should belong at the place you're at? People asking you questions thinking you have the right answers? We feel the same and we're going to talk about it!
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Duration: 01:17:02EP 12 | Beyond Leather '22
Jul 14, 2022Send us a text
The one where we talk about this year's Beyond Leather and give a little sneak peak if you decide to take a trip down to South Florida next year.
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EP 11 | Geeking out....FINALLY
Jun 23, 2022Send us a text
Now we talk about some geeky things. It's about time!
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