Celebrate Kids Podcast with Dr. Kathy

Is creativity something we should encourage or control? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the powerful role creativity plays in children's development and why time in nature may be one of the most underutilized tools parents have. Drawing from research, real parenting questions, and a biblical vision of creativity rooted in God's design, they unpack how imagination builds resilience, flexibility, and character, not chaos. From imaginary play and boredom to stress relief and problem-solving, this conversation reframes creativity as more than art projects or talent, it's a vital part of how...

As states across the country move to restrict minors' access to social media, a deeper question emerges: Why does the government feel the need to step in at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the growing wave of age-gating laws, parental consent requirements, and outright bans, and what they reveal about childhood, conscience, and cultural formation. Together, they unpack the tension between external guardrails and internal virtue, the developmental realities kids face online, and why laws may slow harm but can't form wisdom. Drawing on research, real parenting scenarios, and...

Public language is getting louder, harsher, and more vulgar, and our kids are listening. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the rising use of profanity in politics and public life and ask a deeper question: What does the way we speak reveal about our character? Together, they unpack the difference between freedom and license, why breaking rules isn't the same as courage, and how words shape virtue, dignity, and trust. Drawing from Scripture, cultural thinkers, and real parenting conversations, this episode equips parents to teach kids how to express strong emotions w...

Do kids really need to be taught to focus, or do they need permission to wonder first? In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore new research showing that children learn even when they're not intentionally paying attention. Together, they unpack the difference between curiosity and concentration, why wonder is not a distraction but a doorway to learning, and how parents can teach focus without extinguishing imagination. Anchored in child development, the 8 Great Smarts, and the story of Gideon, this conversation equips parents to nurture both attentiveness and awe, so kids grow confident and s...

Why do parents think school is going great, while many kids feel disengaged and uninspired? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack research revealing the growing gap between how parents and students experience school. Together, they explore why learning often feels passive, why awe and wonder fade as kids get older, and how families can re-ignite curiosity by connecting schoolwork to real life. From dinner-table conversations to creative family rhythms, this episode equips parents to help kids move beyond grades and tests toward meaningful, integrated learning rooted in purpose, faith, and joy.

Technology is shaping our kids, often more than we realize. In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents move beyond fear or frustration toward clarity, compassion, and leadership. Drawing on research, Scripture, and real family experience, they explore how screens quietly train attitudes like entitlement, impatience, and self-centeredness, and how families can reclaim joy, peace, and connection through intentional, gradual change. This episode equips parents to lead tech conversations wisely, create family plans kids can buy into, and choose whom their household will truly serve.

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In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of flourishing in children and what drives their success in an ever-evolving world. Drawing insights from Sarah Hernholm's recent Forbes article, Dr. Kathy discusses how Gen Z is becoming the most entrepreneurial generation yet, with traditional preparation methods no longer sufficient. She highlights five essential skills that kids need to cultivate: entrepreneurial skills, AI literacy, public speaking and communication, real-world problem-solving, and financial literacy through practice. The conversation centers around how these skills can empower children to thrive in their future careers and contribute positively...

In this episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, the daily episode Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on parenting benchmarks and trends, especially the growing movement of "cycle-breaking parenting" among Gen Z moms and dads. Together, they unpack what it means to parent with both wisdom and grace, moving beyond negative family patterns without shaming past generations. Dr. Kathy shares practical insights on being unified as parents, balancing correction with encouragement, and raising kids who know their God-given strengths. Wayne connects these themes to Ezekiel 18, showing how Scripture reminds us that every generation c...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the profound impact of scripture on identity and personal growth. She reflects on the tendency many have to rely on their own problem-solving abilities rather than turning to prayer or the teachings of the Bible, especially when facing challenges as parents. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of embracing the truth of scripture to foster a deeper understanding of oneself and to experience the goodness of God. She also discusses insights from the American Bible Society's study, "The Eighth Chapter," which examines the state of the Bible in the...

How do we talk to kids about violence, fear, and brokenness without overwhelming them, or pretending it doesn't exist? In this Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents navigate hard conversations sparked by news, school lessons, and cultural realities. They explore how to give children real security (not just reassurance), how to recognize emotional "pressure points," and how to create healthy release valves for stress using the ways kids are uniquely wired. This episode equips parents to replace fear with faith, confusion with clarity, and isolation with connection—anchored in the hope and security fou...

In this Facing the Dark conversation, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender engage the growing concern around "sharenting," a term popularized by legal scholar Leah Plunkett to describe how parents and trusted adults share children's lives online. While often well-intentioned, constant posting can subtly communicate that a child's value lies in how they appear, how well they perform, or how much attention their moments generate.

Dr. Kathy explains how children can internalize the belief that they exist to make parents feel proud, connected, or validated. When everyday life becomes content, kids may begin to feel responsible for maintaining a...

Why do Scripture-engaged people report lower loneliness, anxiety, and despair? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack new research from the American Bible Society and explore why biblical truth forms a deeper, more secure identity than modern ideologies. Together, they examine how Scripture, identity, security, and the work of the Holy Spirit bring lasting belonging, resilience, and hope—for adults and for kids

How do parents support kids who've experienced stress without letting labels become their identity? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore post-traumatic stress, attention struggles, and the growing role of AI in diagnosis, while carefully distinguishing between understanding a child's challenges and defining a child by them. Together they explain why beliefs shape behavior, why labels should only be used when they lead to real help, and how parents can speak truth, hope, and resilience over kids who are working through pain. This episode equips families to listen longer, look beneath the surface, and walk...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore psychologist Mitch Prinstein's research on the two types of popularity—likability and status. Together, they discuss why likability leads to healthy belonging while status often leaves kids empty and isolated. Dr. Kathy connects these insights to her Five to Thrive model, showing how belonging shapes identity and why character qualities like compassion, faithfulness, and hospitality help kids form lasting friendships. Wayne ties it to the story of Jehoiada and young King Joash in 2 Chronicles 23, reminding parents that true belonging is found not in surface app...

What does it really mean for a child to be "successful"? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore research on sibling success and unpack why optimism, motivation, learning, coaching, and, most importantly, wisdom and resilience shape kids for long-term flourishing. Together, they challenge achievement-based definitions of success and offer a Christ-centered vision that emphasizes character, growth, and learning how to apply truth in everyday life

Is "dry texting" just efficient, or is it quietly shaping how kids learn to relate? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack the growing habit of one-word replies and minimal conversation, exploring how communication shortcuts can weaken relational skills, respect, and identity formation. Together they explain when brief responses are appropriate, when they're harmful, and how parents can intentionally model meaningful conversation at home. This episode equips families to help kids build empathy, curiosity, and confidence through real dialogue, both on screens and face to face.

Why are so many young adults trusting social media over doctors, and what does that mean for how kids form wisdom? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy examine new global research revealing Gen Z's growing reliance on peer-driven and influencer-based information. Together, they explore the difference between knowledge and wisdom, why algorithms reward immediacy over discernment, and how parents can teach kids to seek truth deeply rather than settle for the first answer. Rooted in Scripture and practical mentoring, this conversation equips families to help kids hunger for understanding, cultivate discernment, and pursue a truly f...

Should parents teach kids to be defiant? In this Facing the Dark episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy respond to a growing cultural narrative that suggests children need to practice defiance in order to become confident, assertive adults. Together they unpack the difference between healthy self-advocacy and arrogant rebellion, explaining why confidence doesn't come from saying "no" loudly, but from knowing when and how to speak with wisdom. Drawing on biblical insight, the Five Core Needs, and real parenting examples, this conversation helps parents guide kids toward courage, discernment, and self-efficacy rooted in truth, not impulse.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenge of entitlement in children and offers valuable strategies for parents. She begins by sharing her frustration with entitled behavior in her own kids and emphasizes the importance of helping children learn to tolerate frustration instead of removing it. Drawing from insights by Dr. Becky, she highlights the significance of acknowledging and validating children's feelings when they face challenges. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to resist the urge to immediately solve their kids' problems, allowing them the opportunity to wrestle with difficulties and develop resilience. Tune in for...

As Australia enacts sweeping social media restrictions for kids under 16, parents everywhere are asking the same question: Is limiting tech actually healthy, or just disruptive? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore what happens when screens are removed, why kids' intense reactions may signal dependence rather than harm, and how parents can lead tech fasts with wisdom, clarity, and confidence. Drawing from research, real family experience, and Scripture, this conversation reframes digital detox not as punishment, but as liberation—an opportunity to rebuild rhythms, restore relationships, and form character that lasts far beyond the sc...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses a concerning trend revealed in a recent HarperCollins survey from the UK, which shows a significant decline in the interest of parents reading aloud to their children. Less than half of parents of kids up to 13 find reading aloud fun, and only 29% of children aged 5 to 13 view reading as enjoyable rather than just a school subject. The episode highlights alarming statistics showing a decrease in literacy rates in the U.S., with nearly 28% of adults ranking at the lowest l

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) show up far more often than parents realize, sometimes through big, obvious events, and sometimes through subtle shifts in a child's behavior, mood, or habits. In today's Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy and Wayne unpack the latest research on ACEs, explore how parents can recognize early signs of struggle under their own roof, and offer practical ways to respond with wisdom, presence, and hope. They discuss how real resiliency develops—not through trauma, but through supported challenges, and how parents can guide, advocate, and walk with their kids through difficult seasons without fear. Full of cle...

Parents everywhere feel the December pressure: "What on earth do I buy my kids this year?" In today's Facing the Dark episode, Dr. Kathy and Wayne unpack the gift-giving stress that so many families carry, whether it's the hunt for the "perfect" present, or navigating Amazon wish lists, trying to understand what a nine-year-old even likes anymore is dynamic. Together, Dr. Kathy and Wayne explore how gifts can honor a child's identity, how the 8 Great Smarts can guide meaningful choices, and why experiences often build deeper belonging than toys ever could. With stories, humor, and deeply practical wisdom, this...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the importance of teaching children the purpose of boredom. Dr. Kathy discusses the challenges parents face when their kids experience boredom and the potential negative consequences, including the turn to substances as a coping mechanism. Dr. Kathy shares valuable insights on how fostering resilience in the face of boredom can help children navigate life's challenges. The conversation highlights recent research indicating that many teens now use vaping as a way to relax from stress, underscoring the need for healthier coping strategies. Tune in for practical advice on guiding...

In this episode of Raising Gender-Confident Kids, Wayne and Dr. Kathy dive into Chapter 5 of Raising Gender Confident Kids and explore how truth actually takes root in a child's heart. They unpack why identity grows through discipleship, why presence matters more than performance, and why kids don't just need information—they need formation. With stories, Scripture, psychology, and practical rhythms for daily family life, this episode equips parents to build secure attachment, model truth consistently, and disciple their kids toward deep, lasting confidence in who God created them to be.

When teens and college-age kids come home for the holidays, families often feel the tension between independence and connection. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack what's really happening in the brain during "emerging adulthood," why young adults come home exhausted, and how parents can welcome them without slipping back into old patterns. You'll learn how to set healthy expectations, reframe the transition with hope, and use each child's unique strengths, including their 8 Smarts, to build meaningful connections this holiday season. This episode brings clarity, grace, and practical wisdom for anyone navigating the in-between...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Wayne Stender discusses the vital role children play in today's society with Dr. Kathy, arguing against the notion that they are merely the church's future. He reflects on a meaningful conversation with his son about the purpose of kids in a family and within culture. This leads to deeper questions about how society perceives children—whether they are seen as participants in cultural building or simply as a legacy for the future. Dr.

Every parent knows the morning rush can swing from peaceful to chaotic in seconds. But new research suggests that what we do in those early minutes may shape much more than how fast we get out the door, it may shape our children's resilience, emotional stability, and sense of belonging.

In today's Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a study highlighting nine morning habits practiced by parents who raise happy, resilient kids. They unpack why connection matters more than control, how mornings imprint identity, and why some "chaotic kids" just think differently, not worse. With...

A groundbreaking brain study from Cambridge reveals that adolescence may last far longer than we once believed, stretching all the way into the early 30s. Today on Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack this research and explore what it means for parents raising kids in a confusing and fast-changing culture. They contrast chronological age with "character age," explain why maturity can't be rushed, and offer hope for parents who feel overwhelmed by their children's slow progress or surprising immaturity. Through Scripture, science, and practical encouragement, this episode reframes the expectations we place on our kids and helps p...

Reading scores are dropping across the country, and behind every statistic is a child trying to make sense of words, meaning, and identity. In today's episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack why reading matters so deeply, not just for academics but for confidence, identity, and a child's formation. They explore a Georgia district working to retrain teachers, explain why vocabulary and decoding are such obstacles today, and show parents simple, powerful ways to support struggling readers using the 8 Great Smarts. With wisdom from Scripture, especially the beautiful pattern in Acts 8, this episode gives parents practical...

Gender confusion doesn't begin in the body, it begins in the mind. And the way kids think is shaped by the worldview they're given. In today's episode of Raising Gender-Confident Kids, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack Chapter 4 of Raising Gender-Confident Kids and explain how worldview becomes the lens through which kids interpret reality, identity, feelings, and truth. They explore why kids need a worldview big enough to handle disappointment, how emotions can hijack decision-making, and why mentoring kids through the Five Core Needs builds clarity instead of confusion. Practical, deep, and hope-filled, this episode will help you guide your k...

Kids often build their Christmas lists from influencer recommendations, trending videos, and carefully curated feeds. But what if we used gift-giving to help kids feel truly seen—not just marketed to? In today's Facing in the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how parents can use this season to cultivate discernment, deepen connection, and choose gifts that strengthen identity rather than feed consumer pressure. You'll learn how to navigate social-media-driven wants, avoid gift-giving guilt, and lean into meaningful, memorable ways to bless your kids this Christmas.

Holiday gatherings can feel like a joyful reunion, or a pressure-filled performance. In this Thanksgiving episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack why kids struggle during big family events, how parents can prepare them beforehand, and what it looks like to approach the holidays with patience, curiosity, and a heart aimed at connection rather than perfection. You'll learn how to lower anxiety, handle family dynamics, create space for rest, and help kids feel secure as they reconnect with relatives they barely know.

Gratitude isn't just a holiday feeling, it's a way of seeing the world. In today's Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore why thankfulness is essential for a child's identity, maturity, and resilience. Drawing from Dr. Kathy's book Parent Differently, they unpack how gratitude protects against entitlement, strengthens character, deepens humility, and centers kids on God's goodness. Together they discuss how families can build rhythms that cultivate gratitude year-round, how remembering anchors identity, and why thankful hearts shine light into the dark places kids face today.

Before you hand your child their first device, consider this: tech boundaries aren't rules, they're love in action. In today's Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack why shared expectations around phones and screens help kids feel secure, valued, and connected. Drawing from the American Academy of Pediatrics, Dr. Kathy explains how a family media plan, and a "we, not you" mindset, creates clarity, prevents conflict, and protects character. They explore co-authoring agreements with kids, resetting tech habits when things have slipped, and why thoughtful shifts don't harm a child's security, they strengthen it. This h...

If our kids can ask a chatbot for every answer, what happens to their ability to think? To struggle? To wrestle with an idea long enough for it to shape them? Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch dig into the hidden cost of growing up in an AI-accelerated world. They explore research showing how automation is changing workplaces and may be changing the cognitive wiring of the next generation.

Wayne shares a classroom moment where students traded screens for paper and suddenly came alive, wrestling through ideas, searching for their own words, and discovering the power of s...

In this episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy examine the swirling headlines about a supposed "dramatic decline" in transgender identification. They reveal why the current data has major methodological issues, why some trends reverse when properly weighted, and why numbers—whether up or down—tell us nothing about a child's internal world. The heart of the episode centers on identity formation: how confusion takes root, why kids grasp for labels, and how cultural pendulums create whiplash for an already overwhelmed generation.

Dr. Kathy explains the five core needs (security, identity, belonging, purpose, competence) and shows how the identity need...

Books are disappearing from kids' lives, and so is something sacred. In this episode of Celebrate Kids: Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore startling new data showing that only 30% of eighth-graders read at or above proficiency, and that over 30% of teens hardly ever read for fun. Together, they unpack why reading has declined over the last 40 years and how technology has quietly taken its place. Dr. Kathy, whose Ph.D. is in reading and educational psychology, explains that kids don't just learn from books, they learn through them. Reading shapes imagination, memory, empathy, and ev...

What if the words we speak over our kids aren't just communication, but are actually creation? In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy tackle a new claim from psychologist Dr. Chelsea Haug-Zavaleta that children should receive 100 compliments a day to thrive emotionally. Dr. Kathy challenges the research, explaining that it's not about the number of compliments, it's about the ratio of affirmation to correction and the meaning behind our words. She offers practical insights for balancing affirmation with healthy boundaries, showing how kids form identity through the voices they trust most. Together, Wayne a...

Online platforms like Roblox promise fun, creativity, and connection, but for millions of kids, those promises are breaking. In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack the rise of digital gaming and the dangers hidden behind "safe" online play. From lawsuits and predatory risks to the loss of imagination, they contrast artificial worlds with the kind of real play God designed to shape hearts, build courage, and foster identity. Drawing on the story of David's childhood play and its role in forming his bravery, Dr. Kathy reminds us that kids don't just n...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Wayne reflects on the challenges and inefficiencies of parenting, particularly when trying to nurture a child's potential. He and Dr. Kathy discuss the importance of recognizing and encouraging a child's unique personality traits while acknowledging that parenting often involves navigating dark and inconvenient moments. The episode highlights a fascinating study from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology, which reveals that handwriting engages the entire brain, unlike typing. This insight serves as a reminder for parents to embrace less efficient, more meaningful interactions with their children. 

Why are more teens struggling with anxiety even though mental health resources have never been more abundant? In this episode, Dr. Kathy explains the unseen forces driving the rise in youth mental health challenges, from family fragmentation to identity pressure to cultural lies that amplify insecurity.

She breaks down why more kids are in counseling today, why increased services haven't solved the problem, and what actually helps kids build resilience. You'll learn how to speak hope into a child who feels overwhelmed. Dr. Kathy gives insight to call out strengths when mental health feels like a defining...

In this episode, we explore one of the most important—and overlooked—truths about modern parenting: kids model their screen habits after their parents. Drawing on new research, Dr. Kathy explains why parental phone use is the strongest predictor of a child's screen time and how small shifts in our habits can reshape the culture of our homes. We look at how to replace screen time with meaningful connection, why outdoor time matters (even for kids who aren't nature-loving), and how biblical principles from Ephesians 4 guide real, lasting change. This episode equips parents to lead with intention, break the tech...

How do we help kids open up about their day—really open up—so we can guide their hearts, not just manage their behavior? In today's episode, we explore why the classic parent question, "How was your day?" almost always leads to a dead end, and how we can replace it with questions that actually build connection, confidence, and identity.

Drawing from Dr. Kathy Koch's deep insight into child development, we look at why kids often shut down when they come home from school, what their silence might be telling us, and how timing, tone, and relational appr...

In a world where masculinity is politicized and femininity misunderstood, Dr. Kathy Koch reminds parents that flourishing isn't about control, it's about character. Considering a recent interview where California Governor Gavin Newsom raised concern at the growing number of men who are not following his political party, Dr. Kathy and Wayne make some parallels and comparisons to how some parents fall into a similar trap with their kids. Boys and girls thrive when they understand who they were created to be, delight in God's design, and use their strength to serve, and that's what we talk about in today's...

What happens when the world feels uncertain? From canceled flights to government shutdowns, kids are watching and wondering if they're safe. Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender talk about how parents can recognize insecurity in their children, help them rebuild trust, and anchor their hearts in the one thing that never changes—God's goodness and presence.

Are moms and dads interchangeable? Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack research showing how mothers and fathers each uniquely shape children's growth. From academic success to emotional stability, each role carries divine purpose. This episode reminds parents, mentors, and single caregivers that their influence isn't just important—it's irreplaceable.

What makes a child truly successful? Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack new research on sibling success and connect it to a biblical view of wisdom, resilience, and contentment. Discover why optimism isn't enough, how wisdom grows through struggle, and what it really means to "press on" toward the goal Christ has called us to.

Memorizing math facts is helpful—but without meaning, it's just noise. Dr. Kathy Koch unpacks the science behind fluency and confidence, while Wayne Stender reflects on how families can apply Deuteronomy 6 in education. Together they help parents see how curiosity, practice, and purpose create lifelong learners who love truth.

A new study reveals how marijuana use before age 15 can alter a child's mental health and sense of purpose. In this conversation, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore why teens chase short-term relief, how adrenaline and constant activity can mimic addiction, and how parents can help their kids pause, rest, and choose long-term wisdom over momentary thrill.

AI can replicate faces, voices, and personalities—but it can't duplicate the image of God. In this conversation, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore Denmark's bold new proposal to give citizens ownership of their likeness and what it means for parents raising kids in a world where identity can be digitally faked. Discover how to help children stay grounded in truth, not technology.

Embarrassment isn't failure, it's the birthplace of faith. Join Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender as they explore how God uses uncomfortable moments to strengthen kids. Discover how the 8 Great Smarts help children face challenges with creativity and confidence, and learn to celebrate the courage it takes to "step out of the boat."

Confusion about gender doesn't start with culture—it starts with unmet core needs. Dr. Kathy Koch joins Wayne Stender to explore how God designed children with five foundational needs that shape their confidence and faith. From bedtime routines to meaningful conversations, discover practical ways to disciple your kids toward identity, purpose, and peace in Christ.

Halloween can be full of confusion for Christian parents, with spooky decorations, dark themes, and cultural tension. Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender explore how to approach the holiday with grace, discernment, and purpose. Learn how knocking on doors and sharing candy can become an opportunity to teach kids about community, belonging, and being a light for Jesus in their neighborhood.

What makes kids successful? It's not grades or grit alone. In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch shares how true success is rooted in wisdom: applying truth, agreeing with God, and living with resilience and purpose.

Reading aloud to kids does far more than build vocabulary; it builds connection, confidence, and faith. In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch explains why reading is one of the most powerful tools parents have to shape hearts and minds.

In a world full of noise, distractions, and dopamine-triggering apps, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender talk about how parents can help kids rediscover the gift of focus — and why staying faithful to one task is an act of worship that builds character and identity.

New research shows a sharp decline in college students identifying as transgender. Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack what's behind the trend, why it's hopeful, and how parents can raise children anchored in God's truth instead of cultural confusion.

When stress hits, kids retreat to what feels safe, often a screen. In this conversation, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender help parents understand what kids are really searching for in gaming and how to reconnect them to God's design for competence, purpose, and belonging.

New research shows that early social media use lowers kids' reading, memory, and vocabulary, but that's not the only loss. In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how constant scrolling reshapes our children's ability to think, rest, and relate. Learn how to help your family unplug with purpose, restore focus through faith, and find joy in being fully present.

Is math just another school subject, or could it be a way to see God's order and beauty? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack the growing math crisis in schools and explore why numbers, patterns, and problem-solving matter for your child's confidence and faith. Discover how interest drives ability, and how teaching kids that math reflects God's design can help them approach learning with joy instead of fear.

As AI "friends" become more common, what are our kids really learning about friendship? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack Meta's new chatbot update and explore how true friendships form character, resilience, and faith. Learn how to help your kids value real people over artificial connection—and why Jesus' definition of friendship changes everything.

When does helping someone cross the line from compassion into condescension? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack a viral Supreme Court moment that raises tough questions about empathy, equality, and how we treat others. Learn how to teach your kids the difference between pity and Christ-like compassion—and how true love restores dignity instead of diminishing it.

What if our culture's obsession with happiness is actually making our kids less happy? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack why chasing happiness leads to emptiness and how teaching contentment, gratitude, and respect helps kids develop real joy. Learn how to guide your children through sadness and disappointment so they can grow strong, wise, and anchored in faith.

What if gratitude isn't just good manners, but the foundation of mental health and spiritual maturity? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how gratitude shapes a child's character, rewires family culture, and builds resilience in tough times. Learn how to nurture a thankful heart in your home through conversation, creativity, and Christ-centered habits.

In a world where social media normalizes labels, more kids are turning to self-diagnosis to make sense of their struggles. Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack why this happens, how labels can both help and harm, and how parents can respond with curiosity, compassion, and truth. Learn how faith, relationship, and guidance help kids find their identity in who God says they are—not in a diagnosis.

Why are so many kids anxious, lonely, and unsure of who they are? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack new research showing that a loss of play and independence is leaving kids less creative, more fearful, and increasingly depressed. Learn how restoring freedom, purpose, and connection through Dr. Kathy's Five to Thrive model can help kids rediscover joy, confidence, and identity in Christ.

How do we talk to our kids about the hard things they see in the news without overwhelming them? In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how parents can help children process violence, fear, and brokenness with truth and hope. Learn how creativity, compassion, and Christ-centered security can become release valves for kids' anxiety in a world that often feels heavy.

In this episode of the Raising Gender Confident Kids podcast, hosts Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy delve into the roots of radical gender ideology, exploring how postmodern thinking and the concepts of "your truth" versus "my truth" contribute to today's confusion surrounding gender identity. They discuss the importance of understanding these philosophical underpinnings and how they impact identity formation, particularly in children. The conversation builds on insights from the book "Raising Gender Confident Kids," providing listeners with valuable context and strategies for navigating these complex issues. Join them for an enlightening discussion that aims to equip families with the...

Our kids are tired, but not just from sports or school. In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender unpack how smartphones are quietly stealing sleep, peace, and purpose from our children. Learn how constant connection leads to exhaustion and anxiety, and how reclaiming rest can restore focus, joy, and faith in your home.

When truth becomes optional, courage becomes essential. In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender unpack a Supreme Court case surrounding Christian counselor Kaley Childs and explore what it means to raise kids who stand firm in truth with grace. Discover how lies breed anxiety and confusion, but truth, spoken with love, restores peace, identity, and confidence in who God made us to be.

When culture celebrates what's loud instead of what's true, families can feel out of sync. In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender talk about why moments like the Super Bowl, concerts, and national holidays shape kids' identity and belonging more than we realize, and how Christian parents can reclaim these cultural rhythms to point kids back to Christ. Discover how faith-filled families can celebrate with joy, think critically, and bring light into the dark corners of culture.

When was the last time you looked around a room full of kids and saw every face lit—not by screens—but by conversation and curiosity? Across the country, more schools are going device-free, and something amazing is happening: kids are becoming more attentive, more engaged, and more confident.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender unpack what's really going on when we unplug. Dr. Kathy explains that technology, while useful, can condition children to expect life to be easy—and when challenges come, they give up too soon. True resilience, she sa...

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch tackle a question many parents quietly wrestle with: Can we really afford to raise kids in today's world? Drawing from both research and real-life experience, they unpack the financial realities of family life and explore what it means to trust God's calling over cultural caution.

Dr. Kathy emphasizes that parenting isn't just a financial decision, it's a spiritual one. She encourages parents to seek the Lord's guidance when considering children, to embrace sacrifice with joy, and to celebrate kids as image bearers, not economic...

In this episode of the Raising Gender Confident Kids podcast, hosts Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy delve into the roots of radical gender ideology, exploring how postmodern thinking and the concepts of "your truth" versus "my truth" contribute to today's confusion surrounding gender identity. They discuss the importance of understanding these philosophical underpinnings and how they impact identity formation, particularly in children. The conversation builds on insights from the book "Raising Gender Confident Kids," providing listeners with valuable context and strategies for navigating these complex issues. Join them for an enlightening discussion that aims to equip families with the...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore psychologist Mitch Prinstein's research on the two types of popularity—likability and status. Together, they discuss why likability leads to healthy belonging while status often leaves kids empty and isolated. Dr. Kathy connects these insights to her Five to Thrive model, showing how belonging shapes identity and why character qualities like compassion, faithfulness, and hospitality help kids form lasting friendships. Wayne ties it to the story of Jehoiada and young King Joash in 2 Chronicles 23, reminding parents that true belonging is found not in surface ap...

In this episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, the daily episode Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on parenting benchmarks and trends, especially the growing movement of "cycle-breaking parenting" among Gen Z moms and dads. Together, they unpack what it means to parent with both wisdom and grace, moving beyond negative family patterns without shaming past generations. Dr. Kathy shares practical insights on being unified as parents, balancing correction with encouragement, and raising kids who know their God-given strengths. Wayne connects these themes to Ezekiel 18, showing how Scripture reminds us that every generation...

Today on the Celebrate Kids Podcast Dr. Kathy reflects on a new study that highlights that young men and boys don't feel as comfortable sharing their feelings and mental health struggles with their friends. Dr. Kathy gives perspective on why boys pause, and how to walk our kids into a place where they feel encouraged and supported so they share naturally. 

Today on the Celebrate Kids Podcast, Dr. Kathy Koch considers a new study from the Netherlands that highlights how young people grow out of gender confusion as they age and mature. She references insights from Glenn Stanton, who notes that kids will identify with their biological gender if reinforced as they mature. Dr. Kathy gives important insights to parents as we prepare to field questions from kids who will likely experience dissatisfaction in their body at some point, and may experience confusion because of the influence of culture.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the recent National Assessment of Education Progress (NAEP) report, often referred to as the nation's report card. The findings reveal that high school seniors are experiencing a significant decline in math and reading skills, with scores reaching historic lows. 12th graders have recorded the weakest performance since the assessment began. Dr. Kathy raises important questions about whether current educational assessments are outdated, considering the advancements in technology such as computers and AI that have emerged since the assessment's inception in 1992. The discussion prompts listeners to reflect on...

In this episode of the Raising Gender Confident Kids podcast, hosts Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch delve into the origins of radical gender ideology and its rapid influence on culture, particularly among youth. They discuss the alarming trend of rapid-onset gender dysphoria, especially in girls, and highlight the role of online communities in shaping these experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of being cautious about children's online interactions and critiques the ideological forces perceived as driving these changes. Tune in for an insightful exploration of a pressing issue that affects families today.

In today's episode Wayne asks Dr. Kathy to comment on the rise in sports gambling. The practice has become mainstream in sports and Wayne believes it is wrecking the beauty of what sports does in culture by making athletics self-centered and removing the character forming disciplines to push kids to cheat. Dr. Kathy has great insights on what gambling does and why we need to protect sports from it.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the foundation of great social skills in children, emphasizing that these skills are developed through everyday interactions at home rather than just memorizing phrases. Drawing on research of a study of over 200 parent-child relationships, Dr. Kathy highlights the importance of emotional safety and authentic connection in fostering communication. She outlines nine key practices parents can adopt to build exceptional social skills in their children, including openly discussing feelings, modeling empathy, fostering authentic confidence, and helping kids recognize social cues. Tune in to discover how these strategies can make...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy dives into the topic of GLP-1 medications, which have recently gained attention for their use in managing obesity and type 2 diabetes in children and adolescents. She discusses how these injectable drugs, like Wegovy and Victoza, enhance feelings of fullness and reduce appetite to mimick self-control. Dr. Kathy uses this topic to engage how we can teach character, self-control, and have a posture of support for our kids as they face things like obesity and a culture that pushes them to quick-fixes for big problems.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy emphasize the critical roles boys and young men need to embody as sages, explorers, servants, warriors, and husbands. The discussion is sparked by recent events, including the assassination of their friend Charlie Kirk, and touches on the perceived crisis among young men exacerbated by the COVID pandemic and cultural shifts. Dr. Kathy advocates for a holistic understanding of masculinity that balances strength with servitude, aiming to inspire resilience and growth in the younger generation. Tune in to explore these vital themes and learn how we...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the challenges faced by today's youth, who often grapple with the pressures of hyperproductivity and the quest for perfection. She emphasizes the importance of helping children build their identity in Christ rather than solely focusing on their achievements. The discussion highlights the need for parents to recognize and celebrate their children's qualities, such as loyalty and confidence, and to be mindful of the potential dark places that the pursuit of being the best can lead both teens and parents. With insights from researchers at the Harvard Graduate...

In this episode of the Raising Gender-Confident Kids podcast, hosts Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy delve into the crucial foundations of identity and competence in children. They discuss how a strong sense of security and belonging helps children navigate failures without shame, enabling them to embrace mistakes as part of their growth. The conversation highlights the importance of affirming messages such as "I am loved" and "I can do hard things." Additionally, Wayne and Kathy reflect on their experiences writing a book on this timely topic, emphasizing the relevance of their discussions on spiritual lostness and cultural counterfeits in...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the findings of a recent global survey by Edelman, revealing that 45% of young people, particularly from Gen Z (aged 18-34), tend to ignore medical advice from professionals in favor of insights shared by friends and social media influencers. The survey highlights a significant trend where 38% of respondents reject doctors' recommendations, influenced by a growing movement of "crunchy teens" who prioritize wellness and often share questionable health theories online. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of teaching children to seek deeper understanding and critical thinking rather than settling for surface-level...

In the wake of Jimmy Kimmel and other inconsiderate responses to the assassination of Charlie Kirk, Dr. Kathy unpacks why we need to celebrate and encourage politenenss and manners. She considers this through a growing movement in culture for kids to be more authentic than kind, which she references through a recent article co-host Wayne Stender stumbled across this week. It's part of the cultural mood away from civility to self-centeredness, and Dr. Kathy notes that parents have the primary role in reforming culture and civilization by teaching manners at home.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the impact of well-designed homework on student learning. She discusses recent research that shows that upper-grade students can gain approximately five extra months of progress in subjects like math and English through effectively structured homework. In contrast, primary school students benefit less, gaining around three months of additional educational value. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of engaging homework to avoid boredom and frustration, encouraging parents to consider discussing their children's assignments with teachers if they find them unengaging. Tune in to learn more about how homework can effectively...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the dynamics of obedience and behavior in children and teenagers. Drawing on recent research from U.S. and Israeli studies, she discusses how the authenticity of parents' values heavily influences the effectiveness of parental warnings. When parents model their values consistently and appear genuinely satisfied, their guidance is more likely to be respected by teenagers. However, inconsistencies can lead to feelings of control, resulting in defiance. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of building a loving relationship with children, noting that while authentic parenting can reduce defiance, it may...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, "Facing the Dark," Dr. Kathy addresses the troubling rise of violence and graphic content on social media, particularly recently in how kids have experienced reporting of the Charlie Kirk assassination. She emphasizes the importance of guiding children to process tragedy in how we're smart, and then to seek God's call on their lives in the face of tragedy. Dr. Kathy and Wayne engage this topic in response to a listener's inquiry about how to discuss the impact of such events with their kids, highlighting the need for open communication and spiritual...

In today's edition of the Celebrate Kids Podcast, the weekly episode of Raising Gender-Confident Kids, Dr. Kathy guides parents to helpful understandings to call gender dysphoria what it is, a disorder. And she gives helpful guidance to reorient kids to a rightly ordered view of themselves and their gender in light of how God made them and who He is calling them to be.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the generational differences in patience and the impact of artificial intelligence on adolescent brain development. She highlights how older generations have a default of patience, having been raised in an era where waiting was the norm, while younger generations often expect instant gratification. Dr. Kathy dives into concerns surrounding the adolescent brain, particularly the development of the prefrontal cortex during these formative years, and how AI may be influencing this process. She raises critical questions about the potential for AI to serve as a "prosthetic for thinking," possibly...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast's segment "Facing the Dark," Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender discuss the tragic assassination of Charlie Kirk, a prominent figure and hero to many young people, including the hosts' own children. They reflect on Kirk's impact as an advocate for education and his deep love for Jesus and kids, highlighting his commitment to helping youth understand their beliefs and values. They share their personal feelings of sadness and the importance of honoring Kirk's legacy of caring for children and promoting a culture of thoughtful engagement. This episode serves as a poignant reminder...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of flourishing in children and what drives their success in an ever-evolving world. Drawing insights from Sarah Hernholm's recent Forbes article, Dr. Kathy discusses how Gen Z is becoming the most entrepreneurial generation yet, with traditional preparation methods no longer sufficient. She highlights five essential skills that kids need to cultivate: entrepreneurial skills, AI literacy, public speaking and communication, real-world problem-solving, and financial literacy through practice. The conversation centers around how these skills can empower children to thrive in their future careers and contribute positively...

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concerning impact of TikTok and other social media platforms on young users' mental health. Drawing from insights from current and former employees who have raised alarms about the app's popularity algorithm, Dr. Kathy discusses how these platforms may lead children to develop a narrow identity, focusing on specific interests or influencers that can limit their personal growth. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding the unseen influences at play and the potential harm to children's mental well-being in a digital age where the reality of their...

In this episode, Dr. Kathy Koch discusses the importance of recognizing and nurturing the different types of intelligences in children, particularly focusing on "word smart" kids. Dr. Koch explains how children who excel in verbal skills tend to find school more approachable, as it heavily involves talking, reading, writing, and listening. She highlights the potential anxiety that other children may experience in school if they do not feel competent or smart in these areas. The episode also emphasizes the significance of providing diverse learning experiences to help all children thrive. Additionally, Wayne shares a special message about the art...

In this episode of "Raising Gender Confident Kids," hosts Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch continue their exploration of the book written by Dr. Kathy and Jeff Myers. They dive into the second cause of gender confusion: cultural counterfeits. Building on the previous discussion about spiritual lostness and identity amnesia, the conversation highlights the importance of understanding identity dysphoria and its impact on children today. With an emphasis on modeling lifelong learning for kids, Dr. Kathy encourages parents to engage with their children in meaningful discussions about faith and identity, reinforcing the idea that it's never too late or...